mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

**FrenchTickla** · 01-31-2008, 04:14 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

i can

<ul>[*]contribute money for food for the family[*]participate by dropping off meals[*]email/call him and ask him to pass on my best wishes to her and the family[*]maintain di status quo (caw mi a wonder ef she a go buff mi especially since mi nuh know ef she know why mi really stop hang around)[/list]

mi lef mi sistren cindy a voicemail likkle while fi ask har suggestion caw a tink she maintained relationships with them and maybe can tell mi wat state of mind trisha will be in regarding any gestures from mi.

mi sorry fi har caw mi just watch mi girl aunt go thru treatment too and it not easy. we all had to plan our lives around her and giving her as much support as possible.

so wah u wuda do?

**CeaBee** · 01-31-2008, 04:15 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

i would guh help her.

but then me doan tend to hold things for very long.

**MsExced** · 01-31-2008, 04:18 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

I would help her thru the church until you know how she's feeling about you, but help in anyway you can.

**FrenchTickla** · 01-31-2008, 04:20 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Ms Exced</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I would help her thru the church until you know how she's feeling about you, but help in anyway you can. </div></div>

Kia and MsExced, I don't do church - well not their church anymore. without going into alla di details, i'd rather not have to go through a church.

**seemiyah** · 01-31-2008, 04:32 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

How you hear that she is sick? If it is thru work and they doing something as co-workers you can go that route. So cindy still deh wid him? How she would know what trisha state of mind is, obviously Trisha don't know dat she deh wid har husband if she an har a fren? Send her a card with get well soon and call me if you need help. Di end.

**FrenchTickla** · 01-31-2008, 04:51 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: seemiyah</div><div class="ubbcode-body">How you hear that she is sick? If it is thru work and they doing something as co-workers you can go that route. So cindy still deh wid him? How she would know what trisha state of mind is, obviously Trisha don't know dat she deh wid har husband if she an har a fren? Send her a card with get well soon and call me if you need help. Di end. </div></div>

i heard this mawning thru the people of color mailing list.

no, everybody back wid dem owna husband or wife now. i believe they remained friends 'cause i know they have had barbecues or such get togethers at each other house. really these are *decent people so i believe they can be friends after all of this. but i still don't know if trisha know everything.

maybe i needed to sit with this fi anedda day or so. it just shock mi and mi waan do something. yeah her cancer is not my problem but this woman and her family helped me although they didn't even realize they were doing that. i was thousands of miles from friends and family and they gave me a sense of belonging. so i feel i must do something.

but at the same time, she may not want anything to do with me. i figure cindy should know how she doing.

i think the safest thing to do would be to just deposit money in the account created for the family and call it a day.

the more humane and compassionate thing to do would be to reach out to her. but part of me feels that may be more appropriate after she has completed the worst part of the treatment and has started recovery.

in the meantime i wonder if i shud just send him an email [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

*nuff a wi have tings inna wi closet. mi was just unfortunate to be exposed to theirs

**Bizzy** · 01-31-2008, 04:56 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: FrenchTickla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">i
mi lef mi sistren cindy a voicemail likkle while fi ask har suggestion caw a tink she maintained relationships with them and maybe can tell mi wat state of mind trisha will be in regarding any gestures from mi.

</div></div>All mi can say is cindy is a wicked an evilous person. Shi frig off de ooman man an fix fi har marriage an still a show har face to de ooman? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

shi dyam brite an outta orda. Imagine annuh yuh have affair wid yuh fren husband an a yuh cut ties wid dem sayka it [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

**Bizzy** · 01-31-2008, 04:59 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

Unu lucky...bout decent..mi wooden waan fi know say smaddy who mi consider fren sleep wid my husband (ova an ova till him a profess undying love an a fight ova har) deh roun mi. Wedda dem end it or not [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img] Disgus mi [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad.gif[/img] Blasted thread jus get mi inna bad mood now\o/
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: FrenchTickla</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: seemiyah</div><div class="ubbcode-body">How you hear that she is sick? If it is thru work and they doing something as co-workers you can go that route. So cindy still deh wid him? How she would know what trisha state of mind is, obviously Trisha don't know dat she deh wid har husband if she an har a fren? Send her a card with get well soon and call me if you need help. Di end. </div></div>

i heard this mawning thru the people of color mailing list.

no, everybody back wid dem owna husband or wife now. i believe they remained friends 'cause i know they have had barbecues or such get togethers at each other house. really these are *decent people so i believe they can be friends after all of this. but i still don't know if trisha know everything.

maybe i needed to sit with this fi anedda day or so. it just shock mi and mi waan do something. yeah her cancer is not my problem but this woman and her family helped me although they didn't even realize they were doing that. i was thousands of miles from friends and family and they gave me a sense of belonging. so i feel i must do something.

but at the same time, she may not want anything to do with me. i figure cindy should know how she doing.

i think the safest thing to do would be to just deposit money in the account created for the family and call it a day.

the more humane and compassionate thing to do would be to reach out to her. but part of me feels that may be more appropriate after she has completed the worst part of the treatment and has started recovery.

in the meantime i wonder if i shud just send him an email [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

*nuff a wi have tings inna wi closet. mi was just unfortunate to be exposed to theirs </div></div>

**seemiyah** · 01-31-2008, 05:13 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

Calm down Z [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] I think it is odd however that you and Cindy can remain frens and the wronged party (trisha) get lef out in di cole. I think in your heart you want to reach out to her an since is neva she trouble you and you can all a say hi to di whoring husband an fren wid di concubine notting nuh wrong if you reach out to di ooman.

**FrenchTickla** · 01-31-2008, 05:15 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

hush ladyz. maybe a me bline but tru as how mi nuh really 'mongst dem nuh more, it nuh bodda mi at all seh dem a fren. mi just assume seh dem find peace somehow or dem continuing to lie to trisha. regardless, a nuh mi business although mi a go ask cindy wen mi talk to her.

by di way, mi and cindy are more like acquaintances now. mi still love har but mi nuh hang out wid har and we ongle talk pon di phone like 3 times a year fi check in. to me dat is enuf.

**FrenchTickla** · 02-01-2008, 02:30 PM

Re: mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

mi just talk to cindy.

turns out dem neva dat chummy anymore. fi har husband ask har fi cut contact wid danny. and back when cindy try meet wid trisha fi explain and beg forgiveness, trisha neva waan hear it.

so as far as mi know trisha nuh waan nutten fi do wid mi based on the lies danny tell har bout mi a few years ago.

as to her health; sounds like it bad. her cancer has metasticized. i figure that is not good but mi just check di definition and it mean seh di primary tumors spawn other tumors that start to grow within normal tissue in the body.

she's had a double mastectomy and she is ongle like 37 [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crybaby.gif[/img]

mi sorry for them but i will maintain di status quo and just donate funds for meals for the family as was requested.

mi cut ties wid har, now she have cancer. what to do?

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