Lie or Omission

[Stormmey]

Re: Lie or Omission

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ILP_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I have absolutely NO tolerance for dishonest people. If you lie (outright), lie by ommision, &quot;forget&quot; to disclose, try to hide after the fact, you can continue.... YOU'RE A GONNER IN MY BOOK. PERIOD.

From what I am reading Stormmey it sounds like you already have a plan in motion...you already know what you are going to do.

Another question? Why did you go to Vancouver to see the mother? And even after seeing the at baby was the &quot;female version&quot; (according to you) of your SO, why did you continue your relationship? </div></div>

I went to Vancouver cause I found out through some digging exactly where the little girl was being babysat. I went more or less to see the little one, not so much the Mother. I guess because even though paternity says it's your kid you still keep saying it is not yours. I came back changed my locks asked him to leave (had all my family with me when I told him)

You lied about that I dont know if you will go off on me, the person who I thought you were obviously you are not. I left some cash for the little one also. Honestly ILP I dont know why I really went, I guess I was hoping the little one would not be is just to assuage myself that is why he walked and did not tell me, I really dont know.

[Stormmey]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Okay first off no reason to blame your self.

1.) how old is the pickney?

2.) why is babymomma just now making contact? or did she lose track of him?

3.) Is it possible that he simply convinced himself it was not his kid and just put the whole issue out of his mind?

4.) have you considered seeing a relationship counselor? </div></div>

The little girl is almost 6, SO is 26. I will be seeing a counselor but not together, this is for me to stop this ache in my heart

[ILP]

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lawd gawd...mi nu know wah fi seh.
smh.
dis kinna ting is...

mi did fool when mi was 20 someting...mi cyan imagine if mi did try fi marry smaddy put on top ah daht.

i am not a person that believes that time heals wounds...time only teaches you how to deal. i am sure you will love again, stormmey. when that time comes and it will...you will love with your brain first, your heart/soul next, your eyes last.

[Peasie]

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Well you're doing all the right things: getting your family to stand by you, counseling, etc. Good for you.

I am suggesting to you that the child thing is just extra drama. I say that gently, Stormz

Your focus should be that someone who you loved and who loved you is not worthy of your love, generous spirit, and your goodness.

[missus_vegas]

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stormmy...so u saying blaze no inna no contact wid mom an child over di last 6 years?

i dont know how all dis paternity ting go.but wouldnt they have to test him...so dat mean seh he was contacted by her or some authority several weeks before dis court orda just show up.

how did you happend to find out about dis now?

[Stormmey]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ILP_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body">lawd gawd...mi nu know wah fi seh.
smh.
dis kinna ting is...

mi did fool when mi was 20 someting...mi cyan imagine if mi did try fi marry smaddy put on top ah daht.

i am not a person that believes that time heals wounds...time only teaches you how to deal. i am sure you will love again, stormmey. when that time comes and it will...you will love

with your brain first, your heart/soul next, your eyes last.

</div></div>

Lawd ILP when I read what you said is now the flood gates open let me power down the puta.

[missus_vegas]

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and how him did waan breed u a gi u five pickny a dem type a man yah love chat bout dem waan nuff pickny

stormmy girl its time for a caribbean vacation at an all inclusive with u best gf. sun bade inna u g-string bikini and sip some jrinks wid fancy umbrella pan it and just try to relax. u still ago bawl an feel sad yes but it gi u time fi refleck and plan ur future.and when all di man dem stawt pssst at u it will remind u that you are all that and he is the one missing out.


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Click to reveal.. <input type="button" class="form-button" value="Show me!" onclick="toggle_spoiler(this, 'Yikes, my eyes!', 'Show me!')" /></div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div style="display: none;">and i dont want non a di man haters dem follow up with...&quot;you shouldn't need a man's attention to mek u feel good about urself cus lets face it nothing sooths the ego more dan a few pssssts</div></div></div>

[FrenchTickla]

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hush stormy. glad ur mommy and therapist is there for u.

mi call off wedding before. it nuh mean seh nutten wrong wid u. better u dweet now rather than get ketch up inna di mess after di fact

[kia027]

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Stormmey

Everyone on here giving you solid advice so I wont repeat but wanted to give you a

[halfwaytree]

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Just be <span style="font-weight: bold">VERY</span> thankful that all this came to light before the wedding and not after.

Sorry this happened and I hope you can work through this and move on to a brighter future.

Talking with a professional counselor is a good start. Other than that I have no advice for you as I totally suck at relationships.

[MsExced]

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Stormmey

[Seveen]

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sorry stormmey1

i think you are doing the right thing! it's hard but the right one is there for you

this too will pass!

[H_O]

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Stormmey:

When I first met Lorna, I was 21.
I had a son who was 8 mos old at the time.
THE FIRST THING IN MY DISCLOSURE to Lorna was I had a son
Now due to circumstances to which I dont want to talk about, I never really got to see him grow up. but every month I paid. Lorna in 18 years has seen him once and Ive seen him maybe 5X. Everyone has bones in there closet, but not divulging that type of pertinent information-eventually comes back to haunt them.
Now could you imagine the reaction from Lorna when this kid shows up when hes 18 which is exactly what happened-except in my case Lorna already knew from the get go.

[H_O]

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because last year when I was out visiting a friend in Nanaimo, BC, he called my house and Lorna answered the phone
But you see, Lorna knew because I covered that basis from the first conversation when I met Lorna in the Line up at the bank at lunch

[Laurel]

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Stormms


Keep your head held high ... you did the right thing ~