work dilemna

[Gen]

ok. so this chic mi work wid a ask mi wah she fi do. mi tell har mi will get some advice and get back to har. she and har ex divorce now bout 4 years.

backtrack to when one a dem 2 daughter was a toddler..she walk by the bedroom pan har way to someweh else and see him pan the bed under the cover a *ahem* yuh know hangle him business. the ting is the likkle girl did deh pan the bed too. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img]

at least she think that a wah him was doing.

she seh

"what are you doing"

"nothing"

so she juss galang bout har way. she harself kinda traumatize by the incident she nuh know if him did junk or wah \0/

one next time she a pass again and see him a do the same thing so she juss guh pick up the pickney offa the bed and guh sleep inna guest room. I don't ask har what action she tek with him bout the incidents.


fastforward to today. him a get remarrij. she a ask mi if she should tell the fiancee bout the incidents. or leave it alone. she a ask me if a did me would I want to know about the incidents ? if it was you would you want to know ?

lawd geezas a how drama come find mi though \0/

[MarieK]

Re: work dilemna

figet di fiancee how she know seh di pickney wuzn witnessing more dan what she saw. wha is di mental state a di pickney now and if she neva duh nutt'n then y she care bout di new wife finding out. axe fi grind possible. U sure bout di validity of disya Geneva?

Di ooman nuh sound right to me.

[Suesumba]

Re: work dilemna

she suspects that her husband is doing something unkosher with her child and all she could do was move to another room, no confrontation, no nothing. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

so now he's getting re-married and she wants to *inform* his fiance of the incidents? doesn't make sense, she just wants to dog the man. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

if the initial events were <span style='font-size: 26pt'>SO</span> serious, then she would have known exactly if anything happened because she would have confronted him with a lot of spine. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img]

[MarieK]

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yeah somting nuh rite

[Gen]

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[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

yeah man she righted [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

anyway..the likkle girl was a toddler suh she wouldn't remember a ting. she said she has asked him about him but him look pan har with a blank look (the couple times she inquire) and nuh seh nothing...the other times him deny it. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

she seh she never sure what him was doing the fuss and second time..but she juss pick up the pickney the second time cause it did look too suspect.

a 2 years ago she realize with certainty that is what him was doing. and that is when she start question him bout it.

[MarieK]

Re: work dilemna

she is a big fool. Mi nuh care if him seh yeeah or naahh, if a child is in teh bed yuh han nuh suppose fi deh pon yuh teelie and it kinda hard fi mistake sitnign wah deh happen in front a yuh whether the child just born or not

[Gen]

Re: work dilemna

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">she suspects that her husband is doing something unkosher with her child and all she could do was move to another room, no confrontation, no nothing. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

so now he's getting re-married and she wants to *inform* his fiance of the incidents? doesn't make sense, she just wants to dog the man. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

if the initial events were <span style='font-size: 26pt'>SO</span> serious, then she would have known exactly if anything happened because she would have confronted him with a lot of spine. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img] </div></div>

a dat mi ask har but she seh she never certain till 2 years prior to the divorce , she does have a lot of guilt over it.

[MarieK]

Re: work dilemna

obviously not enuff fi call di police

[ZaraJah]

Re: work dilemna

I can't imagine how he could have done that with a kid (regardless of age) present.

Although that might not mean he was doing anything to the child [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/sick.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70384-praying.gif[/img] I still find it extremely creepy. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cold.gif[/img]

I'd tell her to mind her business. Let the new wife fight her own battles...unless she is sure that the child was involved, and in that case, she need to NOTIFY THE AUTHORITIES.

It is never too late for reporting JERKS (no pun intended).

[Gen]

Re: work dilemna

Z yes it creepy [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img]

suh the consenus is that she fi mind har business ?

[MarieK]

Re: work dilemna

yup.

[Gen]

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dang. suh ongly mi alone wouldan want know bout that part of him past ?

mi will tell har the response dem [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img] and hear wah she seh.

[Nunya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Geneva</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
fastforward to today. him a get remarrij. she a ask mi if she should tell the fiancee bout the incidents. or leave it alone. she a ask me if a did me would I want to know about the incidents ? if it was you would you want to know ?
</div></div>

Well she neva hangle fi har situation properly and now in an effort to make amends, she a try prevent it from happening to other kids...

Good for her...

I would send the new bride-to-be an anonymous letter... worded strongly enough to convey just how serious the situation is... but leave out details that would point the finger back at her as being the sender...

Chances are he's done this ish before...

And yeah, I would want to know...

[ZaraJah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Geneva</div><div class="ubbcode-body">dang. suh ongly mi alone wouldan want know bout that part of him past ?

mi will tell har the response dem [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img] and hear wah she seh. </div></div>

LOL, I guess I am now immune to the stories so I'd pass on wanting to hear about his messy past. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img]

They all start to sound like the same ole excuse, after a while.

[MarieK]

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If I were the fiancee I would want to know but this story sounds fishy Geneva, I mean no matter how much I love a man, I would NEVER condone his actions as you've described, the fact that she somehow struggles with the "guilt" so close to his wedding tells me she has an axe to grind.

Tell me after this "realization" of what he was doing does he have visitation w/ the girls?