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ALL WOMAN READERS REVEAL THEIR MOST SINFUL SECRETS
BY DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE All Woman writer [email protected]
Monday, April 15, 2013
MANY of us women would have had the experience of being with men who scored less than one out of 10 in bed, and many of us would have been reluctant to let the men know their true scores. In fact, many women find creative ways to deal with bad sex -- from locking shop indefinitely, to lying, to imagining themselves with more superb lovers.
Clinical Psychologist Dr Pearnel Bell says a woman should not build a man's ego when he doesn't deserve it, and should instead try to reason things out.
"Instead of just [lying about] how great he was, you should try and reason it out," Dr Bell said. "Lovemaking should be about the woman teaching the man how to love her, and the man teaching the woman how to love him. It is not a starboy thing going on, and men should humble themselves and learn."
But some of the women below say sometimes lying is all that works in the relationship economies of scale, especially when the support the man provides is directly proportional to the number of times his woman boosts his ego. Here's what the women said:
Leonie R, 39:
I told him I didn't enjoy it and he asked if he could get another chance. I allowed him to try again but it was no better. Two weeks after, I left him.
Paulette C, 34:
I just stopped sleeping with him. It was best to remain celibate than put up with his five minutes of 'fun'. He got the message after three months without sex and me sending him articles on what women want. When he asked to try again, it was a more skilful lover that greeted me. He had obviously read the women's magazines I suggested he read.
Nadine C, 30:
I think about my ex. I imagine that I'm with my ex and I'm able to respond as if I was actually with my ex. It's a mental thing. Even though my current boyfriend will be actually slobbering all over me and doing his one boring move, I imagine that I'm instead doing acrobatics with my ex, who was the best lover I've ever had.
Toni-Ann, 25:
I lie there and plan -- dinner, my outfit for the next day, how I'm going to get the mildew out of the bath tiles... All this time I will be inserting the right moaning and groaning at random moments. He's a great father and provider otherwise, so I grin and bear my burdens.
Not all women are willing to just settle for bad sex, however. The women below say they'd be out of there faster than Usain Bolt.
Marlene F, 28:
I would just find a way to walk away from the relationship. I would not say anything to him because I would not want to hurt his feelings, but I would find a way to discourage the relationship from going any further.
Debby L, 27:
I would just tell him the truth. If he wants to leave as a result of it then he can leave, but I am not going to stay with a man and he is the only one enjoying himself. I don't think that is right.
Andrea, 37:
I'd give him bun, straight! Worse if he's taking care of other things around the house and you really don't want to leave him.
Kerry-Ann S, 31:
That happened to me already and I looked at him and asked what that was. The worse thing was that he was blowing like horse and had rolled over like he just did something great. I just got up and left him in the bed. He never touched me again.
Jessica Y, 25:
I would have nothing more to do with him. If it's not working it's just not working. It doesn't make sense sticking around with someone who is not satisfying you sexually. I would be miserable.
Read more: http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magaz...#ixzz2Qde8hhCY
ALL WOMAN READERS REVEAL THEIR MOST SINFUL SECRETS
BY DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE All Woman writer [email protected]
Monday, April 15, 2013
MANY of us women would have had the experience of being with men who scored less than one out of 10 in bed, and many of us would have been reluctant to let the men know their true scores. In fact, many women find creative ways to deal with bad sex -- from locking shop indefinitely, to lying, to imagining themselves with more superb lovers.
Clinical Psychologist Dr Pearnel Bell says a woman should not build a man's ego when he doesn't deserve it, and should instead try to reason things out.
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But some of the women below say sometimes lying is all that works in the relationship economies of scale, especially when the support the man provides is directly proportional to the number of times his woman boosts his ego. Here's what the women said:
Leonie R, 39:
I told him I didn't enjoy it and he asked if he could get another chance. I allowed him to try again but it was no better. Two weeks after, I left him.
Paulette C, 34:
I just stopped sleeping with him. It was best to remain celibate than put up with his five minutes of 'fun'. He got the message after three months without sex and me sending him articles on what women want. When he asked to try again, it was a more skilful lover that greeted me. He had obviously read the women's magazines I suggested he read.
Nadine C, 30:
I think about my ex. I imagine that I'm with my ex and I'm able to respond as if I was actually with my ex. It's a mental thing. Even though my current boyfriend will be actually slobbering all over me and doing his one boring move, I imagine that I'm instead doing acrobatics with my ex, who was the best lover I've ever had.
Toni-Ann, 25:
I lie there and plan -- dinner, my outfit for the next day, how I'm going to get the mildew out of the bath tiles... All this time I will be inserting the right moaning and groaning at random moments. He's a great father and provider otherwise, so I grin and bear my burdens.
Not all women are willing to just settle for bad sex, however. The women below say they'd be out of there faster than Usain Bolt.
Marlene F, 28:
I would just find a way to walk away from the relationship. I would not say anything to him because I would not want to hurt his feelings, but I would find a way to discourage the relationship from going any further.
Debby L, 27:
I would just tell him the truth. If he wants to leave as a result of it then he can leave, but I am not going to stay with a man and he is the only one enjoying himself. I don't think that is right.
Andrea, 37:
I'd give him bun, straight! Worse if he's taking care of other things around the house and you really don't want to leave him.
Kerry-Ann S, 31:
That happened to me already and I looked at him and asked what that was. The worse thing was that he was blowing like horse and had rolled over like he just did something great. I just got up and left him in the bed. He never touched me again.
Jessica Y, 25:
I would have nothing more to do with him. If it's not working it's just not working. It doesn't make sense sticking around with someone who is not satisfying you sexually. I would be miserable.
Read more: http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magaz...#ixzz2Qde8hhCY
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