the OW (other woman)

[BlessedLadyOfZion]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SisKlove</div><div class="ubbcode-body">both women suffer quietly (most of the time) and this guy is too lovable.





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They know about each other? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

[dahjah]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kurlie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">she is waiting to exhale </div></div>

she's a joker


it's cheaper ot keep her [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[MarieK]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_29</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SisKlove</div><div class="ubbcode-body">my friend's been with the man for over a year. he's married with two youth. he loves his girl so much, can all see this. but can't seem to make his move (divorce). wifey has all the power ($$$) and the kids. his kids mean the world to him. a pure stress thing for everyone. both women suffer quietly (most of the time) and this guy is too lovable.
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There is something missing here? </div></div>

two things self-respect and common sense. I hope him stay wid di wife use her till she too ole an nobaddy nuh want har.

Dat is smaddy husband or nontheless the wife can be a meanie but does yoru friend have any conscience how can she possibly be part of what will or may cause a major upset for the kids. They are innocent and do not deserve it.

Dem ooman yah nuh frad mawsa gad wrath fall dung pan dem. Eff u deh wid married man yuh bound fi doom ennnuh

[dahjah]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Donnika</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SisKlove</div><div class="ubbcode-body">my friend's been with the man for over a year. he's married with two youth. he loves his girl so much, can all see this. but can't seem to make his move (divorce). wifey has all the power ($$$) and the kids. his kids mean the world to him. a pure stress thing for everyone. both women suffer quietly (most of the time) and this guy is too lovable.


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Your "Friend" is a clown. wha mek u so blind fi see dat di man had a woman before you-- or your "friend" and u are so convinced that the man is in love with this girl but refuse to leave wifey(who u resent even though she never did YOU a thing) guess what A FI HAR PICKNEY DEM AND YUH NOH KNOW HOW DI MONEY GO IN THE RELATIONSHIP SO GO FIND YUH OWNA MAN. idiat gyal!

ok... that was a bit rude of me but I felt you needed to hear honesty ~smiles sweetly~ [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70365-flirt.gif[/img] </div></div>

de ooman did seh a har fren, mek yuh cumeen ya an you you you de ooman fah, yuh nuh believe seh a fi shi fren? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

[Suesumba]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
plus even if he left why would she want a watt leff man so he could treat her the same way? </div></div>

because he's sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo loveable [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img]

[BlessedLadyOfZion]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Emperah_dahJah</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Donnika</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SisKlove</div><div class="ubbcode-body">my friend's been with the man for over a year. he's married with two youth. he loves his girl so much, can all see this. but can't seem to make his move (divorce). wifey has all the power ($$$) and the kids. his kids mean the world to him. a pure stress thing for everyone. both women suffer quietly (most of the time) and this guy is too lovable.


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Your "Friend" is a clown. wha mek u so blind fi see dat di man had a woman before you-- or your "friend" and u are so convinced that the man is in love with this girl but refuse to leave wifey(who u resent even though she never did YOU a thing) guess what A FI HAR PICKNEY DEM AND YUH NOH KNOW HOW DI MONEY GO IN THE RELATIONSHIP SO GO FIND YUH OWNA MAN. idiat gyal!

ok... that was a bit rude of me but I felt you needed to hear honesty ~smiles sweetly~ [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70365-flirt.gif[/img] </div></div>

de ooman did seh a har fren, mek yuh cumeen ya an you you you de ooman fah, yuh nuh believe seh a fi shi fren? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img] </div></div> [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[MarieK]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
plus even if he left why would she want a watt leff man so he could treat her the same way? </div></div>

because he's sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo loveable [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img] </div></div>

everyone is lovable, Hitler was married, so was Saddam, many times. Heck Condoleeza got herself a man that ugly little dog with no hair, remember him being all over the news he's lovable but is he capable of loving.

She a eediat an woman like dis deserve fi deh wid a man wid a wife who know how fi buss shat.

[Suesumba]

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the problem is that she's not seeking any useful advice for her *friend* &lt;-- [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img] but validation for her friends *relationship* with this o so lovable philandering, cheating, dishonest piece of crap man. i just hope he's good in the sack. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img]

[BlessedLadyOfZion]

Re: the OW (other woman)

a true yaw talk enuh sue.
I wonder where she gone cause she have questions fi answer:

Everybody else know bout him an yuh fren?? Unu have a public relationship an naw have unu affair unda de quiet??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SisKlove</div><div class="ubbcode-body">my friend's been with the man for over a year. he's married with two youth. he loves his girl so much, can all see this.




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[Suesumba]

Re: the OW (other woman)

sometimes these are posted just to vent, not really interact with the board. i've done it in the past on other boards where i'm having problems of one nature or another, but feel seh it would be too incestuous fi come awn yah and share [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img]

[diabolical_Tanya]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">sad that the OW loves herself only enough that she is feels good enough to share a man vs go & find an available man for herself.

The man is married with a family... therefore he is not available!! </div></div>


Maybe shi nevah know seh di man did married before shi tek up wid him an goh fall in love [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

di whole a unno alllllll ovah di oooman a blame di oooman WHAT ABOUT DI MAN....when a man ready fi cheat an lie nuttin cyaaaan beat dat an if him nevah deh wid dis ooman him woulda deh wid smaddy else, because obviously di wifey is nat enough fi him [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img]

[MarieK]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body">the problem is that she's not seeking any useful advice for her *friend* &lt;-- [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img] but validation for her friends *relationship* with this o so lovable philandering, cheating, dishonest piece of crap man. i just hope he's good in the sack. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img] </div></div>

if he is she's up for a fight cuz wifeh nah let dat guh

[MarieK]

Re: the OW (other woman)

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Aynat_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">sad that the OW loves herself only enough that she is feels good enough to share a man vs go & find an available man for herself.

The man is married with a family... therefore he is not available!! </div></div>


Maybe shi nevah know seh di man did married before shi tek up wid him an goh fall in love [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

di whole a unno alllllll ovah di oooman a blame di oooman WHAT ABOUT DI MAN....when a man ready fi cheat an lie nuttin cyaaaan beat dat an if him nevah deh wid dis ooman him woulda deh wid smaddy else, because obviously di wifey is nat enough fi him [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img] </div></div>

ok but now she knows and she's still with him. Eff di wifey wasn't enuff fi him him wudda leff di wifey long long long time

[BlessedLadyOfZion]

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But why stick around then?? Mi nuh undastan...if him naw lef de wife or a mek one bunch a excuse why him cyaan lef har den dat mean him nuh REALLy waan de sideline chick. Or else him woodan move heaven an earth fi get de divorce to be with ONLY her.

[diabolical_Tanya]

Re: the OW (other woman)

It's the side of infidelity we rarely get to hear about—from the "other woman."

Sarah (upper right) says she met one of the married men she dated at a business dinner. "He was a very distinguished businessman, high-profile, a lot older than me," she says. "He pursued me very hard. He would phone me constantly, text messaging and calling." She says she's since dated "countless" other married men.

Melissa (upper left) was married when she began seeing a married man she met in a coffee shop. "My husband thought our marriage was fine," she says. "I was always wanting an upgrade."

Crystal (lower left), who says she's dated two married men, says that one man would buy her lingerie and they'd meet at her apartment. "He would really like for me to be sexy for him," she says. "I felt I could offer him great sex, and that his wife could not offer him that."

Michelle (lower right) says she began seeing a man in Las Vegas almost seven years ago. He was also seeing a long-time girlfriend, whom he eventually married. After a brief breakup, Michelle started seeing him again—and they're still dating. At first, it was strictly a physical relationship, Michelle says, but when she later moved to his town, the affair became emotional as well. "We ended up spending a lot more time together, so I got to know him at a deeper level. It was more about who he was, what he wanted, and it was a lot more intimate than it had been."
After her initial meeting in the coffeeshop, Melissa says her affair continued, and they'd see each other three or four times a week. "The kids had soccer practice. I'd drop them off and run down to our spot," she says. "It was shielded by trees up above a road so it was completely secluded."

Crystal says when the man she was having an affair with told her about his home life, he made it sound like he wanted to leave. She says he told her the cost of divorce and alimony was holding him back. "I had fairy tale dreams of us being a power couple, being a well-kept wife, and having the big home and fancy cars and a big diamond ring," she says. "But it was never going to be a reality."

Sarah says she heard a similar story from her lover. "He wanted a future with me—so much so that he gave me a budget to go and look at properties, talked about settling down, talked about how he would explain to his other half that he was leaving, and when he was going to do it. He even rehearsed what he was going to say in front of me," she says. "Of course nothing happened—he couldn't leave her."

One thing many wives who've been cheated on wonder is if the "other woman" ever thought about them? Did they ever consider the other lives they may be hurting?

Melissa says the wife of the man she was seeing was an important element of her affair—but not in the way you might expect. "She was a character of his life. She was an extension of him just like the kids, his friends or the rest of his family. She was just a part of his life that I accepted," she says. "In the very beginning it didn't bother me. But as I knew that she became suspicious, it started to bother me. I knew it was hurting somebody else."

Michelle says she has no interest in meeting the wife of her lover. "I don't know her name, what she does. I've never asked," she says. "I've never wanted to put a face to the person. I've never wanted to give her an identity
Crystal says when she first started seeing a married man, she was never told about his marital status. "By the time I was emotionally invested, I found out that he was married," she says. "He was able to be with me physically so often, and she didn't question his whereabouts. I began to believe that she didn't care and that she was okay with it."
Sarah says she also didn't know for some time that she was dating a married man. "He was everything I looked for in a guy. I thought I'd found Mr. Perfect. So when he dropped the bombshell that he wasn't actually that available, I moved into another stage," she says. "I was deeply in love with him, and I thought if I kept going with this [affair] and being the person he'd fallen in love with, I could somehow win him away from his wife. I wanted to be number one. That was my challenge then."


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