How do you handle this

[DearK]

Ever been in a situation where your partner just does not get along with a good friend or doesnt participate in a business social setting? How do you try to draw them in and get them to participate so that you all have a good time and its not weirdly uncomfortable? Do you just accept that never the 2 shall mix, or keep trying for a happy village of all loving together?

[Suesumba]

not everyone is a social butterfly. i'd just go out and enjoy myself without them. get someone else to accompany me.

[j-kid]

Try meeting in a place of familiar surroundings that yuh mate feel comfortable. If ah man try sports surrounding, movie night, concert, community project. If ah ooman, a play, fashion show, dinner, concert.

[DearK]

not everyone is a social butterfly. i'd just go out and enjoy myself without them. get someone else to accompany me.

This is true. But is there anything that can be done to get your guy/gal to co-exist happily with other good friends?

[DearK]

Try meeting in a place of familiar surroundings that yuh mate feel comfortable. If ah man try sports surrounding, movie night, concert, community project. If ah ooman, a play, fashion show, dinner, concert.

Great suggestion- this might be the solution to the friends co-existing together situation- a little extra diversion, some familiarity could be the trick!

I have a friend who has to go to a lot of business/networking events, and it looks much better if her hubby is with her. He feels like a trophy having to accompany her... well I shouldnt say that. I will say that he isnt always interactive when I see them out Sometimes I feel so bad for her because I see how hard she tries to bring him into a conversation, while he is (seemingly) checked out and practically rolling his eyes or on his phone. She is constantly saying things to prompt him "didnt you honey", "Like the time Bill did... talk about when you.."
Wouldnt it be better to let him stay home if this is the dynamic? Put him and the world out of misery?

[DearK]

Suesumba.

IS this your new avatar? Are you telling us something?

[Xavier]

Great suggestion- this might be the solution to the friends co-existing together situation- a little extra diversion, some familiarity could be the trick!

I have a friend who has to go to a lot of business/networking events, and it looks much better if her hubby is with her. He feels like a trophy having to accompany her... well I shouldnt say that. I will say that he isnt always interactive when I see them out Sometimes I feel so bad for her because I see how hard she tries to bring him into a conversation, while he is (seemingly) checked out and practically rolling his eyes or on his phone. She is constantly saying things to prompt him "didnt you honey", "Like the time Bill did... talk about when you.."
Wouldnt it be better to let him stay home if this is the dynamic? Put him and the world out of misery?

The idea of a familiar place is great. However it sounds like these events are held in a place that is not so familiar surroundings. Typically there is another "trophy males" there. It is essential that she tries to find out who the other "trophies" are and see if any of them have something in common with hubby. They can have a conversation about "men" stuff while she does her professional networking. Also she should try to include him in what she is trying to accomplish for the event. We men think we are "knights with shinning armors" and when a women say "help" it strokes the ego

[Suesumba]

This is true. But is there anything that can be done to get your guy/gal to co-exist happily with other good friends?

how socially maladjusted would they have to be?

most people would kibba den mout.

[Suesumba]

IS this your new avatar? Are you telling us something?

nah just hate the god help us all

[Peasie]

Ever been in a situation where your partner just does not get along with a good friend or doesnt participate in a business social setting? How do you try to draw them in and get them to participate so that you all have a good time and its not weirdly uncomfortable? Do you just accept that never the 2 shall mix, or keep trying for a happy village of all loving together?

Whoa. Hold up. These are two adults with good communication skills, right?

Why is one trying to get the other "to participate so that you all have a good time?" That sounds childish and even controlling.

[Diplomat]

Ever been in a situation where your partner just does not get along with a good friend or doesnt participate in a business social setting? How do you try to draw them in and get them to participate so that you all have a good time and its not weirdly uncomfortable? Do you just accept that never the 2 shall mix, or keep trying for a happy village of all loving together?

The former. Why compel one's partner to accept a friend they really don't care for?