Blast from the past

[DearK]

I ran into an old friend and after catching up he asked if I still keep in touch with another female friend (who's now married). I said yes and he expressed interest in reconnecting with her as well. When I told my girlfriend she got beet red and quite nervous about getting his or giving her number Turns out they had a very hot romance that ended abruptly. Would you want to find out where an old flame ended up in life?

[diabolical_Tanya]

Would you want to find out where an old flame ended up in life?

Yes not just old flames but old friends as well BUT -

Thanks to the power of facebook - I now know about all but 2

1 of those 2 I spotted at a festival last weekend and just the sight of him put all my wondering to rest. remembered what an *** he was

[DearK]

Would you want to find out where an old flame ended up in life?

Yes not just old flames but old friends as well BUT -

Thanks to the power of facebook - I now know about all but 2

1 of those 2 I spotted at a festival last weekend and just the sight of him put all my wondering to rest. remembered what an *** he was

dodged a bullet did you?
Would you mind if your significant other 'friended' an ex? How about married couples who maintain casual contact (through text) with old flames?

[Pepper]

dodged a bullet did you?
Would you mind if your significant other 'friended' an ex? How about married couples who maintain casual contact (through text) with old flames?

I am in contact with each ex that I had a significant relationship with. Merry Christmas and happy father's day texts, and maybe a call once or twice a year to say hello or share a significant occasion. I don't hide this so to me that makes it ok.

[Peasie]

If you and the former flame are free, single, and not in a committed relationship with another person, then by all means follow up on each other.

Otherwise run, don't walk, away from any contact with the old flame.

If either of you are curious this will not end well.

[WitchyOoman]

I personally know all of the significant women that were ever in Mr Witchy's life... his ex-wife and I are friends and she lives right here on the other side of a 2.2 sq mi city... every one of his ladies who are alive, and most of the ones who are now dead, too... I know - or knew - 'em all. His first-ever girlfriend is a well-known singer and bard, with whom I am friends.


I clearly recall standing in my own living room in the middle of one of my First Party parties (New Year's Day open house parties, hence "the First Party of <year>". This had to be the First Party of 1993 or the First Party of 1994... So, there I was, standing by the egg nog bowl, in my living room, surveying the living room, dining room, front hall, and parlor (through all open archways), and I hear a voice beside me ask, "Is there anyone in the room - the women - besides your mother and your aunt... and his sister... and maybe your sister... that Mr Witchy hasn't f***ed?"

I turned to his last serious girlfriend, "Peg", who hunted a new girlfriend for him (me!) when she didn't wish to get married and he did... and started to laugh.

Then I remembered my mother and my aunt standing righ there (they'd gasped), and I stopped laughing for a few seconds, as I surveyed the room, counting the women, naming them in my mind... and I realized that the answer was NO!

I answered honestly. "Umm... no."

Mother and Auntie, shocked, moved away; they didn't want to hear any more. dwl

I looked about the room, and "Peg" and I named names quietly together...
Nope. Mr Witchy had had serious relationships with 'em all!

And honestly, he's remained friendly with every woman with whom he has had serious relationships, too.

I have had the good fortune to enter my marriage with my eyes wide open! His ex-wife, and almost all of his former girlfriends warned me about every darn fault Mr Witchy has... and damned if they weren't all dead right and perfectly honest!!! And I can complain, when I need to, to very sympathetic ears... plenty of them.

[DearK]

I personally know all of the significant women that were ever in Mr Witchy's life... his ex-wife and I are friends and she lives right here on the other side of a 2.2 sq mi city... every one of his ladies who are alive, and most of the ones who are now dead, too... I know - or knew - 'em all. His first-ever girlfriend is a well-known singer and bard, with whom I am friends.


I clearly recall standing in my own living room in the middle of one of my First Party parties (New Year's Day open house parties, hence "the First Party of <year>". This had to be the First Party of 1993 or the First Party of 1994... So, there I was, standing by the egg nog bowl, in my living room, surveying the living room, dining room, front hall, and parlor (through all open archways), and I hear a voice beside me ask, "Is there anyone in the room - the women - besides your mother and your aunt... and his sister... and maybe your sister... that Mr Witchy hasn't f***ed?"

I turned to his last serious girlfriend, "Peg", who hunted a new girlfriend for him (me!) when she didn't wish to get married and he did... and started to laugh.

Then I remembered my mother and my aunt standing righ there (they'd gasped), and I stopped laughing for a few seconds, as I surveyed the room, counting the women, naming them in my mind... and I realized that the answer was NO!

I answered honestly. "Umm... no."

Mother and Auntie, shocked, moved away; they didn't want to hear any more. dwl

I looked about the room, and "Peg" and I named names quietly together...
Nope. Mr Witchy had had serious relationships with 'em all!

And honestly, he's remained friendly with every woman with whom he has had serious relationships, too.

I have had the good fortune to enter my marriage with my eyes wide open! His ex-wife, and almost all of his former girlfriends warned me about every darn fault Mr Witchy has... and damned if they weren't all dead right and perfectly honest!!! And I can complain, when I need to, to very sympathetic ears... plenty of them.

Oh dear! He was quite the ladies man? Or just a very eligible bachelor who had his pick of the ladies in waiting? This is very close to the show The Bachelor Maybe you were ahead of the times because on that show, despite being competitors, the ladies do become friends!

[DearK]

If you and the former flame are free, single, and not in a committed relationship with another person, then by all means follow up on each other.

Otherwise run, don't walk, away from any contact with the old flame.

If either of you are curious this will not end well.

I agree. I think this is why she didnt take his number and was only mildly interested in hearing about his life now. She;s very happily married.

[DearK]

I am in contact with each ex that I had a significant relationship with. Merry Christmas and happy father's day texts, and maybe a call once or twice a year to say hello or share a significant occasion. I don't hide this so to me that makes it ok.

And this can be ok too, providing everybody is ok with it, and there isnt an alternative agenda (trying to rekindle the past relationship or start anew :O)