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[Nunya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">life can be such a b!tch. sounds like her children are now adults, and if that's the case she is not obligated to help them. and her husband left over this? wonder how she read the story out to him...
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I think it's the shock of finding out that she's a mother and knowing that she'd lied about this for as long as he'd known her - over 10 years.

[MarieK]

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I understand why he left but what does he being american haffi duh wid it.

I can see the husband's point of view however i don't beleive she owes them anything

[Nunya]

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[ILP]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yuh tink she shoulda help? </div></div>

aye sah.
dem woulda get help as in a howdy do, but mi naw file fi none a dem.

[Nunya]

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Well, what about sending them money and such?

[MarieK]

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no.

make that oh heck no.

hole on let me revise that

awwww heeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllllllllll nawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

[Nunya]

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I don't understand!!!!!

[evanovitch]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yeah but Jamaica well hard, an dem a suffa cyaa dun. Plus, no matta what, she lef har pickney dem. Dem did likkle, mi tink say she shoulda did find a way fi help dem before now, an now dat dem a ask har, she cyaa jus tun har back so...

Mi nah say she fi gi de man or har sista nutn. An mi nuh mean say she haffi empty out har bank book fi de pickney an dem pickney... but still...

Aldoa now dat har husban move out... </div></div>

Ja hard an America hard...if dem did a suffa , all like di dawta woulda put phensic between har knee an go do sumting wid har life before she find man...di bwoy already show seh him naw go wuk regardless a whe him deh...she fi tell him fi move go North Coast since him seem able fi di going wuk dung deh an it will be like him deh farrin

dem no ha no feelings fi har n wi use har an abuse har said way wen dem come farrin..love is more dan pregnant an childbirth..she gave dem life an dem mek dem choice wen dem could so mek dem gwane wid it

[Nunya]

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But they were young!!!! Dem didda likkle pickney!!!! Lawks...

k, mi can understan har not wanting to file fi har pickney dem... but wha bout helping dem out financially???? Especially har gran pickney dem????

[evanovitch]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">But they were young!!!! Dem didda likkle pickney!!!! Lawks...

k, mi can understan har not wanting to file fi har pickney dem... but wha bout helping dem out financially???? Especially har gran pickney dem???? </div></div>

if she has no relationship wid har own children y muss she assume one wid grandchildren who probably neva been told a ting about har until now and dat is prably dat she deh farrin n all di expectations dat dat entail


di children were not dat young dat dem neva cut har to di quick wen she did come fi dem...harsh yes, but u lie in di bed u choose...did deh eva wen dem come of age seek har out via odda fambily membas...naw...dem cut har awf n now dem a smell barrel dem a try emotional blackmail....she need fi gwane mek har life cause di day she stop wuk, by their behaviour, she naw go able fi go weh dem a lay dem bed fi get any succour from dem...


a no tru u push a one out dem come out wid love fi u

[Nunya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: evanovitch</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
if she has no relationship wid har own children y muss she assume one wid grandchildren who probably neva been told a ting about har until now and dat is prably dat she deh farrin n all di expectations dat dat entail


di children were not dat young dat dem neva cut har to di quick wen she did come fi dem...harsh yes, but u lie in di bed u choose...did deh eva wen dem come of age seek har out via odda fambily membas...naw...dem cut har awf n now dem a smell barrel dem a try emotional blackmail....she need fi gwane mek har life cause di day she stop wuk, by their behaviour, she naw go able fi go weh dem a lay dem bed fi get any succour from dem...


a no tru u push a one out dem come out wid love fi u </div></div>

Mi nuh knoa if dem eva enquire bout har or actively try fi find har.

But mi feel say she lef dem too easy. Yeah dem rejection did hurt har yes, but she shoulda recognize say a nearly two years before she did try fi go back fi dem, an when de bwoy say whe im say a mus tings whe im hear eena de house when she nayin dideh. Nearly two years since she laas si im an she fling han pon him.

Mi knoa say poor Jamaican maddas are not prone to sentimental displays, but she shoulda did kibba har han.

Yes de man did chreaten fi chop har up, but she shouldan did try likkle harder fi si dem.

She shouldan did fight fi har pickney dem.

Nedda ting: Mi nuh tink she shoulda use de parents (fi har pickney dem) brush fi colour de gran pickney dem. Mi nuh knoa how ol de granpickney dem be, but mi tink dem bout 4-6 or dat. Dem at de age whe dem can be molded.

Frankly mi tink is a chance she get fi set tings right an she should tek ie...

Plus, how long can a one hold on to hurt and anger????

An mi tink she owe it to har dawta whe live wid har fi get fi know har granpickney dem (har dawta niece/nephew)

She affi stop de ostracism man.

[evanovitch]

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so y is she fi set tings right...like i said, if di children were lacking fi har dem wudda di try find out bout har...too many people put di onus on moddas to swallow nuff...wen dem come of age dem could do di adult ting IF dem was interested...obviously dem wussen...

my girl mek decisions weh no seem rite BUT she chose not to tek dem pon di road wen she neva ha even rack stone fi ress har head...ONCE she saw har way clear she went back..DAT speaks volume...

wen a man seh him a go chop u a yaad, it doah mek sense fi u tess him...n wen u BLOOD, u sista do whe dat one do, u no fi tess dem

an occaasional gift at appropriate times is as much as she need fi do...she no fi go mek dem emotionally whitemail har fi tun har life upside dung more dan it has been fi dem...dem wi dis har dirt yet again cause dem ha NOOOO EMOTIONAL FEELINGS INVESTED in har as a modda..she is a visa opportunity at dis point in addition to di remittance and barrel

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">ONCE she saw har way clear she went back..DAT speaks volume...

wen a man seh him a go chop u a yaad, it doah mek sense fi u tess him...n wen u BLOOD, u sista do whe dat one do, u no fi tess dem
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these two things say it all

I dont think she gave up easily at all. If she did she never would have returned. And just think u have the surface of what happened in the relationship between her man and her sister, so what truly did go on it may be lucky she made it out alive.

Nah man, she did the best she could given how they handled her. She did seek them out already. Why is it all on her to continue? Kids are grown now, it is up to THEM to gain some wisdom and act right.

[Nunya]

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But she only made it back because she was 'forced' to... wha kina volume dat speak???

[Nylah]

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She wasnt forced to

she coulda left the island without looking for them.