HELP!!!

[Moosh Moosh]

I just relaxed my hair this week - and when I was sitting there in the chair my scalp in the front was burning me. After it was washed out I felt a little better then the hair dresser applied my usual rinse color.

When I was under the dryer I looked at my scalp and it looked like my hair fell out on the left side of my temple area!! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img]

I took my daughter to the same shop I go to so she can wash her hair - I showed my hair dresser my temple area and asked her if the hair really drop out - she said - "Oh it look it just a little over processed - it no fall out"

Well I am sorry but it definitely look like it fall out to me!!!! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img]

As of now, I am taking a very long break from relaxing my hair and am serously thinking of going natural. I just hope it is not too late to grow back what has been lost - when I rub my hand over my head it feel like razor stubble on a man's face! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]

If anybody can give me a little advice on the how to care for my hair during the transitional stages of growing out a relaxer - please do. My hair dresser tells me that if I stop relaxing it its going to fall out because of the natural hair being stronger than the processed hair. I don't know what to do anymore.

Thanks. Moosh

[CeaBee]

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mi dont know the answer..but u normally color the same time as u relax?


dem had a thread here on going natural/going locks see if dat will help u noh?

http://www.jamaicans.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=33;t=000572

http://www.jamaicans.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=33;t=000574

[Moosh Moosh]

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Coolbeans - thanks for responding

When I relax I usually get a "Jazzing" rinse color which is not permanent - it washes out gradually and is not damaging to your hair.

The big damage was done to me when a hair dresser I was going to (not the same as the one I am using now) put a relaxer in my hair along with my usual rinse which I was not too pleased with the result so she said I could come back and she would redo it for me - when I went back 4 days later she put what I thought was another rinse - it turned out to be a permanent color - that's when all the trouble started and since then it seems to be touch and go now its just going down hill.

[kia027]

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(((moosh moosh)))

mi did have something like dat happen to me.. color wid a meditteranean relaxer.. it did bex mi [img]/forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img]
so mi did lay offa all dem ting deh fi a while till de new hair grow back

[Moosh Moosh]

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Kia - I think I should listen to my inner voice that's telling me to take a break. I just don't know what I am going to do with my hair it looks good now cuz its freshly burnt, I mean relaxed [img]/forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img] - when it starts to get kinky and puffy I will have to find something else to do with it.

[Lynntt]

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Originally posted by Moosh Moosh:
[qb] My hair dresser tells me that if I stop relaxing it its going to fall out because of the natural hair being stronger than the processed hair. [/qb]

My sister grew out her perm, and it is true that you have to be very careful to stop breakage when the new growth comes in. Of course, it depends on the strength of your perm in the first place: my sister was only getting a mild perm, so there wasn't a big difference between the texture of the new growth and her permed hair. [Her hair, like mine, is nappy but soft and porous so it doesn't take much to get it straight.] Even then, though, she pressed the new growth so that it wouldn't look odd - 2 inches of curly hair, 14 inches of permed hair - until it got to a length where she was comfortable getting it cut. For her it was about 8 inches, which was wierd for her because she's had long hair her whole life.

On the other hand, I have a good friend who also decided to grow out her perm. Her natural hair texture is a lot coarser and nappier than my sister's, so she used a strong perm to get it as straight as she wanted. Once her new growth got to an inch or so the difference between her natural texture and her permed hair was so marked that her hair started breaking very badly. So badly, in fact, that she just cut it off and wore braided extensions until her own hair grew out.

These are just two women I know who had different experiences with growing out perms, but I know lots of others. The ease of the growing out process really seems to depend on the difference between the texture of your hair and the texture of your permed hair. One indicator might be how often you get a touch-up. I go every 3 months or so as did my sister; the friend who chose to cut off her perm and get braids got touch-ups every 5 or 6 weeks. Another indicator might be the strength of your perm - it seems like the weaker the perm the easier it is to grow out which makes sense to me.


Good luck!

[kia027]

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Originally posted by Moosh Moosh:
[qb] Kia - I think I should listen to my inner voice that's telling me to take a break. I just don't know what I am going to do with my hair it looks good now cuz its freshly burnt, I mean relaxed [img]/forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img] - when it starts to get kinky and puffy I will have to find something else to do with it. [/qb]

lots of deep conditioning and easy to comb styles should work - twists, braids?

[Moosh Moosh]

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Lynntt- I don't really know what strength relaxer they use on me - if I were to assume - which I know is dangerous - I would say regular - I don't need a super. My hair texture in the front of my head is a bit course and wavy and the back of my head is not course at all.

Thanks for your response - I appreciate it [img]/forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

[Moosh Moosh]

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Originally posted by Kia:
lots of deep conditioning and easy to comb styles should work - twists, braids?

I would not mind that - do you think it would make my temple weaker and cause more breakage ?

[kia027]

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I just read seh u have fenky fenky hair (different textures on different parts of your head) [img]/forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img]

I think you should not pull on the twists & braids.. or keep a style where it is styled forward until the hair grows in

[Lynntt]

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Seeing what Kia wrote I do remember that a lady I used to work with grew out her perm by wearing twists. They always looked cute, and you really couldn't tell where the relaxed hair ended and the new growth started.

Just remembered another friend who didn't want to cut her hair and got sisterlocks. They didn't have to cut off her permed hair to put them in, and they still look great over a year later.

And a good relaxer is key whenever your hair is relaxed - relaxers rob your hair of natural oils. Now that I think about it, my sister started using Kerastase moisturizing conditioners when she was growing out her perm. She would leave the conditioner on for an hour so that she could comb out her hair.

[Moosh Moosh]

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Thanks Kia - that sounds like a start [img]/forums/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]ray:

[Moosh Moosh]

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Lyntt - I will look for that conditioner you mention. The Salon I go to uses alot of Mizani products - the conditioner is called Moisturfuse

[Moosh Moosh]

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Do I have to go to a salon that specializes in natural hair to get the twists? How much on the average do they cost?

[kia027]

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oh & dont forget seh u can use scarves and headbands as style too