Another word about redflag relationships..

[julie*mango]

Never wanted to mash up Boopie's thread but right now I am witnessing the personal tragedy of a family acquaintaince who lost her son after her husband whom she recently filed for, murdered the boy and left his body in his car trunk and abandoned the vehicle in another town.

This woman was warned by her friends and relatives not to marry the guy because he was a jealous, abusive person who only wanted to use her to get his papers and to pay his way. She cut off alot of relationships with family and friends because of this. He hated the closeness she had with her son and hated when the son would defend his mother. He demonstrated violent behavior over a period of time and finally the mother got the message that it was time to let him go, unfortunately it was too late.

The son was severely disfigured that the funeral director was unable to reconstruct his face and everyone is pleading with the mother to not see the body. It is a quite tragic time, the service is Thursday and I just cannot bring myself to go. I know the mother must be saying to herself now, "if only...". Such a heavy price to pay for "love".



<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">WINDSOR -- The stepfather of a local teenager who was found stabbed to death in the trunk of a car earlier this week in Hartford was charged with murder in the youth's death as part of an escalating domestic feud, police said Friday night.

Calvert S. Wray, 38, of Windsor was charged with capital felony and felony murder Friday after police said they had developed "significant" evidence linking Wray to the stabbing death of 18-year-old Clinton "Junior" Cooke.

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Windsor police Capt. Tom LePore said Wray was booked after being questioned by detectives at town police headquarters. LePore declined to say if Wray confessed to the crime, but described him as "agreeable" and "cooperative" during questioning. Wray was being held Friday night on $1 million bail and is scheduled to appear Monday at Superior Court in Enfield.

Wray's arrest came one week after Windsor police charged him with threatening in connection with a domestic violence complaint at the home of Cooke and his mother, Maxine Wray. She filed for divorce from Calvert Wray the day before the arrest, records show. A restraining order was also issued against Calvert Wray in the days before Cooke was killed, records show.

LePore said detectives believe Wray went to Maxine Wray's home and confronted Cooke about 4:30 a.m. Monday as the boy was getting ready to go to work. Wray then beat and stabbed the boy and dumped his body in the trunk of the youth's 2003 Honda Accord, LePore said.

From there, Wray drove the Accord to a driveway in Hartford, where he left the car with the boy's body in the trunk and apparently walked back to Windsor, LePore said. The body was discovered the next day when the car was towed to an auto storage facility, where an employee noticed blood smeared on the trunk and called police.

LePore said police believe Wray carried out the killing in connection with the domestic strife that had been taking place within the family, but declined to elaborate. The Wrays were married in Hartford last September, according to a license in the town clerk's office in Windsor.

http://www.courant.com/news/local/hc...mostviewedlink </div></div>

[julie*mango]

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'He said I loved Clinton more than him': As stepfather is arraigned in slaying of Windsor teen, mother offers possible reason for killing
By: Lee Sawyer, Journal Inquirer
04/17/2007
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When Maxine Roberts needed someone to talk to, Clinton "Junior" Cooke, her youngest son, was always there.
"I could rely on him. He was one in a million," the Windsor mother says.




With two responsible sons - Cooke, 18, and Anthony Roberts, 25 - the only thing missing in the family equation was a husband, she thought. Her sons didn't need a "father figure," just a good "man of the house" who could take that burden off her children, especially Cooke.
"I said, 'One day I'll find somebody you can look up to,'" she remembers telling them.
It was that man, Calvert Sean Wray, 38, whom Maxine Roberts married in Hartford last Sept. 22 who stands accused of murdering Cooke last week, according to Windsor police.
Cooke had been missing since Monday, April 9, the day police believe he was attacked by Wray outside the family's home at 145 Park Ave. in Windsor as Cooke was leaving at 4:30 a.m. to go to the Target store in New Britain where he worked.
Cooke was stabbed and beaten and put in trunk of his car, which Wray then drove into the north end of Hartford, abandoning it before walking back to Windsor, police said. The car was found there on Tuesday, with Cooke dead in the trunk, police said.
Wray, who turned himself in at Windsor police headquarters Friday night, was arraigned in Enfield Superior Court on Monday. He is charged with felony murder and capital felony in Cooke's slaying.
Bond raised to $2 million
Judge Richard Dyer doubled Wray's bond to $2 million and transferred the case to Hartford Superior Court, which deals with more serious crimes. Wray is scheduled to appear in court there on April 24.
Meanwhile, Wray is being held in pretrial detention at the Hartford Correctional Center.
During arraignment proceedings Maxine sat in the spectator section of the courtroom, surrounded by a dozen family and friends.
It was at a friend's wedding two years ago that Maxine Roberts met Calvert Sean Wray, a polite, well-spoken man from Jamaica who impressed her. They corresponded after Wray returned to Jamaica, and that led to him applying for a visa to come to the U.S., Maxine's purchase of a new home on Park Avenue in Windsor, and eventually their attendance at another wedding last September - their own.
For James Elwood Jr., a neighbor of the couple's on Park Avenue, nothing about the slim, mild-mannered Wray troubled him. To the contrary, Elwood thought Wray was quite a gentlemen.
Elwood met Wray at a neighborhood barbecue last summer. Wray introduced himself using his middle name, Sean, and said he'd just moved in to the 145 Park Ave. home with Maxine.
He was at the barbecue with Maxine's older son, Anthony, and chatted comfortably with guests, Elwood recalls. He was impressed, and welcomed him to the neighborhood.
"He was just this unassuming gentleman, very polite," Elwood says.
After Wray and Roberts were married, Elwood saw Wray again in early December. It was then that Wray told him how much he was looking forward to a New England Christmas, Elwood says. The two also traded tips on holiday decorating.
To Elwood, all seemed well at the Wrays' home across the street. It was quiet. No loud music. No parties. He thought they were good neighbors.
But inside the house, nestled on the corner of Park Avenue and Salem Circle, the fairytale was gradually falling apart, according to Maxine. Her new husband was growing pensive, unpredictable, even cruel, she says.
'...it started with little things'
"With him it started with little things. Things that never made any sense," she recalls. "Little complaints, but they were lies. He said I loved Clinton more than him. But I loved him just like a wife should. What more can I do?"
Money problems also sprang up, and Maxine accused her husband of failing to provide adequate support for the family.
All the while, she says, her husband's abusive behavior escalated, going from taunting and wild accusations to threats of violence and physical abuse.
"I want to avoid reliving the nightmare," she says when asked for the details of what exactly was happening in the last few months.
Despite her growing desperation, she shielded her sons from the strife, hoping not to burden them, or worse, draw them into a confrontation with Wray, she says.
"I just kept them out of it because I didn't want them to get into any trouble," she says. "I didn't want the police to arrest them because they tried to protect me, so I didn't tell them anything."
After deciding that a separation with Wray was necessary and inevitable, she asked Hartford Superior Court Judge Jorge A. Simon for a restraining order that would force Wray out of the home.
In her petition, dated March 29, she wrote that Wray's threats and physical and mental abuse had made her living conditions "inhumane and unbearable."
The judge refused the request.
"Denied. Allegations do not substantiate need for restraining order," according to the judge's order in the file.
Wray's wife filed for divorce
She filed for divorce in Hartford court a week later, on April 5. In her filing, she did not seek alimony. She did want her name back. She would change her name from Wray to Roberts.
The next day, Friday, April 6, Wray was arrested at the couple's home, accused of threatening Maxine, police said. He was charged with threatening and disorderly conduct, and police confiscated a box cutter, police said.
Wray later posted a $2,000 bond and was released, with a scheduled appearance in Enfield court the following Monday, April 9. It was on that Monday, just hours before he was to appear in court, that Wray would attack Cooke outside the family's home at 4:30 a.m., inflicting injuries that proved fatal, police said.
When Wray later appeared in court that day in the threatening case, Dyer issued a full protective order, barring him from the Windsor home he shared with Maxine. The judge ordered him to have no contact with Maxine until the case was resolved.
Cooke, a 2006 graduate of Hartford's A. I. Prince Technical High School, was the last person in world who deserved Wray's wrath, Maxine says.
In fact, Cooke was respectful to Wray, and the only way she can figure it, Wray attacked him to punish her, she says.
'He wanted to hurt me ...'
"He wanted to hurt me because (Clinton) was my right hand. He was the one who would take over that role," she says.
Cooke was also a bright, ambitious young man with a vision of how he wanted to live his life.
"He had a goal. He said 'Mom, I'm going to do good in my life.' He saw kids who would talk about dropping out of school, and he would encourage them to stay," she says.
He volunteered at a pair of Hartford area Boys and Girls Clubs, and was a role model for the younger children to look up to.
He was training to drive big rigs, a career he saw as his ticket to adventure and a steady income, she says.
"He was so grown for his age, so mature," she says.
Cooke also had many, many friends, evident by the explosion of tributes on his peers' MySpace.com pages on the Internet.
But police say that in a fit of rage, Wray slashed and bludgeoned Cooke, stuffed his body in the trunk of Cooke's own car, and drove to the north end of Hartford, abandoning it.
It took police a day to find the body, and two more days to identify it. All in all, Wray's arrest on Friday, April 14 represented a swift murder investigation. Windsor police hailed the cooperation with Hartford authorities, and thanked the family for their help.
But the ordeal is far from over for Maxine, who now will see her estranged husband face capital murder charges that could result in the death penalty. And, for the record, she wants him punished "to the full, maximum, penalty of the law," she says.
Elwood still can't fathom the anger it must have taken to carry out the attack on Cooke.
"The amount of rage someone must have had to carry this out - it's shocking," he says. "And to think, my last conversation with him was about the reindeer for his Christmas display - it's very surreal."
The funeral service for Cooke will be held Thursday, April 19, at noon at the Fuqua Funeral Service Chapel, 94 Granby St. Bloomfield, with a calling hour at 11 a.m. that day. Burial will be in Mount View Cemetery in Bloomfield.

http://www.journalinquirer.com/site/news.cfm?newsid=18221128&BRD=985&PAG=461&dept_id=161556&rfi=6

[Boopie2]

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Man, Skells this is just too much. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70384-praying.gif[/img] It seems like a pattern these guys set. They make up things and try and turn things around like you're the one doing wrong. My friend has finally told her husband's family that he choked her in front of their kids. His family is behind her 100%. Now he's throwing up in her face why is she telling his family their business. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img]

When I went over to check on her and the kids the first thing I saw was a torch sitting in the hall way. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] Right away I got sick to the stomach thinking if he went off again he could use it on her or the kids. She said it was from his job but I'm on pins and needles these days people are too freaking crazy. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70384-praying.gif[/img]

[julie*mango]

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Too sad...I hope this man rots in hell... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad.gif[/img]

[Derek]

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Cho... dis tapic ya too heavy...

[Boopie2]

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This shouldn't come as a suprise, most women who bring men into their children's lives end up being molested. Some will date the mother having underlying intentions of getting close to the young child. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img]

[julie*mango]

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I was wondering to myself how that judge feels now about denying the restraining order. Wonder if him feel a sense of responsibility for the young man's death. Then again dem high society people nuh care bout di darker lower society folks so I guess not...

[ZaraJah]

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This truly broke my heart. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Despite her growing desperation, she shielded her sons from the strife, hoping not to burden them, or worse, draw them into a confrontation with Wray, she says.
"I just kept them out of it because I didn't want them to get into any trouble," she says. "I didn't want the police to arrest them because they tried to protect me, so I didn't tell them anything."</div></div>

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How many women make the decision to keep the information hidden just because the system is so threatening to the victims? This woman was only trying to protect her sons, not only from this jerk from hell, but also the system that is meant to protect her and her sons.

[UKBlackLady]

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Jesus... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

[Boopie2]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly_no_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I was wondering to myself how that judge feels now about denying the restraining order. Wonder if him feel a sense of responsibility for the young man's death. Then again dem high society people nuh care bout di darker lower society folks so I guess not... </div></div>


Most people that do take out restraining orders say it doesn't work anyway. We had a woman here who took out one on her boyfriend. He came and poured gas on her and set her on fire. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70361-embarassed.gif[/img] So many people get killed with filing those papers so I don't think a piece of paper will do anything.

[Fyah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly_no_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I was wondering to myself how that judge feels now about denying the restraining order. Wonder if him feel a sense of responsibility for the young man's death. Then again dem high society people nuh care bout di darker lower society folks so I guess not... </div></div>


Most people that do take out restraining orders say it doesn't work anyway. We had a woman here who took out one on her boyfriend. He came and poured gas on her and set her on fire. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70361-embarassed.gif[/img] So many people get killed with filing those papers so I don't think a piece of paper will do anything. </div></div>

That is why I tell my husband and all of my friends that they shouldn't expect me to follow any protocol and take out any restraining order on anyone who lose their natural mind on me...

My plan is to take THEM out. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad.gif[/img]

[julie*mango]

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Now my SIL told me that she went to visit the mother today and Maxine was upset because her father accused her of killing his grandson...I know she feels responsible but what a terrible thing to say to a grieving mother. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]