Chase and Catch

[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Quodlibet</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Compray</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SistaCtry</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Compray</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Auntie are you saying that a woman should play the game? Show a little interest but not the whole 9 yard? </div></div>

exactly, be confident and not needy, and yes indeed, the chase is on, and when him ketch u, <span style="font-weight: bold">no fraid fe let it go pan him</span>~~ </div></div>

Auntie...what exactly wi letting go? </div></div>

Yu bline? Di testament! When shi <span style="font-style: italic">let aff di testament</span>, im fi bawl GLORY...

(BTW, is dat di OLD testament, or di NEW testament?) </div></div>

<span style="font-style: italic">fix mi spectacles, tek out mi exacise book an leddi an tek dung notes</span>

say what now????

[Wendy]

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LOL unu noh easy a baxide

Mi neva ina di chasing mood cause mi fraid fi shame

But mi nat even feel like anybady mi eva deal wid chase mi eida .. it is always developed from a frienship for the most part so mi noh know wey yuh call dat

[sistactry]

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me a go plead a shaggy, it wasnt me sah~~

[twiney]

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Nothing wrong with it as long as you let him think he is pursuing.

[Compry]

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Twiney, help me out. How do you chase but let the guy think he's doing the chasing?

[quodlibet]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body">LOL unu noh easy a baxide

Mi neva ina di chasing mood cause mi fraid fi shame

But mi nat even feel like anybady mi eva deal wid chase mi eida .. it is always developed from a frienship for the most part so mi noh know wey yuh call dat </div></div>

All dat mean is dat di man need fi assure yu seh even if yu put yu put im nah go shame yu...

<span style="font-style: italic">(single mens unnu tekkin notes?)</span>

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SistaCtry</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

u know de song??

<span style="font-style: italic">come tek off u frack fat gyal, come mek me put in me testament </span>

waaiiiee, me a sin me soul to raaa~~ </div></div>

Fuss time mi hear dat, mi a young bwoy a look ooman a crusade...

[Compry]

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Quodlibet, as a guy...how do you feel when a woman pursues you?

[quodlibet]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Compray</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Quodlibet, as a guy...how do you feel when a woman pursues you? </div></div>

Nowadays mi sekkle down, so mi haffi talk bout back then...

Straight ansa is 'it depends', if she huggly like a beast, mi haffi pull a usain bolt - serious ting...

But either way - if no tree nah grow inna har face, or if she crack mi eyeballs dem - mi nah go mek she feel like rubbish - because a people she name...

besides, plenty time di mash up one dem have some good lookin frens an it better yu have a reputation as a gentleman dawg dan a inconsiderate brute...

[Compry]

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So for you, it was a matter of how the woman looked.

It looks like the guy on Facebook was indeed speaking the truth. Men, don't like to be chased.

[quodlibet]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Compray</div><div class="ubbcode-body">So for you, it was a matter of how the woman looked.

It looks like the guy on Facebook was indeed speaking the truth. Men, don't like to be chased. </div></div>

Now I have to be serious for a moment.

Compray - my simple answer is &quot;No, please dont take what I wrote out of context&quot;. Personally, I have no problem with the woman being the 'chaser' but I really dont see the issue that way.

To me, the way people see 'chasing' is basically 'showing interest'.

In my opinion, ANY person who suggests that they flat out do not want anyone of the desired gender to show interest in them has self-esteem issues.

So if the writer makes the argument that 'men dont like to be chased' - he is probably making a value statement based on a few things

1. Being conditioned to believe that &quot;women have something (supply) that men want (demand)&quot; - and never the other way around

2. Application of basic demand/supply means that women should restrict their supply to stimulate demand or increase price/cost

These two things will then lead the writer to conclude that a woman attempting to either reverse the tables by demanding instead of supplying is an abberation OR her willingness to supply is so great that she has lowered her 'price' - making her undesirable in the first place.

In English - she is either stepping out of bounds or she is cheap.

The principle behind this idea as expressed above, is offensive.
[*] <span style="font-weight: bold">I dont believe in putting women in a box.</span>

Further, I believe that the relationship expressed above in the 'demand/supply' type scenario is part of the &quot;Power Relationship&quot; men have established to keep women subjugated.
[*] <span style="font-weight: bold">I believe in women being empowered to be fully participating members of society.</span>

Based on my beliefs, I have no problem with any woman expressing or showing interest in someone, including myself.

Of course, I am human, and I will admit that I am driven to a certain extent on appearances - so I would prefer interest being shown by someone attractive versus someone who is not.

I am willing to guess that that is no different from you I believe - at the initial point before you knew either individual - which of these two would leave the best impression?



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[Nunya]

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As long as he's not pointing the gun at me, then he aight... It's the same person though isn't it???

Anyway, I applaud your statement. As a woman who have no problem in going after what I want, I have been classified a 'chaser'...

I did not ever feel demeaned or cheap because I would chose to show an interest in a man before he could approach me.

I think a lot of this chasing bizniz comes down to self-confidence. I know me. I know what I like. And I am a risk taker. I can handle rejection and I'm not afraid of failure.

I think a man who would be offended or put off by a woman who shows interest wouldn't be a strong enough man for me. And I do love a strong man - a man who's not afraid of allowing me to be me.

[Jazz]

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Well said Nunya and I concur to an extent...

I don;t consider myself a &quot;chaser&quot; perse - I have no problem letting a guy know I like him (doesn;t have to be said in plain words but you have ways that you can demonstrate interest)

If I make the first move and he is interested I then expect him to reciprocate with at least an equal amount of interest. If his interest seems lukewarm or less than mine then I back off - just leave things on a friendly level.

Now most guys I know even if the woman seems less than enthusiastic they will probably try again because they feel they can break her down or warm her up... and in some cases that is true... While I will make the first move I don;t have any moves to put on if a guy nuh show the interest back - meeda haffe borrow a page outta Nunya playa book

I think their definition of chasing is an all out drag dung race and pursuit and if necessary stalking to get weh dem want

Quodlibet - love your response BTW - good to get some honest and straightforward male responses roun here fe ah change

[CeaBee]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">If I make the first move and he is interested I then expect him to reciprocate with at least an equal amount of interest. If his interest seems lukewarm or less than mine then I back off - just leave things on a friendly level.</div></div>

yes, this and the rest of what jazz seh too

[Nunya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jazz</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
I think their definition of chasing is an all out drag dung race and pursuit and if necessary stalking to get weh dem want
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A dat mi a stawt fi tink to...

[twiney]

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Stalking is wrong whoever does it and that mi start wonder if it equate to chasing which I thought was making smaddy know you like them and subtle putting yourself in a position to have access to them and mek them think is them going out of them way to find you.