What makes an arranged

[Tulip]

Re: What makes an arranged

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">yes i actually do believe killings are less in arranged marriages...
if a marriage's success is based on staying the course then the western marriage is the worst on earth...</div></div>

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you have never been married. Believe me when I tell you, there is more likely to be bloodshed and loss of life if one is forced to stay in a place one no longer wishes to be.

You're seem rather strong-willed and not prone to changing positions. You think you'd make out better having to live with someone with opposing views?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">as far as people living together &amp; not getting married...
my thought on that is; why is it the government that defines what marriage is?</div></div>

Doesn't the gov't define marriages everywhere even if religion runs the gov't? There's always common law if the couple can manage to wait out the shack up long enough in some states. Great! At least you can share health insurance on that course.

[jah_yout]

Re: What makes an arranged

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">yes i actually do believe killings are less in arranged marriages...
if a marriage's success is based on staying the course then the western marriage is the worst on earth...</div></div>

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you have never been married. Believe me when I tell you, there is more likely to be bloodshed and loss of life if one is forced to stay in a place one no longer wishes to be. </div></div>



stay off that limb or you'll drop &amp; break your neck
in other words your assumption is erroneous

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You're seem rather strong-willed and not prone to changing positions. You think you'd make out better having to live with someone with opposing views?</div></div>

again you make assumptions which are erroneous...male-female relationships can only be fruitful if based on mutual respect &amp; compromise, not dictatorship

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">as far as people living together &amp; not getting married...
my thought on that is; why is it the government that defines what marriage is?</div></div>

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Doesn't the gov't define marriages everywhere even if religion runs the gov't? There's always common law if the couple can manage to wait out the shack up long enough in some states. Great! At least you can share health insurance on that course. </div></div>

those are all men's definitions &amp; policies of what is a divine thing...
the universe does not revolve around the definitions of marriage created by british/euro-american men within the last 300 years; neither do i

[Tulip]

Re: What makes an arranged

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
again you make assumptions which are erroneous...male-female relationships can only be fruitful if based on mutual respect &amp; compromise, not dictatorship
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I didn't think I was going to have to walk through Disney.

I tell you what, I will continue to prefer to pick my own man. I prefer taking responsibility for my own actions.

Now, if you want mommy and daddy to pick out your woman then I say more power to you. Still doesn't mean you will be a bit happier.

[Skelly]

Re: What makes an arranged

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
They have children together, shack up, and carry on as if they were married but don't have the sacks to really ante up. There's extra shame in things not working out if it's legal and on paper? </div></div>

[Wendy]

Re: What makes an arranged

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CyberPhobic</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Arranged marriage anno nutt'n new, in fact many, many cultures (Asian, Indian, African, Jewish) for example, and the very, very wealthy always practiced this form of marriage, not only to keep the money/wealth inna di family but also to mekk sure sey di peeple dem a marrid have dyam sense.

<span style="font-weight: bold">In arranged marriages, surprisingly, the divorced rate is almost non-existent. </span> </div></div>

Belive me .. it does not mean it is &quot;working&quot;. In some of these cultures, divorce is a no, no .. As well has Dad with power can send man fi execute yuh if yuh dare leave im daughta.

I work with a guy (Indian) who shared horror stories of his arranged marriage and it was not until he came to America and got naturalized he gained the courage to leave his wife. He said he could never entertain that thought when he was in Idia. He would be stoned to death as soon as he walked through his gate if he ever divorced her.

I think whether arranged or not ...if two people aren't compatible - it is not going to work. And staying into a marriage just to save face does not mean its &quot;working&quot;

[jah_yout]

Re: What makes an arranged

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Now, if you want mommy and daddy to pick out your woman then I say more power to you. </div></div>



sometimes i wish i did let mommy &amp; daddy decide that


<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Still doesn't mean you will be a bit happier.</div></div>

happiness is a relative term...
watch forensic files and all those spouse killings were chosen ones

so who the heck knows

[Tulip]

Re: What makes an arranged

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">happiness is a relative term...

so who the heck knows </div></div>

What makes us happy varies else we'd all be the same and boring no lie. I am of the mind that I would better be who the heck knows what makes me happy than anyone else.

Like I said though, if a body doesn't prefer making their own relationship decisions then more power to them. Everybody ain't able.

[jah_yout]

Re: What makes an arranged

yea could her parents have done much worse picking a mate than Laci Peterson did?

she was &quot;happy&quot; for a while