Re: For KIA: White Women/White Men
The idea that a black woman should care so strongly and deeply about a perceived standard of beauty for white women angers me more than it saddens me. Rejection hurts, and being rejected for my appearance irks me more, simply because the man could not be bothered to know me. But I have rejected men based solely on appearance myself. It is wrong, and I do it too.
Whenever a woman goes up against some ideal physical self, she will suffer. Why rage against a myth? If I am overlooked by a white man because he does not like my lips, my tits, my hair, or my thighs, why should I care? I have been rejected by black men for the same. I would never want a man who loves me primarily for my looks. A man who loves the myth of the ideal physical self is an arse. And I would rather be by myself than be with an arse.
The idea that a black woman should care so strongly and deeply about a perceived standard of beauty for white women angers me more than it saddens me. Rejection hurts, and being rejected for my appearance irks me more, simply because the man could not be bothered to know me. But I have rejected men based solely on appearance myself. It is wrong, and I do it too.
Whenever a woman goes up against some ideal physical self, she will suffer. Why rage against a myth? If I am overlooked by a white man because he does not like my lips, my tits, my hair, or my thighs, why should I care? I have been rejected by black men for the same. I would never want a man who loves me primarily for my looks. A man who loves the myth of the ideal physical self is an arse. And I would rather be by myself than be with an arse.
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