Celibacy, No, really, im okay

**annshan2** · 02-09-2008, 10:04 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

**neutral** · 02-09-2008, 10:25 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Phatty</div><div class="ubbcode-body">cel·i·ba·cy (sěl'ə-bə-sē)
n.
Abstinence from sexual intercourse, especially by reason of religious vows.
The condition of being unmarried.

I have had a couple friends ask me this week how do I do it. It's not a magic trick I just do. Why did I do it? Many things, I think I owe it to myself to stay focused on my goals and my son. Especially after the last bad break up I don't think men deserve it anymore. If they can't show me that sex isn't the most important thing on their list, then they sure can't get it. At least, not from me.
For those that don't know next month will officially be 2 years since i've had intercourse, and it's sort of bittersweet.
Bitter, because it is frustrating. It's like going through withdrawals [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]. I have become a little emotional. I'm meaner, more sensitive to comments. Ofcourse, no longer is that release; the exhale only sex can give you or the excercise.
Speaking of excercise, it helps with the frustration and wears your body out. Did you know that excercise can lead to sex, check this out here. That explains the boost in popularity the first time I lost weight, confidence[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]
Sweet, because it's nice to look back and say, 'Wow, I did it!' With all the stress thrown at me in the past two years, I seemed to have held back. The temptations, oh the temptations. With biting the inside of my now sore lips i've seem to keep myself focused.
Now i'm not gonna act like there were times that I saw someone that was handsome and lust came into play. Where you were able to see him walk by and he turns around and is walking towards me, wow wait, he's walking towards me![img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek2.gif[/img] I straighten my posture and try and act as if I didn't notice his fine self. As he talks to me and the good angel and bad angel are both sitting on my shoulders trying to make what I was doing seem right/wrong.
Good Angel: Now you know he's not celibate, and may not stand for it, he's complimented you so far on your sexy lips and sexy smile. Sex is already on his mind!!
Bad Angel: Come on, you've been a good girl for so long and what has it gotten you? Nothing! Look at him, he's God's creation. He'd want you to have him, devour him.
Good Angel: Yeah like the other's? Phatty you came this far. You know this guy isn't looking for anything real. You want real now, those days for settling are over.
'Thank you, but i'm not interested right now.'
So yeah it's been rough, but it's also been proud.
Maybe, I am dry and shriveled up[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif[/img] But i'm not heartbroken, emotionally drained or have a feeling of emptiness.
I'm just a mean girl with an attitude problem [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]
Mi proud ah miself [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/desdentado.gif[/img], thanx for reading [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/icon_hug.gif[/img]

Si how unoo suh dead todeh, yuh mek mi write?!! </div></div>

With all due respect,but if a woman decide to abstain from sex, why shout it out or wear it like a badge of honour,isnt that their decision and something to be kept private...?

I read newspapers where young women write in and practically boast how virtuous and upstanding they are because they are still a virgin ,..and I think to myself,..oh get a freeking life,just because you chose not to be shagged for whatever reason why do you think the rest of us need to know about it.

**Phatty** · 02-09-2008, 10:31 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

Why should someone be quiet about not having sex, when so many are here talking about having it. I believe everyone who doesn't have sex has just as much right to talk about it as those who talk about their sexual escapades and positions and whatsoever. Since when being celibate, have to be a private matter? It's just how things are.

**Seveen** · 02-09-2008, 10:36 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

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i hear ya' gurl</span>

**neutral** · 02-09-2008, 10:47 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Phatty</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Why should someone be quiet about not having sex, when so many are here talking about having it. I believe everyone who doesn't have sex has just as much right to talk about it as those who talk about their sexual escapades and positions and whatsoever. Since when being celibate, have to be a private matter? It's just how things are. </div></div>

To be quite frank I dont think being celibate is any kind of achievement,many people remain celibate because no one will have sex with them,maybe because they are too ugly,too fat,ill,or for numerous other reasons.

Since when being celibate has to be a public matter,..isnt it a private choice..?

personally I think that the ability to abstain from sex,...and to keep that abstention a private matter,shows more strength and character than shouting it out loudly saying ....."look at me,look how chaste I am,I havent been shagged for 40 years".

**Seveen** · 02-09-2008, 10:55 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Newtral</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I havent been shagged for 40 years". </div></div>

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**Phatty** · 02-09-2008, 11:06 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Newtral</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Phatty</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Why should someone be quiet about not having sex, when so many are here talking about having it. I believe everyone who doesn't have sex has just as much right to talk about it as those who talk about their sexual escapades and positions and whatsoever. Since when being celibate, have to be a private matter? It's just how things are. </div></div>

To be quite frank I dont think being celibate is any kind of achievement,many people remain celibate because no one will have sex with them,maybe because they are too ugly,too fat,ill,or for numerous other reasons.

Since when being celibate has to be a public matter,..isnt it a private choice..?

personally I think that the ability to abstain from sex,...and to keep that abstention a private matter,shows more strength and character than shouting it out loudly saying ....."look at me,look how chaste I am,I havent been shagged for 40 years". </div></div>

Well maybe for some people being celibate is not a choice for me, it is. The reason I wrote the thread was not to say look at me im celibate and im better than anyone else. I wrote in response to how my friends/peers react when they do find out that I am. As far as not saying it and hiding it. That doesn't show strength to me at all, it makes no difference. So should I have more respect for those who are having sex and talking about it than those who refrain from it and dont. This is one of those things where double standards come into play.
Where is it that respect comes in, if your having sex and talking about it or not having sex and not talking about it.
It seems as if this little tidbit was about my risque behaviors and i'm proud of it, would have been better accepted.

**Nylah** · 02-09-2008, 11:14 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It seems as if this little tidbit was about my risque behaviors and i'm proud of it, would have been better accepted. </div></div>

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I have to admit Phatty, my eyebrows shot up when I first started reading your post, and then realized that that is a double standard.
cause lord knows, my eyebrows shoot up over the ridiculously personal sexual stuff I see put out on the BB too [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

so u see, u are damned if you do and damned if you dont. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

**neutral** · 02-09-2008, 11:23 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Phatty</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Newtral</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Phatty</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Why should someone be quiet about not having sex, when so many are here talking about having it. I believe everyone who doesn't have sex has just as much right to talk about it as those who talk about their sexual escapades and positions and whatsoever. Since when being celibate, have to be a private matter? It's just how things are. </div></div>

To be quite frank I dont think being celibate is any kind of achievement,many people remain celibate because no one will have sex with them,maybe because they are too ugly,too fat,ill,or for numerous other reasons.

Since when being celibate has to be a public matter,..isnt it a private choice..?

personally I think that the ability to abstain from sex,...and to keep that abstention a private matter,shows more strength and character than shouting it out loudly saying ....."look at me,look how chaste I am,I havent been shagged for 40 years". </div></div>

Well maybe for some people being celibate is not a choice for me, it is. The reason I wrote the thread was not to say look at me im celibate and im better than anyone else. I wrote in response to how my friends/peers react when they do find out that I am. As far as not saying it and hiding it. That doesn't show strength to me at all, it makes no difference. So should I have more respect for those who are having sex and talking about it than those who refrain from it and dont. This is one of those things where double standards come into play.
Where is it that respect comes in, if your having sex and talking about it or not having sex and not talking about it.
It seems as if this little tidbit was about my risque behaviors and i'm proud of it, would have been better accepted. </div></div>

first of all let me just say that having sex is as natural as daffodils in spring,its as nature intended.

You say you wrote the thread as a result of how your friends react when you tell them,and my point is,....why the heck are you telling your friends that you are not getting shagged,..why do they need to know if its your choice,..are you looking for a pat on the back,...(in a non erogenous zone)lol.
I dont know what you term as "risque" behaviour,..unless you are talking about having wild sex sex in the middle of times square during lunch hour.

To me if your not having sex then you have absolutely 4x to talk about regarding sex,..so why talk about it...?

**Phatty** · 02-09-2008, 11:29 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Newtral</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Phatty</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Newtral</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Phatty</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Why should someone be quiet about not having sex, when so many are here talking about having it. I believe everyone who doesn't have sex has just as much right to talk about it as those who talk about their sexual escapades and positions and whatsoever. Since when being celibate, have to be a private matter? It's just how things are. </div></div>

To be quite frank I dont think being celibate is any kind of achievement,many people remain celibate because no one will have sex with them,maybe because they are too ugly,too fat,ill,or for numerous other reasons.

Since when being celibate has to be a public matter,..isnt it a private choice..?

personally I think that the ability to abstain from sex,...and to keep that abstention a private matter,shows more strength and character than shouting it out loudly saying ....."look at me,look how chaste I am,I havent been shagged for 40 years". </div></div>

Well maybe for some people being celibate is not a choice for me, it is. The reason I wrote the thread was not to say look at me im celibate and im better than anyone else. I wrote in response to how my friends/peers react when they do find out that I am. As far as not saying it and hiding it. That doesn't show strength to me at all, it makes no difference. So should I have more respect for those who are having sex and talking about it than those who refrain from it and dont. This is one of those things where double standards come into play.
Where is it that respect comes in, if your having sex and talking about it or not having sex and not talking about it.
It seems as if this little tidbit was about my risque behaviors and i'm proud of it, would have been better accepted. </div></div>

first of all let me just say that having sex is as natural as daffodils in spring,its as nature intended.

You say you wrote the thread as a result of how your friends react when you tell them,and my point is,....why the heck are you telling your friends that you are not getting shagged,..why do they need to know if its your choice,..are you looking for a pat on the back,...(in a non erogenous zone)lol.
I dont know what you term as "risque" behaviour,..unless you are talking about having wild sex sex in the middle of times square during lunch hour.

To me if your not having sex then you have absolutely 4x to talk about regarding sex,..so why talk about it...? </div></div>

You act as if being celibate is like me having a disease. Sex is human, yes. Is sex a choice too, yes it is. And its not like I walk into a room with friends and say my name is Phatty btw im celibate. People talk about sex a lot, A LOT. So when they come to me and as a question referring to recent sexual activities, yes I say it and im damn proud of it. Cuz most of the responses is, "I couldn't do it."
If you give me a bullhorn i'll say it into that too. I remove myself from di convo gwan chat [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

**neutral** · 02-09-2008, 11:30 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Empress_Nylah</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It seems as if this little tidbit was about my risque behaviors and i'm proud of it, would have been better accepted. </div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70458-applaud.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70458-applaud.gif[/img]

I have to admit Phatty, my eyebrows shot up when I first started reading your post, and then realized that that is a double standard.
cause lord knows, my eyebrows shoot up over the ridiculously personal sexual stuff I see put out on the BB too [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

so u see, u are damned if you do and damned if you dont. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

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Yes I agree,but lets face it,is revealing that you`re celibate a valid reaction to whats being put up on a bulletin regarding sex...?

Isnt celibacy also a very personal stuff..?

**Nylah** · 02-09-2008, 11:33 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

i dont quite understand what u mean Newtral when you say

<span style="color: #000099">...is revealing that you`re celibate a valid reaction to whats being put up on a bulletin regarding sex</span>

if the context is correct, why would it not be a valid response?
maybe i an mis-understanding the point you are making [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

**diabolical_Tanya** · 02-09-2008, 11:34 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bubble.gif[/img] I'm not having sex at the moment [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bubble.gif[/img] an I'm not talking about it [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img] That will change next week when [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70377-loveeyes.gif[/img] comes home from the rigs [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bubble.gif[/img] an I'm still not going to talk about it [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bubble.gif[/img]

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

**niceniss** · 02-09-2008, 11:38 PM

Re: Celibacy, No, really, im okay

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Newtral</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Empress_Nylah</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">It seems as if this little tidbit was about my risque behaviors and i'm proud of it, would have been better accepted. </div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70458-applaud.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70458-applaud.gif[/img]

I have to admit Phatty, my eyebrows shot up when I first started reading your post, and then realized that that is a double standard.
cause lord knows, my eyebrows shoot up over the ridiculously personal sexual stuff I see put out on the BB too [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

so u see, u are damned if you do and damned if you dont. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

</div></div>

Yes I agree,but lets face it,is revealing that you`re celibate a valid reaction to whats being put up on a bulletin regarding sex...?

Isnt celibacy also a very personal stuff..?

</div></div>
blathering about when u have sex, how often and who with, positions and activities are also personal too(way more personal, in fact) but that doesnt stop anyone from sharing such info...

Celibacy, No, really, im okay

Celibacy, No, really, im okay

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