Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

[MarieK]

Many people think that couples engage in sex, I mean they have to because they are in a relationship right.

Well reading Evan's post got me to thinking. What about relationships without sex. Are we ready to accept that? How readily do we denouce a couple who profess to have a perfect relationship sans sex.

Have you thought about what would happen to your partner if he/she would no longer be able to perform? Is there even room to entertain that possibility?

If you take a look at society today the media and the entertainment industry marries sex to every conceivable experience of our lives. For example, Patrick wants a BMW, no problem, marketers willmake sure Patrick see's the beauty laying on the hood of that M-3. If it's an X5, no problem, market the X5 being driven by a macho well chizeled 20 something and bam it's sold.

This morning on my way in I am flipping through some CDs and heard elephant man profess to "wuk har suh till she bawl out, inna di bedroom, bathroom all bout". Is that really what it is about or is it those intimate moments? You know the ones. You're standing in Home Depot pulling yoru hair out can't decide on travertine or slate and he walks up and says "you are the most amazing woman in teh world"

or is it when you quietly enter the house and you hear him on the phone bragging about "his woman, his wife, his partner, his friend" and they are all one in the same and that same is you. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70377-loveeyes.gif[/img]

Would you settle for such a relationship or would you prefer the
"tun it up tun it up tun it up" kind. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/shocked.gif[/img]

[bigbooie]

Re: Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

Nonsense!! What could you possibly hope to gain by having a relationship without sex if its possible? You will be spending your old relationship denying whats natural. Sex is part of it..it makes you bond closer to your mate and have a feeling of closeness. How can you say you both are living a full filling relationship when you both lack the fullness of the relationship?


Maybe after experiencing love making with your mate and someting happens where that is no longer a possibility then it may work. Also it can make a difference depending on your age..If your sex drive is down (what ever that mean ) or your too old for that kind of pleasure then just having a partner to hold and caresss may be the answer because your body is not demanding that kind of longing. Just throwing that out there.

[MarieK]

Re: Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

Mi nat saying anything, mi just putting a hypothetical question out there.

Eg A man and a woman together and inlove, she marries him and he develops high blood pressure (peeple getting it early dese days, a nuh ole peeple sickness no more) and the medication which he has to take render him impotent. would you consider staying with him as a woman or in your case BV as a man would you expect a woman to stick around

[ZaraJah]

Re: Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

At this age, and in my current state of mind, it would be hard pressed for me to stay in a relationship (married or single) that does not have sex playing an equal role to everything else.

I suppose I do not have that [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/blushing2.gif[/img]. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/1teeth.jpg[/img]

[bigbooie]

Re: Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi nat saying anything, mi just putting a hypothetical question out there.

Eg A man and a woman together and inlove, she marries him and he develops high blood pressure (peeple getting it early dese days, a nuh ole peeple sickness no more) and the medication which he has to take render him impotent. would you consider staying with him as a woman or in your case BV as a man would you expect a woman to stick around </div></div>

Well there are other ways to get your rocks off. It can be done.

[Bandana]

Re: Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi nat saying anything, mi just putting a hypothetical question out there.

Eg A man and a woman together and inlove, she marries him and he develops high blood pressure (peeple getting it early dese days, a nuh ole peeple sickness no more) and the medication which he has to take render him impotent. would you consider staying with him as a woman or in your case BV as a man would you expect a woman to stick around </div></div>

I lived this [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

Yes I wanted to stay, even tho we were not married... And yes there are other ways to get your rocks off [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] Biggah...

BUT...

It led to more fighting, less lovin, and got to a point where neither of us wanted to even try to mek the ting stand up [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img] it was so frustrating, and I know it was very hard for him to deal with. Which made him quite irritable to say the least [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img]


It would take a LOT of understanding, and communication to still have a happy relationship in this situation... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

Maybe after many years of marriage... but jezzz it nah easy [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

[MarieK]

Re: Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

ouch.

[Pepper]

Re: Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BIGGAHVIEW.</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

..If your sex drive is down (what ever that mean )
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lol
[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[bigbooie]

Re: Spin off of EVAN - Relationship minus sex

I hear that..make you question a lot of things about yourself and our level of understanding.