Jealous Friend

[MarieK]

Re: Jealous Friend

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yes, I have had several of those types of friends and cut them off. It is way too annoying. If they carry on so with me, imagine what a miserable mate they made in relationships. Ain't nobody got time for all that. I didn't go to school for psychiatry. </div></div>
but lawd...is like mi cyaan enjoy miself if annuh wid she...

if mi a go out wid mi man..den its all good but if mi go out wid odda girlfriend(s) is a problem and shi start show face.. </div></div>

mi tink she watn yuh bady

[Bizzy]

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lol Nah swear fi nuhbaddi but I doubt it

[Peasie]

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But why do you even bother enabling this friend?
Unless you enjoy the drama.


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">unu eva have a friend weh nuh waan share yuh wid nuhbaddi else??

come in like a mi man or sumting..

mi go out friday night...an she did have plans already f go bday dinner party..

so yessideh mi was a mention how mi go someweh an how de place did cawk...shi cut mi off and say, when was dis? why mi neva call har an invite har, who mi go wid..when mi tell har a who..she ketch attitude \o/ </div></div>

[Bizzy]

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how mi a enable har??

[Peasie]

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Like answering her if she gets vex about your whereabouts? That's what I mean.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">how mi a enable har?? </div></div>

[Gen]

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nah. The killer/jealous girl had a twin sister weh dead when dem young and she never been di same inna her head since it happen

she meet dis girl weh did want room mate and move in with the girl. Eventually she dye/cut her hair fi look juss like di chick weh advertise fi di room mate, pretend to be di girl and guh sleep wid har man and eventually when she realize di chick know she crazy, she try kill her

She juss wanted she and di girl to be bff

watch all a it


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I think when SWF come out mi was too young fi watch dem kine a movie deh so mi only ketch bits n pieces..neva seen the whole thing..

wasn't dat a roommate/lovaz/lebanese ting dowe?? </div></div>

[Tulip]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> It is madness though and I have found the worst offenders to be be people who never left their hometown. Could just be coincidence but that is one of the common traits that I have noticed among my jelly clingers. </div></div>aaaaaaaaah yuh mek a good point.. </div></div>


See. I'm not just chatting frawt. I'm not willing to publish it in a book, but I have noticed it in my personal experience.

[sistacaf]

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well i HAD one a them - and we were both in we <span style="font-style: italic">forties</span> figadssake; knew each other as teenagers then met back up later, and got to be hangin out buddies and such. did lots of stuff together before i discovered my true calling in life, then when i started doing that with my time, instedda just 'hanging out', well boy! she had a serious problem with me.

She 'acted' like a big woman, but had some serious insecurity issues i began to see after a while. Anytime we went anywhere if i naw walk <span style="font-style: italic">right</span> next to her, she annoyed and snap at me, vex. when i started goin to band practice over hanging out with her i was &quot;disloyal to our friendship&quot;. (even tho she also came to practice, and to our shows, she wanted me right 'by her'; she didn't want to practice her music, she wanted 'the girls' to be hangin.) (wtph????) Any time i didn't wanna go out somewhere with her it was &quot;because i was at home waitin on man&quot;, and i was one a them women who &quot;forgets your gf's when you get man&quot;.

No mounta reasoning would have her calm herself or even try understand it wasn't about 'man', it was about 'band'; i had full time work, then i added music study, performances &amp; gigs to that. I didn't want to go hang out at parties and shows cause i hadda (and would rather) PERFORM at dem..... she worked part-time and lived at home with family, she naw knoa nuttin bout work full time, pay bills, support herself, responsibility, nevamine being fulltime in a working music group on toppa that. She soon dropped out of the band too, cau she never wanted to practice - so she couldn't keep up - and then vex with US for that too...bout we goin too fast, we had was to play slower. and so of course, got even more vex with me, cause then we had even less time to 'hang'. really, it was just unbeLEIVable.

at first i tried to explain, not really to enable, but just cause i wanted her to understand. but once she had the (wrong) idea in har mind, she never heard anything that didn't fit into her ready-made conclusions. she got worse and worse, threw accusations &amp; passed judgement upon me and my life like i was her wife, not her friend, and never wanted to listen or reason. she didn't wanna hear what i had to say, just kept throwin words. til eventually i stopped trying to reason with her, and really started ignoring it altogether. then she just escalated till she went right off the deep end, started a huge public screaming match with me, hollerin and chatting my personal bizness IN the band rehearsal hall in fronta all the guys in the band. can u say <span style="font-style: italic">mortified??</span> i was never so embarrased ina my LIFE.

and that was <span style="font-style: italic">it</span> on that. not friends no more. i will, and did, make a real effort with someone i care(d) about, but like tulip says, it DID become madness. and i too am not tolerating a somebody who acts like a 17-yr-old and not one grown woman.

Insecurity breeds jellusy, IMHO.

[Bizzy]

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LOL, den yuh nuh jus tell mi de plot..no need to watch it now <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">nah. The killer/jealous girl had a twin sister weh dead when dem young and she never been di same inna her head since it happen

she meet dis girl weh did want room mate and move in with the girl. Eventually she dye/cut her hair fi look juss like di chick weh advertise fi di room mate, pretend to be di girl and guh sleep wid har man and eventually when she realize di chick know she crazy, she try kill her

She juss wanted she and di girl to be bff

watch all a it


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I think when SWF come out mi was too young fi watch dem kine a movie deh so mi only ketch bits n pieces..neva seen the whole thing..

wasn't dat a roommate/lovaz/lebanese ting dowe?? </div></div> </div></div>

[Bizzy]

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ahmm, shi nuh get bex until shi know say mi was out or plan fi go out wid other friends...

when shi get bex mi ignore har..except fi dis weeken gone..

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Like answering her if she gets vex about your whereabouts? That's what I mean.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi_Oh_Em_Gee</div><div class="ubbcode-body">how mi a enable har?? </div></div> </div></div>

[Bizzy]

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Mi baxide!! 1st of all, yuh play inna band

yuh still dweet or was dat long time ago?? u ha any pictures?? an is wah kine a band?? why am i imaginin u in a punk rock band

she and i hardly go out...de funny ting is when mi used to invite har places she would say yes and den de day before or day of the sitten, she change har mine an say she cyaan/naw go, so mi tap invite har out dat was ova a year ago

[sistacaf]

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punk rock? is mad u mad? mih can't stand all that harsh noise. <span style="font-style: italic"> steelband</span> missus, steelband, nice and sweet calypso, reggae, jazz, gospel... (aldoa i <span style="font-style: italic">can</span> see why u might guess that, me and my revolutionary attitude an all)

yes, still doin it, heck i only just started 6 years ago - still learnin.... and will be for the rest ah my born life, it is my calling. i fully admit, i'm obsessed widdit, and have come to feel that all the music education i had growing up, was only preparing me for <span style="font-style: italic">this</span>...... someday mi wih be an old gray white lady playin pan

and this is what that gf could never understand. to her it was just another 'something to do' along with all her other various interests. she is one a them people who does a little bit of everything &amp; never dedicates herself to focusing on one main thing- so she could not get, never mine rise to the level of respect- that i had found 'my thing' in life to the exclusion of all else, and that all the other stuff she wanted me to do with her, all became just 'extra' to me once i started this.

is why u think i am moving to FLA? i will be there this September for a month, learning music to play with (what will be) my new band 'there', in a de Carnival.

[Bizzy]

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u coming right in time fi carnival
maybe dis year mi might change mi mine an go look pon it

[mountaingal]

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lawks, sistacaf steel band. all dat parang pang.

me'da prefer u in a punk band, jah know. pun is speeded up ska enuh.

[sistacaf]

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well yeh, das prezackly <span style="font-style: italic">why</span> me <span style="font-style: italic">pick</span> that time! i've been comin for carnival every year, but never could tek a whole month when i was working - this year i been laid off and am FULLY taking advantage of having this time to be able to spend a whole month. this way i can learn music and play with the band instedda just comin to attend the carnival as a spectator.

i got a sweet lil apartment up on 82nd st, at the north end of Miami beach and me and the pans will be driving down there on Sept 10!