Is this a cop out

[applepie]

Re: Is this a cop out

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ceabee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">how long she been living like this?

maybe in six months or a year she look back and cant believe that she it took her so long to make a move. </div></div>

believe it or not for the past 3 years that I know of, but I think it stem further than that........it was always a roller coaster.......visiting everybody on best behaviour........calls from her start to get more frequent so me believe it really a stress her now but others and myself have offered different solutions but she no jump on none.........so me feel she too afraid she wont make it on her own and just using the child as excuse.

[applepie]

Re: Is this a cop out

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: britisha</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: applepie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">or what.........leaving will hurt/tramatize (sp) the child/children more.......in the meantime......

a) Behind two payments in mortgage
b) No explaination as to what happen to some of the money in joint account.
c) Living like room mates
d) verbal abuse.......and the striking list goes on......

<span style="font-style: italic">mi no understand that ratinale if a dat you a live wid </span> </div></div>

What about temporary separation and counselling? <span style="color: #339999"> counselling only work for people who want to change, can change or will at least make an effort....he is not willing to do counselling that is what she says</span>


Divorce DOES traumatise children, and opens a new can of worms. </div></div> and I think living like that is more traumatizing than divorce and I would not like to live like that............you can talk with child/children plus children are not oblivious to what is going on.

[julie*mango]

Re: Is this a cop out

ppl tend to stay in unfulfilling relationships just for the kids yet they are not willing to work on the relastionship to make it better for themselves AND the children too...totally wrong...