My mother said

[kia027]

I was evil to fling the boypickney clothes into the backyard

I say no because

1) He has a laundry basket in his bedroom that was half full
2) I specifically asked him to clean up his room and he said he had done so
3) the clothes were flung in a next pile away from the half empty laundry basket
4) The tags for the new clothes were dropped all over the floor (yes he has a waste basket in his room and does know how to use it).


Now I am thinking of taking todays clothes and flinging dem out the window again and placing the tags for todays' clothes in his bed which, of course he had not made.. but had time to watching morning joe

and fi the child advocates.. the boy is a teenager now so is nat child labour mi a force pon im but self responsibility

[CeaBee]

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You're so hood

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CeaBee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You're so hood </div></div>

is my contractor teach me bout dis cause im have 2 teenagers and when im do it, the boys straighten up. The contractor grew up in Antigua so mussi learn de hood ways dere

1) the clothes are usually their favorites so they will miss them
2) when it rains dem get well vex but dem learn whe dem haffi fi do fi a while den dem relapse and stawt the process again

[Bizzy]

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[sistacaf]

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cha. ain't a thing wrong with 'consequences'. if u fall into a pattern of asking and asking and asking, and he comes to realize seh he no hafffi <span style="font-weight: bold">do</span> nuthin but tell u 'yes OK mi did it', and u only agoh ask again but not do nothin about it.... and so on and so on and so on ...that only becomes 'nagging', which he will continue to ignore, cause he knows he <span style="font-style: italic">can.</span> which gets u noweh.

so done talk. Do. Make him know seh actions &amp; choices have consequences, yes.

i mean really, this is nothing that goh hurt the child, and it directly responds to the issue at hand; the consequences directly relate to the problem. if he wants them clothes then he either have to take care a dem, or lose them. i feel seh it's fine.

[MsExced]

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Did this to son, took him awhile to figure out seh mi serious.

Now my sister is doing it to rugrat. Rugrat was getting very creative with putting the dirty clothes everywhere but the hamper.

[kia027]

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Mummy 0 - me 4

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Ms Exced</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Did this to son, took him awhile to figure out seh mi serious.

Now my sister is doing it to rugrat. Rugrat was getting very creative with putting the dirty clothes everywhere but the hamper. </div></div>

it is a boy thing isn't it

[Wendy]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mummy 0 - me 4 </div></div>

Add one more

If dem noh get di message the nice and calm way den yuh jus havi get hood pan dem

[twiney]

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add one more to it ... my bro gave the clothes to good will her never had to tell them to clean the room again.

[Gen]

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remind yuh madda seh is <span style="font-weight: bold">your</span> house and that the child is still a minor living in <span style="font-weight: bold">your</span> house and that when him move out guh college him can do wah him want

[JamBrit]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I was evil to fling the boypickney clothes into the backyard

I say no because

1) He has a laundry basket in his bedroom that was half full
2) I specifically asked him to clean up his room and he said he had done so
3) the clothes were flung in a next pile away from the half empty laundry basket
4) The tags for the new clothes were dropped all over the floor (yes he has a waste basket in his room and does know how to use it).


Now I am thinking of taking todays clothes and flinging dem out the window again and placing the tags for todays' clothes in his bed which, of course he had not made.. but had time to watching morning joe

and fi the child advocates.. the boy is a teenager now so is nat child labour mi a force pon im but self responsibility </div></div>

I probably wouldn't have thought of doing what you did, but you're not evil....that's a good way to teach him a lesson and to be more responsible for his actions or lack thereof.

[julie*mango]

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[Gen]

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mine is much younger and mi always a remind har seh the garbage chute is right around the corner (ie mi nuh have nuh problem a fling it weh)

all pan the floor full up a staple and mi tell har seh she can gwaan leff it deh till she end up a hawspital fi one tetnus &quot;shot&quot;

[ILP]

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well mi ongly eva have 2 times when mi had fi demonstrate to a young person that was in my house just how much of a &quot;crazy jamaican&quot; (&lt;--as dem call mi afta) i was....

mi memba one time mi told babygirlA 2 times in di said week daht har bookbag haffi go in har room cah mi trip ova it, when it drap at di front door. well di dead know mi tell you once cah you need di info. mi repeat it di second time cah you may not have heard mi, at daht time mi gwine ask you fi repeat wah mi seh just so mi sure you understand wah mi said.

well di third time mi dash bookbag (wid alla har school tings) outside inna di trashcan. mi neva even pawt mi lips di tell har weh dem was when she stawt search fi it.

one next time, she pawt har lips fi ask mi &quot;what my problem was&quot; when wi was inna store. mi ansa har by giving har a money fi call har muddah fi come get har. mi drive weh lef har right deh.

yeah, mi crazy....

teen pikney will tell you when asked daht dem sin first ahn beg forgiveness later. dem nu blieve people mean wah dem seh..till you show dem. talk is cheap, indeed.