i suppose there's beauty

[tsophra]

in this story..but it just seems so sad

I met an elderly woman (and her husband) a couple of days ago who who've been married for 51 years. Ten yrs into the marriage the husband was diagnosed with Lou Gerigs (sp) disease..use of his hands was the first to go...he's been completely bedridden for yrs. She's his caretaker,no children, close family or friends. In spite of all of this (and a fracture sciattica bone or summen lacka dat) she was incredibly cheerful, nice and sweet.

I just kept thinking 40 yrs of this...could I have hung in there? I guess that's true love

[Suesumba]

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i don't think i could hang in there. one of my friend here stayed with her husband through his MS until he died. she's pretty young too. he eventually lost all mobility and sight. and you'd never know it from the way she was.

[djrosen1]

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Mrs. RO has MS, and we're going through the long, slow deterioration. It's all about making the most of what you've got. It ain't no thing; it's just what you're supposed to do. Life's a bear, and then you die.

[loops]

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i didn't think you could live anywhere near that long with ALS. (LG Disease)

[djrosen1]

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That IS remarkable longevity after ALS diagnosis.

[kia027]

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i think it is dedication and taking her marriage vows seriously.. for better for worse, in sickness and in health


(((RambleOn))) [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

[djrosen1]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">i think it is dedication and taking her marriage vows seriously.. for better for worse, in sickness and in health


(((RambleOn))) [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img] </div></div>

Right. It's just what you're supposed to do. It could easily have been me who got sick; what would I have wanted her to do? Split as soon as things got hard? I doubt it.

[Compry]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: RambleOn</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">i think it is dedication and taking her marriage vows seriously.. for better for worse, in sickness and in health


(((RambleOn))) [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img] </div></div>

Right. It's just what you're supposed to do. It could easily have been me who got sick; what would I have wanted her to do? Split as soon as things got hard? I doubt it. </div></div>

I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes because even before getting to your post, the first thing I thought of was what if it was me.

I admire you. God bless.

[tsophra]

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enoe..de fuss coupla times I saw her I thought she was the patient..due to her age and the 2 walking sticks she used (turns out she just started using them due to the bone fracture and is hoping she'll heal quickly)...anyways double walking sticks and all she sleeps in a chair in her husband's hospital room everynight.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img] the husband has a ton of other complications too..bad heart, tube in stomach for urine...but his mind is as sharp as ever...

(RO) [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

anyways thanks for reading..think they're gonna haunt me for a while

[Suesumba]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: RambleOn</div><div class="ubbcode-body">it's just what you're supposed to do. Life's a bear, and then you die. </div></div>

Sorry to hear you're going through this.

[djrosen1]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jaded</div><div class="ubbcode-body">enoe..de fuss coupla times I saw her I thought she was the patient..due to her age and the 2 walking sticks she used (turns out she just started using them due to the bone fracture and is hoping she'll heal quickly)...anyways double walking sticks and all she sleeps in a chair in her husband's hospital room everynight.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img] the husband has a ton of other complications too..bad heart, tube in stomach for urine...but his mind is as sharp as ever...

(RO) [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

anyways thanks for reading..think they're gonna haunt me for a while </div></div>

Good for them. 51 years is a long, long time under any circumstances - those are some harsh circumstances. I wish them the best.