Man is Man

[Tropicana]

A Jamaican friend of mine decided to try men from other parts of the world as she felt that Jamaican men were making moves on her too fast. I cautionned her that man is man. She didn't see it that way.

Well she just called me and had to admit she was wrong. A Moroccan guy took her out for dinner last night. He complained about the food and then said, hey let's get out of here and get some fresh air. First he suggested they go for a drive. She was cautious and found an excuse to go for a walk instead. He tried really hard to pressure her into going for a drive.

They crossed the street to the park. After they walked a bit, there came to an area where it was getting dark. He wanted to keep going and said "the darker the better". She wasn't comfortable with that so she said no, "I would prefer to head back". Next ting im reach out and give her a big hug and grab her...


Oops sorry phone ringing....to be continued.

[tsophra]

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dat sound like man is pig..lol

[Nylah]

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You need to end your phone call!

I hope this guy didnt hurt her.... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

[Tropicana]

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Sorry about that.

Anyway, he gave her a big hug and proceeded to immediately grab her batty. She pushed him away and he was like "What are you doing?" She said "you're moving WAY too fast". She ran up the hill and sat on a park bench in an area where people were around and it was well lit. She put her purse between them. Next thing he reaches over, tries to play with her hair and pull her towards him. Again she told him to stop and this time moved and sat on a rock in the rock garden right beside where diamond where an adult baseball game was in progress. She told him that his behaviour was inappropriate. Next the proceeded to stand and lean over her and put his hand on her thigh. He said "I can't do anything there. You have brought me where there is a crowd and whole bunch of guys with bats". By then she had had enough and she said bye and left.

So, ladies a word of caution. The same word of caution I gave my friend. NEVER go off the beaten track with ANY guy unless you know him really well and you are sure you can trust him. It has nothing to do with race, ethnicity, income, or anything else. Some men are gentlemen but some are pigs and out for one thing.
If he makes a move and you say no and he tries again. LEAVE!! If he doesn't respect your boundaries from the get go, he is likely an abuser and very dangerous.

Getting off soapbox.

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Next the proceeded to stand and lean over her and put his hand on her thigh. He said "I can't do anything there. You have brought me where there is a crowd and whole bunch of guys with bats". By then she had had enough and she said bye and left.
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Only then she had enough! She is one very lucky woman that he didnt do any lasting damage.

[diabolical_Tanya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nylah</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Next the proceeded to stand and lean over her and put his hand on her thigh. He said "I can't do anything there. You have brought me where there is a crowd and whole bunch of guys with bats". By then she had had enough and she said bye and left.
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Only then she had enough! She is one very lucky woman that he didnt do any lasting damage. </div></div>Yes Tropi man is man...sorry you I mean your friend had to go through this...[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

[Tropicana]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nylah</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tropicana</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Next the proceeded to stand and lean over her and put his hand on her thigh. He said "I can't do anything there. You have brought me where there is a crowd and whole bunch of guys with bats". By then she had had enough and she said bye and left.
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Only then she had enough! She is one very lucky woman that he didnt do any lasting damage. </div></div>

Excatly. Sorry Queen Aynat...it really IS a friend. Trust me i would never have gone off to a dark area with a man I didn't know realy well and from the time im grab mi batty, mi would a benn OUTTA THERE!! From the moment he was talking about going on a drive on a first date and pressuring her to go on the drive, I would have been really suspicious.

Going to a dark and remote part of the park like that, he could have knocked her down and raped her and no one would have seen them. Remember it was at the bottom of a hill too so it would have taken a while for her to be discovered. I don't know WHAT she was thinking.

[Nylah]

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Homegirl wasnt thinking.......

Thank goodness I am naturally distrusting! Or maybe its too many episodes of CSI; Without A Trace, etc!

[Tropicana]

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I am with you on this one. It is best to be cautious until someone has proven themselves.

[Compry]

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I bumped into a non-Jamaican man in the mall a couple months back. Hadn't seen him in several months. He was wowing over the weight that I had lost and decided that he "wanted me". No joke. I told him, I was already "taken" so he didn't have a chance.

He started attending church regularly and most Sundays I would duck out before he would spot me. Him used to sit downstairs but him find out from an usher that I sit upstairs suh him move up deh. Three Sundays ago, Pastor told us to hug someone on the way out. I was in a serious conversation with one of the usher when dis man showed up bout he wanted his hug. Man pass whole heap a people to reach where I was standing. I extended my hand because on the rare occasion when he spots me in church he's always wanting to hug me and not in a friendly church sister/church brother way.

Him turned to di usher and tell him bout I'm being disobedient by not hugging him. Him lucky mi extend mi hand and dat's cause mi neva want fi embarass him. So yes Cousin Tropi, man a man, nuh matta wey dem come from even some a di one dem dat come to church.

[MarieK]

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what the huh????????????

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] compry sarry but ie funny

[Compry]

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Aye sah...Funny tuh yuh but not to mi. Di man wi actually come up to mi and sey, you weren't in church lass week. Him know wen mi dideh and wen mi is nat. Luckily dese days mi nat dere as often cause mi woulda probably embarass him and myself in the process.

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Compry</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I bumped into a non-Jamaican man in the mall a couple months back. Hadn't seen him in several months. He was wowing over the weight that I had lost and decided that he "wanted me". No joke. I told him, I was already "taken" so he didn't have a chance.

He started attending church regularly and most Sundays I would duck out before he would spot me. Him used to sit downstairs but him find out from an usher that I sit upstairs suh him move up deh. Three Sundays ago, Pastor told us to hug someone on the way out. I was in a serious conversation with one of the usher when dis man showed up bout he wanted his hug. Man pass whole heap a people to reach where I was standing. I extended my hand because on the rare occasion when he spots me in church he's always wanting to hug me and not in a friendly church sister/church brother way.

Him turned to di usher and tell him bout I'm being disobedient by not hugging him. Him lucky mi extend mi hand and dat's cause mi neva want fi embarass him. So yes Cousin Tropi, man a man, nuh matta wey dem come from even some a di one dem dat come to church. </div></div>

Forgive me Compry but I did laugh a bit at this.

But in your defense, this is a creepy move to use church as the guise to get in your drawz. How come he decided you were desirable after you lose a likkle weight? You were just as attrative and nice prior to the loss. That's the part I dont like. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

[Compry]

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Yuh a laff tuh? In his defence, he tried back den too but not as strong as him a try now. I used to be very cold so him did backoff earlier. Now mi really is a different person so mi don't bluff as much as mi used to.

Thank you Nylah [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

[mspeach]

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I agree with all the views on here, when you don't know a man you really can't trust them. Some men do move extremely fast, and should respect a woman's boundaries.