Conundrum

[ILP]

<span style="font-weight: bold">Her:</span>
Successful Professor
No kids
Owns her own home, car, doing pretty well for herself

<span style="font-weight: bold">Him:</span>
Successful Federal Investigator
6 kids (grown and married), 6 grandkids
Owns his own home, car, doing very well for himself
Takes care of 87 year old mother

<span style="font-weight: bold">Them:</span>
Met at a PT job

<span style="font-weight: bold">She:</span>
Working to get xtra $ and something to do in the evenings.

<span style="font-weight: bold">He:</span>
Working to get xtra &amp; and something to do in the evenings.

<span style="font-weight: bold">He:</span>asked her out...as he &quot;was very intrigued&quot; and finds her
<span style="font-weight: bold">She:</span> accepted...she was equally intrigued and finds him

<span style="font-weight: bold">They:</span>
Went out. Had a time.

<span style="font-weight: bold">They:</span>
Went out several more times ahn had times.

<span style="font-weight: bold">The Conundrum?</span> She was offered a job out west and accepted.

[Peasie]

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<span style="font-weight: bold">co·nun·drum</span> [kuh-nuhn-druhm]
–noun
1. a riddle, the answer to which involves a pun or play on words, as <span style="font-style: italic">What is black and white and read all over? A newspaper</span>.
2. anything that puzzles.

<span style="font-weight: bold">Me: </span>
No puzzle here.:scratchCBweave: They are not engaged or married. She goes to the West Coast. He misses her. They decide they are more miserable apart than together. They try out a bi-coastal relationship and see if commitment is there.

[SandiF]

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She has to think of herself first. Love and potential relationship can (or will) come after. There's always long distance relationship; they can see if it is workable. It is either absence makes the heart grow fonder or out of sight out of mind.

[DearK]

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Whats the problem?

[ILP]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><span style="font-weight: bold">Whats the problem? </span></div></div>

She hasn't told him. She feels like she is leading him on.

[Hush Darlin]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: HIELPEE</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><span style="font-weight: bold">Whats the problem? </span></div></div>

She hasn't told him. She feels like she is leading him on. </div></div>
so whats is stopping her from telling him

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: HIELPEE</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><span style="font-weight: bold">Whats the problem? </span></div></div>

She hasn't told him. She feels like she is leading him on. </div></div>

She needs to be honest and fast. He may perceive it as deception the longer she waits.

[Peasie]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: HIELPEE</div><div class="ubbcode-body">She hasn't told him. She feels like she is leading him on. </div></div>

I still don't get it. Why should she feel like she is leading him on? Because she enjoys their times together? *kissteet*

Next date - with the biggest grin on her face and her eyes lit up - she should tell him that she's accepted a job offer to the West coast and is looking forward to this new dimension in her life.

If he is an adult, his response would be - also with a big grin on his face - , &quot;Wow, that's great! I am happy for you and I know you will do well. I must say I've enjoyed our times together and I hope you'll consider inviting me out there to see your new town.&quot;

If he is a child, he would answer, &quot;Oh. What about me? Us?&quot;

[Gen]

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BOAL @ child &quot;what about us ?&quot;

[kia027]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: HIELPEE</div><div class="ubbcode-body">She hasn't told him. She feels like she is leading him on. </div></div>

I still don't get it. Why should she feel like she is leading him on? Because she enjoys their times together? *kissteet*

Next date - with the biggest grin on her face and her eyes lit up - she should tell him that she's accepted a job offer to the West coast and is looking forward to this new dimension in her life.

If he is an adult, his response would be - also with a big grin on his face - , &quot;Wow, that's great! I am happy for you and I know you will do well. I must say I've enjoyed our times together and I hope you'll consider inviting me out there to see your new town.&quot;

If he is a child, he would answer, &quot;Oh. What about me? Us?&quot; </div></div>

oh be real Peasie.. Yes he may say the adult thing and say the adult response but deep down he would feel 'what about us?'

[Peasie]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">oh be real Peasie.. Yes he may say the adult thing and say the adult response but deep down he would feel 'what about us?' </div></div>

Oh he can feel it. But he can't say it. Not now.

[SandiF]

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so they are in a more than just 'casual friendship' relationship?

i don't see the big deal either... sounds like she is building more than a casual relationship in her head

[CeaBee]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">oh be real Peasie.. Yes he may say the adult thing and say the adult response but deep down he would feel 'what about us?' </div></div>

Oh he can feel it. But he can't say it. Not now. </div></div>

why not?

a bet if him seh it suh casual she would think that him just doan give a damn

[Wendy]

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<span style="font-style: italic">**Scratching CB Weave to**</span>

Mi woulda ina haste fi tell im dat news jus fi si im reaction. His reaction can tell her what kind of person she is dealing with. It all good an nice fi have a good time pan date ..but let's see what is really under the surface

[CeaBee]

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oh me just re-read and it seh &quot;went out several more times&quot;

suh is like a month them dating?