Important Questions to ask Before & During the First Dates?

[Tropicana]

Dating has become more complicated. Used to be when men flirted with women and asked them out, it meant they were interested. Today it could mean everything from he's bored and just looking to pass the time, he's looking to feed his ego, he is looking for a hook-up.

With the number of players out there, what questions should a woman ask to determine if a man is seriously interested and not playing games, looking for a booty call or seeking a "friends with benefits" arrangement?

My suggestions are:

Before accepting a date:

- Are you asking me out on a date or would we be going out as "just friends"?
- Are you seeing or sleeping with anyone else? (Gotta ask this in this day of AIDS.)

During the date:

- Are you attracted to me? (Prevents a man from playing the "misunderstanding card a few months down the road when you discover he is rooksin his neighbour or co-worker. )

A month into it:

- Are you still seeing me with romantic interest or do you now think of me as "just a friend"? It is amazing how men can flip and not tell you.

Definitely do not even think of becoming physical with a guy until you pass these hurdles.

Some women have been sleeping with men for MONTHS when they play the "just friends", "thought this was a friends with benefits", "wasn't this a booty call", "you misunderstood my intentions" or " was never attracted to you card". Some are even heartless enough to do this when a woman announces that she is pregnant. Can you imagine anything so humiliating.

What questions would you add to the list?

Inquiring minds want to know?

[blugiant]

tropi mii wood use da trooth to decieve

[Tropicana]

tropi mii wood use da trooth to decieve

So you would lie when you ansah every last one of dem questions? Dutty john crow!!

Thank you for letting me know. I will continue to decline feel ups until I am 100%sure about smaddy and de baggy will remain firmly fastened in place until the preacher says "You may now kiss de bride."

Just curious what would your answers be:Before accepting a date:

Before the Date:
- Are you asking me out on a date or would we be going out as "just friends"?
- Are you seeing or sleeping with anyone else?

During the date:
- Are you attracted to me?

A month into it:
- Are you still seeing me with romantic interest or do you now think of me as "just a friend"?

[blugiant]

So you would lie when you ansah every last one of dem questions? Dutty john crow!!

Thank you for letting me know. I will continue to decline feel ups until I am 100%sure about smaddy and de baggy will remain firmly fastened in place until the preacher says "You may now kiss de bride."

Just curious what would your answers be:Before accepting a date:

Before the Date:
- Are you asking me out on a date or would we be going out as "just friends"?
- Are you seeing or sleeping with anyone else?

During the date:
- Are you attracted to me?

A month into it:
- Are you still seeing me with romantic interest or do you now think of me as "just a friend"?

mii rarelee iff eva lie but mii will truthfullee spin da trooth

yuh can neva be 100 percent certain bout smaddy ann veree few men will wait till marriage so yu limitinn de chance aff meetinn sumwan good. tropi oww does yuh beeleefs affect oww yuh live and iss itt yur beeleefs ar sumwan else?

wat way wood make yuh feel more comfortable, iff we go on a date or go out as friend? yur issue so mii wood put itt back pon yuh

y soo intrusive before gittinn kno mii? again yur issue so putt itt back pon yuh?

tropi game player wood look yuh traight inna eyes ann say mii wood natt ask yuh out iff mii wass natt attracted to yuh? den lookinn inn yuh eyes mii wood find sintinn nice to sey bout yuh eyes. wood natt used da bedroom eyes lines pon yuh cah yuh might gitt affended. perfect appartunitee fe chatt bout sum aff yuh attractive qualitee. oomen luv wen yuh stroke dem ego even iff dem kno yuh full aff itt

iff a month inna itt iff yuh affi ask iff da persan iss seeinn yuh as romatic interest ar juss a friend yuh natt pickinn upp da addar parsan cues

[Tropicana]

mii rarelee iff eva lie but mii will truthfullee spin da trooth

yuh can neva be 100 percent certain bout smaddy ann veree few men will wait till marriage so yu limitinn de chance aff meetinn sumwan good. tropi oww does yuh beeleefs affect oww yuh live and iss itt yur beeleefs ar sumwan else?

They are my beliefs and I live by them.

wat way wood make yuh feel more comfortable, iff we go on a date or go out as friend? yur issue so mii wood put itt back pon yuh

My answer, no I need to be clear about your intentions and I would ask the question again.

y soo intrusive before gittinn kno mii? again yur issue so putt itt back pon yuh?

I would say "I apologize if it comes across as intrusive but I have run into people who play games and I want to ensure that we are both clear and there are no misunderstandings. If you are not comfortable answering these questions, I do understand. Please understand that I am not comfortable going out with you unless we are both clear about intentions. so I will pass.

tropi game player wood look yuh traight inna eyes ann say mii wood natt ask yuh out iff mii wass natt attracted to yuh? den lookinn inn yuh eyes mii wood find sintinn nice to sey bout yuh eyes. wood natt used da bedroom eyes lines pon yuh cah yuh might gitt affended. perfect appartunitee fe chatt bout sum aff yuh attractive qualitee. oomen luv wen yuh stroke dem ego even iff dem kno yuh full aff itt

Well im naw go get nutten so if he is a lying player, he would quickly move on to someone who would give him what he wants.

iff a month inna itt iff yuh affi ask iff da persan iss seeinn yuh as romatic interest ar juss a friend yuh natt pickinn upp da addar parsan cues

Not true. Some men do have a way of playing games. I have heard with women who have been sleeping with a guy for months and then he'll play the "misunderstanding", " I was never attracted to you" "you are not my girlfriend" cards. Remember a White woman posted on here a while back and that happened to her. No mi not calling NO names. Often men will play these guys if they start rooksin around with someone else so you can never accuse them of cheating.

[blugiant]

They are my beliefs and I live by them.




My answer, no I need to be clear about your intentions and I would ask the question again.


I would say "I apologize if it comes across as intrusive but I have run into people who play games and I want to ensure that we are both clear and there are no misunderstandings. If you are not comfortable answering these questions, I do understand. Please understand that I am not comfortable going out with you unless we are both clear about intentions. so I will pass.


Well im naw go get nutten so if he is a lying player, he would quickly move on to someone who would give him what he wants.



Not true. Some men do have a way of playing games. I have heard with women who have been sleeping with a guy for months and then he'll play the "misunderstanding", " I was never attracted to you" "you are not my girlfriend" cards. Remember a White woman posted on here a while back and that happened to her. No mi not calling NO names. Often men will play these guys if they start rooksin around with someone else so you can never accuse them of cheating.

tropi mii wood natt ave let yuh kno itt yur issue mii wood ask yuh wat way mekk yuh more comfartable friend ar date

tropi wen mii ask oomen out itt juss meen dem ketch mii intarest ann mii waan fe see iff dem wurth mii time. again mii wood evade da qwestian by askinn yuh wat yuh meen bye my intention cah yuh anwsar wood tell mii wat mii need to kno cah mii iss a great listener. oomen luv wen dem tink yuh ar a great lissener ann great lissener kno oww fe use wat de ooman sey to gitt wat dem want

tropi honestlee sum aff da qwestians yuh ask wood tunn mii awff cah itt sund like yuh ave too much issues fram past relationships

tropi a latt aff oomen ar inn denial dem chase dunn men woo doan waan dem ann wen da man git sum ann drap dem dem gawn like da man played dem. tropi a latt aff oomen ar attracted to players and da players play da game. hate da game butt natt da players

[Tropicana]

Blugiant....sounds like you are into games fi true.

The questions are straightforward and any guy who is not a game player should have no problem answering them.

I am not talking about scenarios in which de ooman "run dung de man" as you put it. I am talking about scenarios in which the man approaches or contacts the woman and asks HER out.

If you pulled that evasive garbage on me, I would figure you are a game playing player and I would run....not walk ...but run to the nearest exit.

[Tropicana]

Blugiant......did you see The Bachelorette? It is a classic example of what I am talking about. Desiree has fallen HARD for Brook. She is one of several guys she has been seeing for months. She even went to his hometown and met his family....and just near the end of the season, he drops the bombshell that he is not in love with her and doesn't think he ever will be.

This happens in life too so women are wise to check in and make sure a guy hasn't flipped the switch and put her in the friends zone and that his feelings for her are in line with hers. Otherwise it's pure heartbreak and tears.

How we get from this

to this is beyond me. Im fickle bad. Do you see any warning signs on the video Blugiant?

Brooks Breaks Desiree’s Heart

Des’s date with Brooks was the saddest part of the show, as he decided to break her heart into a million little pieces.
Desiree and Brooks discuss adjectives at the beginning, and it is clear that the do not know the difference between an adjective and a verb. Then, their fantasy suite does not go to plan.
Brooks has a fake conversation with host Chris, where he says that Des is “not the love of my life,” and that he does not want to propose. He does not have a “crazy love for her” and things are getting deep. Brooks decides that he does not want to be on the show anymore, and he goes to meet Desiree to tell her that he is not happy. I must add that earlier this episode, Des had said that she had “deeper feelings” for him than the other two guys.
Brooks brings Des onto to the dock to talk about his “feelings,” and here come the waterworks. Poor Des can’t stop crying, and this really is heartbreaking. Why is it that the guy she likes the most is such a coward?! Brooks runs his hands through his hair a lot, and I genuinely do not know what will happen. It really seems that Brooks has no idea what he wants, and that is the biggest recipe for relationship drama.
Personally I am disappointed on many levels — Brooks is a baby, and furthermore where is the sexy fantasy suite time I was expecting?! Des is a brave girl when she tells Brooks she loves him regardless, and that he “broke her heart,” but somehow I don’t think this is the end. Brooks walks a clearly devastated Des back to the mainland, and no amount of tissues will mop up those tears. Not even a ShamWow will do the trick.
The episode ends with NO ELIMINATION, and Des just sits at the end of the dock crying.

http://hollywoodlife.com/2013/07/29/...y-suite-dates/

[Tropicana]

[Tropicana]

Still waiting fi blugiant.

[blugiant]

Blugiant....sounds like you are into games fi true.

The questions are straightforward and any guy who is not a game player should have no problem answering them.

I am not talking about scenarios in which de ooman "run dung de man" as you put it. I am talking about scenarios in which the man approaches or contacts the woman and asks HER out.

If you pulled that evasive garbage on me, I would figure you are a game playing player and I would run....not walk ...but run to the nearest exit.

yuh missinn da pint. ooman like dat widd awl dose qwestians iss showinn dat shi ave too manee issues ann mii wood lose ar numba

[Tropicana]

Okay then how would you suggest one weed out de wheat from the chaff and don't waste months with some guy only to find out he is playing games?

You watch de video? Some fellows are very fickle. They'll date a woman for months, rooks her and everyting and den play the not interested not attracted card. There must be a way to prevent that.