Content to be Single Forever?

[Wendy]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Some people are never content whether they are single or married. I would rather be content and single forever than married and discontent for any amount of time. </div></div>

Aint that the bloody truth

I think the important thing is that you live *your* life to its fullest. Make sure you find out who *you* are, develop your own interests, hobbies, goals, etc, and make *your* life all you want it to be, independent of whether there is a man in your life or not. With the exception of sex, most things you share with a man can be shared with close friends and family.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Click to reveal.. <input type="button" class="form-button" value="Show me!" onclick="toggle_spoiler(this, 'Yikes, my eyes!', 'Show me!')" /></div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div style="display: none;">Well unless yuh is redneck fram down south yuh can share sex wid close friends and family if yuh waan </div></div></div>

[JamBrit]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
I think the important thing is that you live *your* life to its fullest. Make sure you find out who *you* are, develop your own interests, hobbies, goals, etc, and make *your* life all you want it to be, independent of whether there is a man in your life or not. </div></div>

Exactly!

[sistacaf]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

yah, prezackly.

somebody on here once had a signature line somethin like <span style="font-style: italic">'the best relationship is one in which your love for one another exceeds your need for one another'</span> - which always caught my eye and got my full respect and agreement.

[sistactry]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

if you have been in a relationship for sometime, married or otherwise, and you have become separated, weather by choice, death or whatever, I dont see the need to rush back into another relationship.....as this could be a good time to draw from within,
u know to grow spiritual, go back to school, learn a new hobby, or otherwise~

lonliness now, thats another story~~

now, if you have never been in any long term relationship, i suspect that could be difficult, but then some ppl have such busy lives, they dont miss being in a relationship all that much~

[sistacaf]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

oh - and get this one nylah ....now that i'm laid off and no longer employed by The Wretched Place, my possibilites are once again open .... moving outta here just became a real possibility.

<span style="font-style: italic">&quot;freedom is coming to-morrrrrr-oooowwwwww&quot;</span>

[JamBrit]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sistacaf</div><div class="ubbcode-body">yah, prezackly.

somebody on here once had a signature line somethin like <span style="font-style: italic">'the best relationship is one in which your love for one another exceeds your need for one another'</span> - which always caught my eye and got my full respect and agreement. </div></div>

Aww....that's deep...

[LusciousJohnson]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sistacaf</div><div class="ubbcode-body">totally possible IMHO. as a <span style="text-decoration: underline">choice</span> i mean, not just 'dealing with cards that are dealt'.

at this point i am <span style="font-style: italic">so over</span> it with controlling petty selfishness, and having to alter my behavior to compensate others' insecurities, that if i have to subjugate myself to ridiculous demands just to be 'in a relationship', i'd rather not bother with the whole stupid mess. it's more important to me to be myself - without being judged, criticized, and restricted for my way of thinking - than be forced to comply with the BeeEss that seems to be required to keep a relationship. it's not like it was back the old days when women 'had to' accept whatever cause they were dependent upon a man for survival. nowadays we can earn our own money and take care of weselves; being with a man is a choice, not a need or obligation or duty.

of course if there are any men out there who don't behave like that i'd still consider a relationship - but it seems like nearly all men want to control women, and nearly none of them know how to <span style="font-weight: bold">relate with</span> an intelligent, strong, independent lady. I know it is possible, i've seen it - my dad, uncles, and bro are my examples.... they respect their women and consider them to be equal partners. that doesn't mean they 'do' all the same things equally, but that their wives have equal say in their lives together, are respected for their input and opinions, considered and included in important decisions, etc.

But very very few men are like them. Most men seem to equate receiving 'respect' from their woman as &quot;obeying&quot; them, forcing their women to do what 'they' want at all times, or be denigrated or put down for having opposing POV's. which i will not accept.

at this point, for me it has to be two ppl relating as grown adults of equal value, being fair &amp; respecting <span style="font-style: italic">each other</span> - or i'd rather not have the relationship at all. I could enjoy a man's company without being committed to him, living together, or having to 'obey' like i'm a child. and at this point that suits me just fine.

(and yeh sister nylah, that does mean what you think it means.... am only biding my time now til i can get out.)



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totally agree

[Peasie]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> With the exception of sex, most things you share with a man can be shared with close friends and family.</div></div>
Tru dat. An if shi need sex, shi can always try wan a Vegas cangle dem.

[CyberPhobic]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sistacaf</div><div class="ubbcode-body">totally possible IMHO. as a <span style="text-decoration: underline">choice</span> i mean, not just 'dealing with cards that are dealt'.

at this point i am <span style="font-style: italic">so over</span> it with controlling petty selfishness, and having to alter my behavior to compensate others' insecurities, that if i have to subjugate myself to ridiculous demands just to be 'in a relationship', i'd rather not bother with the whole stupid mess. it's more important to me to be myself - without being judged, criticized, and restricted for my way of thinking - than be forced to comply with the BeeEss that seems to be required to keep a relationship. it's not like it was back the old days when women 'had to' accept whatever cause they were dependent upon a man for survival. nowadays we can earn our own money and take care of weselves; being with a man is a choice, not a need or obligation or duty.

of course if there are any men out there who don't behave like that i'd still consider a relationship - but it seems like nearly all men want to control women, and nearly none of them know how to <span style="font-weight: bold">relate with</span> an intelligent, strong, independent lady. I know it is possible, i've seen it - my dad, uncles, and bro are my examples.... they respect their women and consider them to be equal partners. that doesn't mean they 'do' all the same things equally, but that their wives have equal say in their lives together, are respected for their input and opinions, considered and included in important decisions, etc.

But very very few men are like them. Most men seem to equate receiving 'respect' from their woman as &quot;obeying&quot; them, forcing their women to do what 'they' want at all times, or be denigrated or put down for having opposing POV's. which i will not accept.

at this point, for me it has to be two ppl relating as grown adults of equal value, being fair &amp; respecting <span style="font-style: italic">each other</span> - or i'd rather not have the relationship at all. I could enjoy a man's company without being committed to him, living together, or having to 'obey' like i'm a child. and at this point that suits me just fine.

(and yeh sister nylah, that does mean what you think it means.... am only biding my time now til i can get out.)



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It tekk a well balanced, secure, confident, intelligent and HONEST woman to say and mean what you've said.

Expressing yuhself like dis tekk a level of self-searching, thinking and acceptance that nuff women will nevah reach. Because yuh know yuhself is the reason why the RIGHT man will find you.

[ILP]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sistacaf</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
somebody on here once had a signature line somethin like <span style="font-style: italic">'the best relationship is one in which your love for one another exceeds your need for one another'</span> - which always caught my eye and got my full respect and agreement. </div></div>

ahem...



life is so liberating and full when one can live all of their life that way, idnit?

carryon...

[Marielle]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I think the important thing is that you live *your* life to its fullest. Make sure you find out who *you* are, develop your own interests, hobbies, goals, etc, and make *your* life all you want it to be, independent of whether there is a man in your life or not. With the exception of sex, most things you share with a man can be shared with close friends and family.</div></div>

I so agree, and also agree with the statement of not being willing to compromise myself for an insecure, controlling, possessive man in my life (yea, been there, etc).

I am single at the moment and so loving it, being able to do exactly what and when I want, with no-one to answer to, have to organise dairies with, etc. etc. And, uh, as for the sex, you can always get what they call here a FF....xxxx Friend

Having a son alone is hard work enough anyway without needing another &quot;kid&quot; to take care of....

a very funny line I read: &quot;You start by sinking into his arms and end up with your arms in his sink&quot;

Go out for dinner? I'll take myself out for dinner! Go dancing in Havana. Yep! I remember standing outside the Ritz in London, actually thinking (I was coming &quot;home&quot; from a wedding) &quot;Oh, wish I had a man to take me in there for a cocktail....&quot;, then I thought to myself, don't be so bolody ridiculous, who needs the man!! So I waltzed in and had me 2 exquisite blackberry caiparinhas! and a nice chat with the waiters......
the perfect ending to a perfect day.

[MarieK]

Re: Content to be Single Forever?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> With the exception of sex, most things you share with a man can be shared with close friends and family.</div></div>
Tru dat. An if shi need sex, shi can always try wan a Vegas cangle dem. </div></div>

say what now??????????

a wish cyangle vegas have so powaful beg tuh 25 nuh