Places You Never Want to Vacation at Again Because...

[halfwaytree]

... you vacationed there before with an ex and it just wouldn't seem right to return either by yourself or with someone else. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

I have a short list of places I doubt I could ever return to and enjoy a holiday at. Not because I didn't like those places the first time around but because each location holds many memories for me with one ex (wife or girlfriend)or the other. I'm just not sure how it would feel to be there and have those memories return.

I'm just asking because I am looking to perhaps book a holiday in the near future and one spot I'm looking at is one of these places. I am just afraid of booking it and going and being "bummed out" for a couple of weeks remembering what was.

Does it sound like I am a little crazy or has anyone else had trouble separating location from people who you have shared your life with in the past?

[Fyah]

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This is very interesting and no you are not crazy for feeling apprehension in that way.

For many years I wouldn't vacation in Miami because I had such vivid memories of being there with my ex. I decided one day to just do it, and guess what? It was the best thing I could have done to put the demons behind me. I enjoyed myself in a different way, and even when I visited the same places, I saw and experienced something different.

The results in these types of situations are very personal, so your outcome might be different. I just think that you should just do it. Go where you want to go and keep a positive outlook and you could be pleasantly surprised.

Good luck. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

[Boopie2]

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Nope, if you are happy in your present life why sit and ponder what could have been? I can see if something tragic happened like a killing or such but otherwise, I'll go anywhere and have fun.

[neutral]

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would gladly go back to some of the places I visited with my exes,and there is one hotel balcony that I would gladly revisit and look at the lights whilst.........er sorry she was bending over looking at the lights,..I was rather busy.

[ILP]

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mi nuh think you crazy atall milo. it took a very, very, very long time fah mi to return to philadelphia after spending a lot of time there with an ex. but i did. now i've just created new memories.

[Hush Darlin]

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so Milo you are saying that you are not over your exes dem
caa dat a the ongle ting wha mek meeda neva have fun at those places

[Bizzy]

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I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as it wasn;t anything tragic that happened at that destination.

make new memories with new people.

Go an enjoy yourself. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bannana_purple.gif[/img]

[Suesumba]

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besides the new smaddy can probably help erase the paintul memories.