Dating and Money

[LusciousJohnson]

Re: Dating and Money

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Fancy [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: kingy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">start look fi see who inna dis post might deh wid me since dem so proud and wont tek money from man.


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[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Pepper</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Of course its OK to accept. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70379-moneyeyes.gif[/img] </div></div>

Does acceptance come with strings? </div></div>

It depends on the man because some men are crazy. My co-worker had a guy stalking her because she accepted money from him and he took that as they were in a relationship. She would walk to the store down the street and he would call her saying "i see you" so she dismissed him becuase she could see he was crazy so the guy started calling her leaving crazy messages (i heard them) about he wanted his money back since she didnt want to be with him and all that. He was threatening her and everything in the voicemails he left. she had to call the police she was so scared.
i personally dont accept money from men i guess because i am stubborn and dont want them to feel like they have any power or control over me. i am VERY independent and let them ALL know that i dont need nothing from them. </div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek.gif[/img]scary guy! Pity your friend never saw signs of his instability.

So now, at what point do we think its ok for $$ to be exchanged? What if you've moved into an exclusive r/ship and he's at your place at least 2 night's per week. What's a good way for him to propose paying a bill, say, or paying for a school trip for yur child?

Does that negate'independence' and 'pride'? Does that still come w/ strings? </div></div>

For me, the only way i would accept money is if we live together and therefore it's his responsibility to pay bills and things of that nature. If we're just dating [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img] he could pay for food when he is at my place or he could pay for us going out on dates and stuff like that. I would accept gifts for holidays and birthdays and stuff. Other than that, i wouldnt accept anything from a man. My kids father takes care of them so IF i needed something for my kids, i would go to their father which he is really good about making sure they dont need anything.

[Jazz]

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If ah man waan gimme money- mi wi tek ei&gt; an if im try come hype up imself mi wi jus CUT IM!! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img]






Ah j/k [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]
mi have a problem - mi too dam proud... man haffe shub dat dung my troat - mi nuh tek money jus so.

Even wen mi did marrid - we have one jint account weh we pay house bills... im have his account an mi have mine 0 dat wy mi nuh haffe account fe how mi spen my money [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

Den agen - mi nevva yet haffe depen pan no man fe pay my bills- mi nuh kine dem school deh [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

im can pay fe dinna etc. an give gifs at birthdays, crismus etc. but das about it!

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: natJazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> im have his account an mi have mine 0 dat wy mi nuh haffe account fe how mi spen my money [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]
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thats the same thing i plan to do when i get married [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/notworthy.gif[/img]

[Pepper]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

For you to obey his every word? Bow down to him? Cater to his every mood and need? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] </div></div>

Dat sound like a slave. And we all know what kinda treatment slave get.

Like me say, if me and him a spar....gifts are always welcome. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/gift.gif[/img]

[MrsBlue]

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<span style="color: #3333FF">While dating I was too independent to ask for or expect money. I've always taken care of my own things, too impatient to wait for anyone to do it for me. But I agree with Kia, now that we're married, I take his and he takes mine. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bannana_purple.gif[/img] </span>

[Gen]

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mi have a control issue & pride issue too [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-bawlout.gif[/img] how mi can get rid a it [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-bawlout.gif[/img]



therefore mi juss pay mi half a the dinner and den seh see yah [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/yahoo.gif[/img]


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">[i personally dont accept money from men i guess because i am stubborn and dont want them to feel like they have any power or control over me. i am VERY independent . </div></div> Ditto, except mi wooden say mi stubborn..more like ha too much pride [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

Apart from mi bredda, big cousin and mi faada mi nuh feel comfortable a tek money from man weh a look mi caw dem ALWAYS gwaan waan sumting back feet nuh matta how dem try gwaan like annuh nutten @ 1st[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

ETA: check reason </div></div>

[Boricua_papi]

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As far as dating is concerned, mi juss write di oomen a check an leff di moment shi open di door pan di firs date. Mi pay di relationship wan way or anodda so might as well get it ova wid an recoup mi finances quick quick. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whatever.gif[/img]

[twiney]

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a long time mi know u a eediot

[Seveen]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Pepper</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Of course its OK to accept. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70379-moneyeyes.gif[/img] </div></div>

Does acceptance come with strings? </div></div>


<span style='font-size: 11pt'>LIFE comes with strings

i hope he has his own bedroom

in his own house

i snore [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]</span>

[kingy]

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questions for yall ladies who dont willingly take the money. Lets say the man always giving you money but because you fell like you are independent..you always say no. now overtime him stop offering....do you hold that against him?

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

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I would answer this, but since you're not talking to me..... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img]

[Gen]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_29</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I would answer this, but since you're not talking to me..... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img] </div></div>


BOAL

weh mi tell yuh bout mi neighbor dem [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img] cho

[Gen]

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IF he knows what's good for him, he will ALWAYS ask even when we say no. you can find that under

Subtitle 69 section 4.25 paragraph IV [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/yahoo.gif[/img]



<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: kingy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">questions for yall ladies who dont willingly take the money. Lets say the man always giving you money but because you fell like you are independent..you always say no. now overtime him stop offering....do you hold that against him? </div></div>

[Bizzy]

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Good answer [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Freaky_Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">IF he knows what's good for him, he will ALWAYS ask even when we say no. you can find that under

Subtitle 69 section 4.25 paragraph IV [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/yahoo.gif[/img]



<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: kingy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">questions for yall ladies who dont willingly take the money. Lets say the man always giving you money but because you fell like you are independent..you always say no. now overtime him stop offering....do you hold that against him? </div></div> </div></div>