Is this a booty call or will the guy committ

[Xavier]

Suh mi ave a lady fren whey a guh out wid a yout fe 3 years now. Dem been on an haff during dat time. My yout seh im want ah open "fun" relationship. She a look fe de yout fe commit but im nuh wan fe do dat. So jus de odda day dem "off" an she find man. Few months latah she bruk up wid de new man an back wid de yout. Suh de odda day de yout ovah ar house and answah ar cellie while she a bade (nuh ax why she gi im de passwud). My yute si some tantalizing text exchange betwix she an de ole fill in bwayfren. Mi yout hurt an broke it aff. She seh im dis it out an play but de wan time she play im cyan hangle it even though de relationship "open".

Couple days latah im call ar back a bawl. My gurl tek im back even dough im still nuh commit. Mi and some oddah male friends tell her dat she jus a "booty call" cause a 3 year now....wha yuh tink



PS: Mi a use de patois cause yuh neva know ef di smaddy ah pree dis...dwl

[CeaBee]

everybody (especially the men, and including she) know the ansa.

maybe is a Friendship with benefits now after 3 years. ...and the fact that dem hang out.

[Suesumba]

Friendship with benefits now after 3 years. ...and the fact that dem hang out.

i think deep down he feels that it's a relationship. some men view sex as love without deep thinking it

- they don't want to *answer* to anyone. i think she should be free to do whatever she wants - she's not married to him. and he wants and open relationship.

[CeaBee]

maybe. maybe she's the "main" girlfriend and the other women is the booty call

[j-kid]

Most definately. Wha else would yuh call it?

Obviously di two ah dem obsessed wid eachother's plumbing caa dem very much whipped an addicted tuh watevva di oddwan ah dish out. Him obviously is unclogging har plumbing very good, an shi in turn ah mek sure him plunger stay well preserved, lubed an flexible.

[Suesumba]

men wildly over estimate themselves IMO -- we women don't. that's his ticket dem nevva tink seh same time demma jook yu - yu a jook dem bak tu. hand me the condominiums

[Peasie]

This relationship sounds like some codependency is going on and it's not just about the sex. Witness the cell phone incident. That trick is so old. She made that sexting thing up and he fell for it.

It seems to me that neither person is communicating clearly to the other what they want in this relationship. What they each say to their friends is not what they are saying to each other.

Why do grown people play these silly games?

[CeaBee]

I think everybody know the deal. One of them just hoping it turn into something more.

[Peasie]

Yeah, you're right. But they are not communicating what they want from each other. They're assuming the other knows.

[Suesumba]

other.

Why do grown people play these silly games?

tee hee ...

[Tropicana]

Suh mi ave a lady fren whey a guh out wid a yout fe 3 years now. Dem been on an haff

So Xavier is a real Jamaican.

during dat time. My yout seh im want ah open "fun" relationship. She a look fe de yout fe commit but im nuh wan fe do dat. So jus de odda day dem "off" an she find man. Few months latah she bruk up wid de new man an back wid de yout. Suh de odda day de yout ovah ar house and answah ar cellie while she a bade (nuh ax why she gi im de passwud). My yute si some tantalizing text exchange betwix she an de ole fill in bwayfren. Mi yout hurt an broke it aff. She seh im dis it out an play but de wan time she play im cyan hangle it even though de relationship "open".

Couple days latah im call ar back a bawl. My gurl tek im back even dough im still nuh commit. Mi and some oddah male friends tell her dat she jus a "booty call" cause a 3 year now....wha yuh tink

A friends wid benefits dat. If shed did want a serious relationship leading to marriage, she would a nevah




Tell her to stop making a spectacle of herself and move on. Clearly the guy is just using her to get his oil changed until he finds someone he is really into. He just ain't that into her at tall.

[j-kid]

Yuh had doubts? I tought yuh met him before, he has bin to Canada ah few times?

So Xavier is a real Jamaican.