mi need fi tap......

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: mi need fi tap......

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: 7777</div><div class="ubbcode-body">de hole of unno funny how unno can talk inna parables.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

just chop off the tallie, and dat would mek u feel better.. </div></div>


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[7777]

Re: mi need fi tap......

yeah me see.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[ILP]

Re: mi need fi tap......

but isnt this the same man that "got on your nerves" back in NY [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] I thought you told him to get lost way before you even decided to move [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

scratch mi head....

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: mi need fi tap......

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Juss_ILP</div><div class="ubbcode-body">but isnt this the same man that "got on your nerves" back in NY [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] I thought you told him to get lost way before you even decided to move [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

scratch mi head.... </div></div>

Yes ILP it is the same person and I did tell him to get lost.

It's very complicated....I need an answer or for it to make sense...... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img]

[7777]

Re: mi need fi tap......

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Juss_ILP</div><div class="ubbcode-body">but isnt this the same man that "got on your nerves" back in NY [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] I thought you told him to get lost way before you even decided to move [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

scratch mi head.... </div></div> spreadsheet.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/popcorn.gif[/img]
maybe she did just a talk fe see wha him wayna go do, but him leff and pledge him undying love fe har and him come bak....
You know how dat go.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img]

[7777]

Re: mi need fi tap......

seeit deh..
Him come back..
Now me haffe tun Ms Kurlie..
den why u pick up back the heavy suitcase missis??
You had u change fe empty the grip, and u choose fe leff it full

Ok guys, me real other nine to five job is calling..touch base lata.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wavey.gif[/img]

[Kurlie]

Re: mi need fi tap......

don't be angry..sometimes our lessons come in different messages...life is what you make of it Tilly and if you are angry, you are the one who decides to be angry and if you are happy you are the one who decides to happy. You being angry is only making him win. People come into our lives for a reason and for a season.....you know that poem. Right now both of you are on two different levels in life..keep moving up, its for the better. I always tell my husband that there is no end to life, its keeps moving and changing and unless we keep moving and changing with it we will get run over.

[Gen]

Re: mi need fi tap......

what ms kurlie seh and chuss mi yuh nuh waan get run ovah [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

[Kurlie]

Re: mi need fi tap......

..but mek mi ask you somting Tilly? if tings neva a go rite a ny wah mek you ting ie would go rite a GA?

[ILP]

Re: mi need fi tap......

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_29</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Juss_ILP</div><div class="ubbcode-body">but isnt this the same man that "got on your nerves" back in NY [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] I thought you told him to get lost way before you even decided to move [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

scratch mi head.... </div></div>

Yes ILP it is the same person and I did tell him to get lost.
It's very complicated....I need an answer or for it to make sense...... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img] </div></div>

thank you for clearing that up.

OK. I will repeat what I told you back then. However I will try to put it in the context of your move to GA.

TLC, you can only control what you do. Things are complicated because you make them so. If you told this man to get lost way back when, it is beyond my comprehension that you would ask him to make the move with you. It makes me very sad when I see beautiful, talented, and strong women (like yourself) conduct/portray themselves as weak and needy. Women have a gutt/natural instincts, but so many of them choose to ignore what their gutt tells them. Think about it. You told him to get lost back in NY. Why? &lt;---dont answer that here. Deep down inside you already know that it isnt going to work, so now you move to GA and want him to come along because of what now? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] Surely, you dont think the peaches and southern air are gonna make him start being the man that you want and deserve?

I see that you want an answer/explanation as to why he didnt make the move with you. You want the answer to all the crap that makes him who he is. I truly understand that, really I do. But my dear he already gave you the answer. Months ago, years ago. He probably gave you the answer 30 seconds after the two of you met. I truly beleive that people tell you exactly who they are 30 seconds after you meet them. So many times, we (humans) choose not to listen.

Let me ask you this? What if he does give you an answer, will it be good enough? What will you do if you never get an answer from him? Will you remain angry? Will you remain consumed? Will you continue to give him the very energy of your existance? If the answer to any of those are yes, then I am very sad for you. Because you could have remained in NY and saved yourself a lot of money with all that. You could have save yourself the "drama" &lt;----(because that is all this is) of moving hundreds of miles away. You are not a weak woman. I wished that you believed it about yourself. You do not need him. I wished that you believed it. You need no man. I wished that you believed it. All you need is yourself. I wished that you believed it.

TLC. I will repeat what I said before to you those many months ago.

Embrace Life....Live.

Live for yourself.
Live for the possibilities of Life and what it has to offer.
Live for the dreams you hold for yourself (not for your son or your parents, or siblings...but the dreams for TLC)
Live for the strength that you have inside of you.
Live for world and all of its beauty
Live for the life you have right now....TODAY.
Live for the laughter and love that is inside of you.
Live.

I wish that you could do it for yourself, but it is obvious that you are not there yet. So do it for your son. Until you can find the strength and perseverance (that you have already) to do it for yourself.

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[Kurlie]

Re: mi need fi tap......

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/notworthy.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/notworthy.gif[/img]

...and even if he agrees to be the man that you want..how long can he play dat roll...darling, he is not the man for you and you are not the woman for him if you have to keeping doing this. Give herself some time with you, eventually the right person will come along.

[Gen]

Re: mi need fi tap......

mi did miss that chread mths ago it look like [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]



mi just tek this from one book me reading, eat pray love anybody read it yet ?

"in desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding that they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place"

[Gen]

Re: mi need fi tap......

sisters unnu preach it. praise the lord [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70384-praying.gif[/img]


I said "praise the lord" [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70384-praying.gif[/img]


we must see the light

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: mi need fi tap......

Thank you so much ILP [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-bawlout.gif[/img]

Everything you said is 100% right and I need to let go completely....I needed to do that a long time ago.

I have been blessed with being able to start a new life in a new state with my son, and I need to concentrate on that. Its just hard when you invest so much in a relationship and its like a waste of time...oops I mean I have learned so much from this.

You're right, I don't need an answer because its already been given. Dang....this is harder than I thought. But you live, learn and move on. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]


Thank you so much ILP..... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

[ILP]

Re: mi need fi tap......

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Freaky_Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">"in desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding that they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place" </div></div>

daht chroo to rhatid, enoh?