Open Relationship - Any takers?

[SandiF]

Re: Open Relationship - Any takers?

...or is it that you can't handle the <span style="font-weight: bold">knowledge</span> that he is sharing. You know see and blind hear and deaf.

I'm all for open relationships...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Vegas</div><div class="ubbcode-body">no sah. mi cyan hangle di sharing at all at all. </div></div>

[SandiF]

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Cheater is someone who hide and deceive. With open relationship you know what's to occur...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">not me. no sah i cant deal with a cheater. it aint enuff money, or whatever else that will make me okay with my man stepping out on me. i dont care if he does tell me the truth about it. cyaaan bodda

but interested in understanding the viewpoints of others that do allow this </div></div>

[SandiF]

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You are single so that nuh count as open relationship. If the man married den him a tek yu pon di side. Open relationship is specifically for a married couple where one or both want to engage in intimate relationship with others...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Did it once, the relationship lasted 3 or 4 years.

Would I do it again ....... </div></div>

[ILP]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You are single so that nuh count as open relationship. If the man married den him a tek yu pon di side. <span style="font-weight: bold">Open relationship is specifically for a married couple</span> where one or both want to engage in intimate relationship with others...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Did it once, the relationship lasted 3 or 4 years.

Would I do it again ....... </div></div> </div></div>

says who

[SandiF]

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Never heard of any 'single couples' inna open relationship.

Single couples fi just expect them relationship to be &quot;open&quot; since they are not married.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ILP_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You are single so that nuh count as open relationship. If the man married den him a tek yu pon di side. <span style="font-weight: bold">Open relationship is specifically for a married couple</span> where one or both want to engage in intimate relationship with others...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Did it once, the relationship lasted 3 or 4 years.

Would I do it again ....... </div></div> </div></div>

says who </div></div>

[ILP]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Never heard of any 'single couples' inna open relationship.

Single couples fi just expect them relationship to be &quot;open&quot; since they are not married.
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ILP_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You are single so that nuh count as open relationship. If the man married den him a tek yu pon di side. <span style="font-weight: bold">Open relationship is specifically for a married couple</span> where one or both want to engage in intimate relationship with others...
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Did it once, the relationship lasted 3 or 4 years.

Would I do it again ....... </div></div> </div></div>

says who </div></div> </div></div>

o. ah suh? k, mek i write dis down and den inform di current mr ilp.
interesting perspective

[Wendy]

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WOw unu gi mi nuff fi swallow
Cyber - yes dis is a tuff wan indeed.


Well I doan tink mi have the stomach fi it and when it comes to me it would be one sided. In the case of Will and Jada mi read wey dem allude to the fact that both a dem would jump smaddy bones if the &quot;right circumnstaces&quot; occured .. Mi noh tink mi can be a &quot;Jada&quot; if mi dey wid smaddy mi reaaaallllly deeply care (love) about.


But di reason why mi naah knack it too tuff casue it appears in some cases it can be sexually stimulative for some couples and if dat can kip dem fyas lit, den I guess mi noh si nutten wrang wid it.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Click to reveal.. <input type="button" class="form-button" value="Show me!" onclick="toggle_spoiler(this, 'Yikes, my eyes!', 'Show me!')" /></div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div style="display: none;">Sandif, since yuh swing both ways and yuh is very OPEN --- where can we meet sweety? </div></div></div>

[Wendy]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Did it once, the relationship lasted 3 or 4 years.

Would I do it again ....... </div></div>

Did you participate? In odda words had the guts to be with somebody else?
Pardon if the question seem intrusive ... I doan mean it to be that way . Just curious to know if maybe this usually is a one sided deal

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ILP_N_Belly</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">not me. no sah <span style="font-weight: bold">i cant deal with a cheater. </span> it aint enuff money, or whatever else that will make me okay with my man stepping out on me. i dont care if he does tell me the truth about it. cyaaan bodda

but interested in understanding the viewpoints of others that do allow this </div></div>

go back ahn read wah she post again.
she neva ask bout cheaters, she asked about OPEN.
cheating implies being HIDDEN or CLOSED, which falls on the side of dishonesty and deception. If both parties agree to be OPEN (to read: honest ) where is the cheat/deception

yes, mi is in one bexeration cah mi still fat ahn pregnant








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cheating implies being unfaithful; therefore, i cannot deal with someone being open about cheating. better?

no matter how it is dressed up. when u are with someone and u be with someone else its cheating. just because u &quot;open&quot; about it doesnt change what it is

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Cheater is someone who hide and deceive. With open relationship you know what's to occur...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">not me. no sah i cant deal with a cheater. it aint enuff money, or whatever else that will make me okay with my man stepping out on me. i dont care if he does tell me the truth about it. cyaaan bodda

but interested in understanding the viewpoints of others that do allow this </div></div> </div></div>

cheating:
adulterous: not faithful to a spouse or lover;

just because ppl call it &quot;open&quot; doesnt mean an act of adultery is not being committed just because u &quot;know&quot; and the person isnt &quot;hiding&quot; it. thats why its called &quot;open&quot; because they arent hiding it but if u are in a relationship and go be with someone else, you are not being faithful. therefore u are cheating.

[britisha]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You are single so that nuh count as open relationship. If the man married den him a tek yu pon di side.<span style="font-weight: bold"> Open relationship is specifically for a married couple where one or both want to engage in intimate relationship with others...</span>
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Exactly, when mi did study bout ie, dat was di definition di Professah stated...in fact he wrote a book on it.

Di cupple muss bi married.

[ILP]

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<span style="font-style: italic">as mi nu have nutten betta fi do wid mi time...cah mi still here ah pound sand waiting for dis bwoy fi get di hints...mi will distract miself by mekking mi last point... </span>

what mi understanding from Fancy (please fi carreck mi if mi get ei wrang btw) is that you define a relationship to be a union (legal or di two juss deh) between two people. That once those two people agree to make the union they are not to step outside the confines/parameters of each other. period. if either person does...they have broken the agreement (contract) of said union. daht sound right, mi summarize praparly?

SandiF &amp; Faithfully are saying that until the person is married (in front a God, judge, and/or di parson) dem cyan be in closed (union). Mi get daht, right?

No mi neva ansa di question, so mek mi dweet here. IMO, a relationship is whatever the people in the relationship say it is. Cah what work for one smaddy not gwine mek it wid a next one. For instance, it not gwine fly fi my SO fi live/work in another city for extended periods of time. cah mi need fi reach out ahn gi you a lick every 24 hours or so...so long distance tings not gwine work fi me. But di next smaddy daht might work fah...oonu following

For me...if two people decide that for them sex outside ah di two ah dem is ok..and they BOTH agree upon said rules of such..and dem nu change up and do outside ah wah dem agree upon den is NOT deception. Cheating (di dictionary definition) is define as <span style="font-style: italic">to deceive; influence by fraud</span> smaddy cyan be defrauded if dem know in advance.

but again daht ah juss mi...

anyhow....pray fi mi daht dis bwoy commeth forth so mi will have sinting to do...

or mi will crack up.......

[Wendy]

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LOL.. ILP me know how dat waiting can feel sometime dem stubborn noh hell!! Fi mi own did henka ina mi belly 2 weeks afta shi did due (not to scare yuh or anyting )

But back to di tapic... What yuh sey is why mi can argue for and against it at the same time. It all up to how the couple define dem relationship and if dem establish dat upfront and dem sign ina blood den a guess dem straight.

But my worry (for lack of a better term) is if Monique for example goh fine out sey Sydney her husban goh tek up wid nex woman would she be able to truly contain herself and nat tun into dat Character shi played in Precious

In oddawords can dis agreement really stand the test of <span style="font-style: italic">time, love and harmony</span> Yuh get mi?

<span style="font-size: 8pt">**<span style="font-style: italic">Hole up di Mike to Tanya Mout</span>**</span>

[MarieK]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Faithfully</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SandiF</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You are single so that nuh count as open relationship. If the man married den him a tek yu pon di side.<span style="font-weight: bold"> Open relationship is specifically for a married couple where one or both want to engage in intimate relationship with others...</span>
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Exactly, when mi did study bout ie, dat was di definition di Professah stated...in fact he wrote a book on it.

Di cupple muss bi married. </div></div>

so in essence it can be argued that before you are married it is acceptable to sleep around so tell me at what point do we identify a person as honest and trustworthy enough to marry.

Marriage is a mere formality IMHO mi gawn

[britisha]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body">LOL.. ILP me know how dat waiting can feel sometime dem stubborn noh hell!! Fi mi own did henka ina mi belly 2 weeks afta shi did due (not to scare yuh or anyting )

But back to di tapic... What yuh sey is why mi can argue for and against it at the same time. It all up to how the couple define dem relationship and if dem establish dat upfront and dem sign ina blood den a guess dem straight.

But my worry (for lack of a better term) is if Monique for example goh fine out sey Sydney her husban goh tek up wid nex woman would she be able to truly contain herself and nat tun into dat Character shi played in Precious

In oddawords can dis agreement really stand the test of <span style="font-style: italic">time, love and harmony</span> Yuh get mi?

<span style="font-size: 8pt">**<span style="font-style: italic">Hole up di Mike to Tanya Mout</span>**</span> </div></div>

Soh wha di chred bout?

Monique or &quot;Open relationship&quot;?