What do you do?

[twiney]

Family member living with you shows all the signs of depression or some other mental health issue. You encourage till you get them to finally go to the doctor (with the hope that they will get a referral to a psychologist) bam same so the doc say. Person is young adult male so you cant force him to do anything tell the doc him don't think him need that and don't take the referral what should the relative who feeding and clothing him and providing a roof over him head and paying for his education.

[sistactry]

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dyaam Twiney. is a adult, and not only dat, but if de person no waan help, wha can u do,

maybe try talking to someone like his mom, grandmother?? somebody he trust?
or maybe try talking to him again, mek him know that sometimes everybody needs someone to talk to other than a family member or friend

maybe him fraid dem a go lock him up, dis sad

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">what should the relative who feeding and clothing him and providing a roof over him head and paying for his education. </div></div>

. Find a psychologist and have the caretaker and the young man go for help. Also for the caretakers benefit, go to the psychologist to learn strategies to encourage and/or find ways to deal with him while under the care of the caretaker

[twiney]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">what should the relative who feeding and clothing him and providing a roof over him head and paying for his education. </div></div>

. Find a psychologist and have the caretaker and the young man go for help. Also for the caretakers benefit, go to the psychologist to learn strategies to encourage and/or find ways to deal with him while under the care of the caretaker </div></div>

That is what she wants to do but for one he went to the doc when he knew she couldn't come or she would have sent him right back in to take the referral. She is going to see her doc for advice and she said the only money she will spend right now is to send him back to him yaad unless him get help. He seems determined to lock her out.

[twiney]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SistaCtry</div><div class="ubbcode-body">dyaam Twiney. is a adult, and not only dat, but if de person no waan help, wha can u do,

maybe try talking to someone like his mom, grandmother?? somebody he trust?
or maybe try talking to him again, mek him know that sometimes everybody needs someone to talk to other than a family member or friend

maybe him fraid dem a go lock him up, dis sad </div></div>

The mother tell her to figure it out!

[Peasie]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Twiney</div><div class="ubbcode-body">... and paying for his education. </div></div>

So he's going to school? Perhaps your relative or his guardian could go to the school, express their concerns, and ask for advice. Many schools - high school, community college, university - offer counseling and referral services that he might be more comfortable with.

Good luck

[DearK]

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The short answer is leave the door open for when the young adult is ready. If there's concern for self-harm, then he may need to be involuntarily assessed and stabilized, but barring that- this might just be a brief phase of adjustment (what's new? Sch, loss of friends, too much pressure re . One good thing is he's still attending sch! Celebrate the positives and be a willing ear when he's talking.

Did u say how the depression is manifesting?

[twiney]

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no school right but so far she has paid for at least 4 and him no finish even 1

[FrenchTickla]

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him need an ultimatum

[CyberPhobic]

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<span style="font-weight: bold">What do you do? </span>

Commit dem? A dat mi hooda do for if dem nuh seek help, tings can get ugly.

Mi nuh pet nor powdah wen it comes tuh dese tings.