black oomen divorce

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...wen mi did a war wid mi hubby him claim is because hubby is a strong blakk man mek mi caan deal wid him den wen mi tell him seh hubby is not blakk him seh is because hubby is a weak non blakk man [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70400-talktohand.gif[/img]...

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A true??? [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/graemlins/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

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I'm wondering if the powers that be at that institution have maybe a tacit agreement that one of him is more than enough... [img]/forums/images/graemlins/ooo.gif[/img]

Cause, he does tend to give black men a bad name [img]/forums/images/graemlins/70374-lipsrsealed.gif[/img]

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da powa too bee knoo betta dan fii brinn dem foolishness too mii. yu shooda see wen dem cum investigate cah too manee fimi yuths score iigh dem gawn like mii didd sintinn funnee. den dem doan like wen mii chatt sey edumakkayshan too mzungunined ann feminized dat y blakk mail yuths doo pourlee. soo yu rite dem doan waan more blakk menn like mii cah den more blakk yuths wood xxceed

yu see itt natt a tacit aggreement iss dat dem knoo mii bunn fiyah iff dem doan stepp karattlee

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" 12 percentage points

The difference in percentage points that a U.S. white women's first marriage will likely dissolve if she did and did not grow up in a two-parent intact family. White women who were raised by a two-parent family have a 29-percent chance that their marriage will end after 10 years of marriage. But a white woman who was raised without an intact family has a 41-percent chance that her marriage will end in the same period. Similarly, for black women, having an intact family-background decreases the likelihood of a woman's divorce by 13 percentage points, and for Hispanic women, the intact family background decreases the likelihood of divorce by 17 percentage points"

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" Kids do keep couples together –

Not that it's a reason to have kids, or stay married, but it turns out that couples with children are less likely to divorce than those without them. And for every child in a family, the likelihood that couple will divorce goes down. Which is particularly interesting because study after study show that happiness in a marriage decreases once children are born."

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" Because he’s a bloody pain in the arse, that’s why

Of divorces filed in England and Wales in 2003, 69 percent of them were at the wife's behest. The most frequently cited fact for the basis of the divorce for women? Her husband's "unreasonable behavior." For those men filing for divorce, on the other hand, it was a two-year long separation that was the most frequent reason for their request for a divorce."

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"New York Times
July 11, 2000
New Look at Realities of Divorce
By JOHN TIERNEY

WHICH sex is mostly to blame for divorce? The answer seems obvious every time a mogul like Donald Trump or Ronald Perelman or Rupert Murdoch dumps his wife.

Conservative preachers and liberal feminists are united in their disdain for philandering men who abandon their children. Journalists (including this one) and politicians of all persuasions have righteously condemned "deadbeat
dads." Even Hollywood professes to be appalled at the cads depicted in "The First Wives Club."

But there's a problem with the conventional wisdom. Across America, at least two-thirds of divorce suits are filed by women. Researchers who have interviewed divorcing couples have repeatedly found that, in cases where the divorce is not mutually desired, women are more than twice as likely to be the ones who want out. After the split, women are typically happier than their exes.

This trend has inspired what is probably the first paper in the American Journal of Law and Economics ever to be named after a Nancy Sinatra song. In "These Boots Are Made for Walking: Why Most Divorce Filers Are Women," Margaret F. Brinig and Douglas Allen, both economists, analyze all 46,000 divorces filed in one year, 1995, in four different states: Connecticut, Virginia, Montana and Oregon.

They looked for different reasons that would prompt a woman to file for divorce. One would be to escape an abusive husband -- like a man who is adulterous or violent. But in the state with the best records of grievances, Virginia, only 6 percent of divorces were granted on grounds of violence, and husbands were cited for adultery only slightly more often than wives.

"Some women file for divorce because they're exploited in really bad marriages," said Dr. Brinig, a professor of law at the University of Iowa."But it seems to be a relatively small number, probably less than 20 percent of the cases."

Another impetus to divorce is the belief that your partner is no longer good enough for you. The classic example is the guy who takes a trophy wife after dumping the high-school sweetheart who sacrificed her own potential to put him through medical school, but a woman can be similarly tempted to leave a husband who is less successful than she is.

The researchers found that the better-educated partner, male or female, was indeed more likely to file for divorce. But again these types of divorces seemed to represent less than 20 percent of the cases.

The solution to the mystery, the factor that determined most cases, turned out to be the question of child custody. Women are much more willing to split up because -- unlike men -- they typically do not fear losing custody of the children. Instead, a divorce often enables them to gain control over the children.

"The question of custody absolutely swamps all the other variables," Dr. Brinig said. "Children are the most important asset in a marriage, and the partner who expects to get sole custody is by far the most likely to file for divorce."

The correlation with custody is so strong, Dr. Brinig said, that she has changed her view about the best way to preserve marriages and protect children. She previously advocated an end to quick no-fault divorces, but she now believes that the key is to rewrite custody laws.

In most states, including New York, New Jersey and Connecticut, mothers can fight for and usually win sole custody. But some states have recently begun making joint custody the presumptive norm.

That change in the law seems to be keeping more couples together, according to this study and other work by Dr. Brinig. She and colleagues have noted a decline in divorce in states with joint-custody laws. And when couples do divorce, fathers who share custody are less likely to renege on their child-support payments.

Dr. Brinig favors a law like the one recently enacted in West Virginia, which typically awards each parent a share of custody according to how much time that parent spent with the child during the marriage. Besides eliminating some of the vicious court fights that now take place over custody, she said, such a law could lead to fewer divorces.

"Custody is now a way -- in some marriages the only way -- for women to achieve a real show of force over men," Dr. Brinig said. "If you remove that distortion, it's apt to change the way men and women relate to each other and to their kids. Fathers are likely to spend more time with kids if theycan expect to still see them if the marriage doesn't work out. Women will be more likely to see men as parenting partners, and less likely to use divorceas a power play."

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mii focus pon blakk oomen high rate aff divorce ann da lack aff stigma attached too divorce bye sum blaakk oomen.

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Black women must be divorcing SOMEBODY, they can't marry and divorce all by themselves...I'd say they have/are exactly HALF the problem, if there is a problem.

(oops, posted before i saw justblue's post...)

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mii figgar yu wood see da weekness inn dat lagic. oomen ar da wan wey file fii moas aff da divorce soo fii sey itt a fiftee fiftee ting meen dat yu triinn fii aviod blaminn blakk oomen woo file fii moas deevorces

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"at least two-thirds of divorce suits are filed by women. Researchers who have interviewed divorcing couples have repeatedly found that, in cases where the divorce is not mutually desired, women are more than twice as likely to be the ones who want out."

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Ah blu, but it takes two to marry and two to divorce, and even if more women file than men, that doesn't mean it's the woman's "fault".

It's my personal belief, and the experience of my mom (who is a mediator with divorcing couples) that men usually don't leave a marriage unless they have someone to go to...they don't like living alone. Women tend to leave to find themselves or get away from a man, less often because there is someone else.

That would be one reason for women to want out of a marriage to the point of filing more often than men do.

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Dr. Brinig favors a law like the one recently enacted in West Virginia, which typically awards each parent a share of custody according to how much time that parent spent with the child during the marriage.

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Hmmph. If I were to get divorced I know who would get more time, and I bet I'm not alone here.

That said, I would want joint custody, I would fight for it. My parents had it after their divorce and I was quite happy. It wasn't until my dad moved away to a state 12 hours' drive away that the full impact of the divorce hit me. Until then having my parents not under one roof really was no big deal, they lived in apartment buildings next door to each other. I was happy and my life really didn't change much.