Lawks

[Gen]

Re: Lawks

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yuh sure a me yuh sen ie to? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img] </div></div>

yes [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

mi try again

[SOPHBOPH]

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Let the land stay for a future time when you are better able to deal with it financially. Building a house in JA is a whole nedda stress to consider, wuss if yuh nuh have di money fi spen. Better yuh get a job yuh love and live where yuh hate because you spend more time at work. What would you hate about the area though, is it the houses or traffic or what?

[Nunya]

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I've lived in Toronto before. And I find living there to be too stressful. Mi love peace and quiet. Prolly anathema to rhatid... at least the areas that we can afford...

[BoundBrook]

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Nunya, I would like to share some of my recent experiences with you.

Everyone knows I was having a hard time at my last job, but more than that I had been miserable working in the field that I was in. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img] It didn't seem to matter what capacity I was working in, as long as it was the same field I was unhappy. I have had 3 jobs in the last 2 years, bouncing around trying to find the best fit for me. At first I thought it was my commute that made me so unhappy, I found a job closer to home. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img] Then it was being in an office all day that was killing me, I took a job in sales so I could be out on appointments most of the day. Then I realized I was just plain out unhappy. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img] I recently realized that as long as I continued doing what I knew wasn't my "destiny or my calling" I would never be happy.

At the same time these realizations were coming to light, a very very very close friend of mine was diagnosed with a terminal illness. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70361-embarassed.gif[/img] It has been one of the hardest things for me to deal with. As a matter of fact, her viewing is tonight, the funeral is Saturday. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img] It is sad that it takes something so severe and tragic to force us to take a look at our own lives and happiness.

I quit my job last December, with nothing else lined up. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] It has been scary and awful. It has caused me a constant source of nausea and uneasiness. But what has my alternative been? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] Stay where I knew I was dying a slow spiritual death? Sure I could continue to bounce around within my industry and continue to climb the corporate ladder while making more and more money but I don’t think I would ever have been happy. More over, Red wouldn’t have been happy b/c all I would do is continue to complain about the line of work I was in. How unfulfilling it was…. It was terrifying to leave my job with nothing lined up but I did it on purpose.

I have since taken time to reflect on what brings me joy in life, where I want to live, and what I want to be doing for a living. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] In taking the time to do so, some pretty amazing things have happened for me. I have had more time to write, something I thoroughly enjoy doing, and even been published and asked to perform some of my spoken word poetry locally. I was cast in a play, in a leading role, another hobby that I really really enjoy. Just this week I was hired as an acting teacher at a prominent acting school in the Washington DC area. I will be able to write my own curriculum and help numerous students pursue their dreams of commercial, film, and stage acting. I have made plans to go back to school and get a PhD in Global Health, so that I can eventually live and work overseas doing research and educating. I start the program in the Fall. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, I have to find a way to pay for the private university that I am going to attend. It will be difficult to change lifestyles and live off of Red’s salary alone while I work part time teaching. But for the first time in my life, I am happy. I am so very happy I wake up singing and other corny stuff like that.

If I hadn’t just taken the plunge, gotten rid of the source of negativity and unhappiness in my life, I would have never made room for all of the wonderful things that have been happening to me and for me.

I encourage everyone to do the same.

I know this isn't exactly related to what you are asking. I know you situation is different b/c you have a child to think about. The bottom line is the same, don't wait to live your life and do what you really want to do.

[MarieK]

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Boundbrook tell har fi mi deh because a few times mi menshan seh she sudda did venture into writing.

I remember years ago BEFORE I even joined the board, I used to lurk and read her stories. They were sooooooooooooooo good.

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[Nunya]

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(((Marie & BB))) Oonuu mek mi heart ful [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img]


You know BB, I have quit jobs in the past without having anything lined up. And it was a leap of faith that I never regretted.

But I find that as I get older, I am getting more cautious... David's heart condition makes me pause and question every move I make...

And so I find that I am doing work that is so unfulfilling, that's so much less than I am capable of...

I am not blaming him. I could never do that. One of his suggestions is that I just quit and he'll take care of us. But I've done that in the past, and I am too independent for such a situation to bring me happiness.

I would love to write. For me, writing is cathartic, liberating, fulfilling and it brings me peace at a cerebral level... I love to paint (I was an art major) but I have to be inspired to do so...

Much as I love these pursuits, I have to be pragmatic and recognise that the chances of them putting food on the table or paying for medication is slim to none...

So I end up doing what I hate in order to live without really living...

I feel like a huge hypocrite, especially when I encourage my son to pursue what he loves. He's pointed out to me that I should take my own advice, and all I can fall back is the lame response of 'you'll understand when you get older'...

[Nunya]

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btw BB, congratulations on your new-found secular happiness and your success!!! You rock! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/birthday.gif[/img] (it says 'you rule' on the cake)

[kia027]

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Can you telecommute doing the type of work that you love? that may be an option.. Going in a few days a week, or even a few days every few weeks may work.

I currently telecommute and aside from the fact that I have to get on a plane to go to the office, and mrKia has to run the house & kids for a week on his own \o/, it really is great for me at this stage of my life.

[Fyah]

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I am so sorry to hear of your troubles Nunya. We have all been there and I thank you for sharing your story. I can definitely relate with being caught between a rock and a hard place.

You just HOLD ON, BE STRONG! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

I have just finished reading Reposition Yourself: Living Life Without Limits by T.D. JAKES, and I HIGHLY RECOMMEND that you get your hands on this book.

It has given me the tools that I have been longing for to Renew, Release, Revive and Redirect my life.

Read this book and you will see.

Boundbrook, what a wonderful story. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img] Very inspiring. You have been blessed. You have made it to a place where many aspire to realize that - Achieving Happiness is Achieving Everything!

[Nunya]

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No I can't.

[Nunya]

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Thanks Rundung. Cause I'm starting to think that no-one's gonna die soon an leave me a whole mess of money... I gotta do this on mi own [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-bawlout.gif[/img]

[Compry]

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(((Nunya))), if you wouldn't mind joining the company I work for, there are a few opportunities available right now. My position will be open as of June 1st and an Admin position just became available today. Send me your resume if you're interested.

[Compry]

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Boundie, sorry to hear about the passing of your friend.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">gotten rid of the source of negativity and unhappiness in my life, I would have never made room for all of the wonderful things that have been happening to me and for me.
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This really jumped out at me not only because I can relate but also because it is very true. God patiently waits for us to rid ourselves of all the things that contribute negativity to our lives. Once we're rid of them, His blessings flow in an unbelievable way.

[Nunya]

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(((Compry)))

Would you be my new boss??? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70365-flirt.gif[/img]

But heng awn, don't yuh wok way outta woiiee woiiee???

[Compry]

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Office is in Mississauga. You could move there or here or Milton.

...and no, mi moving into a different department...tired of the long hours.