My fren and har son

[CyberPhobic]

Yes, is long time now mi nuh <span style="text-decoration: line-through">gossip</span> share my fren dem life experiences suh unnoo low mi.

Awwrite, mi fren son juss graduate from Yale wha day. Him did have a job line up but it fell thru suh him haffi a job hunt.

As kawrdin tuh har him naah look wurk, him jussa chat tuh frens pandi computa whe him live pan. She is very upset wid dat for a di one bedroom apt. shi a share widdim now and want him fi guh fine work suh him can move out/on.

Mi tell har sey a suh di ting set dese days, yuh cyaah guh put awwn suit an guh look wurk like wan time, yaafi guh pandi computah and live pannit now fi fine wurk.

Dis young man went to posh boarding school in Boston and den went to an Ivy League awfta. Neva had tuh work sayka how him madda run and walk fi pay him tuition and fund him during him studies, for shi want him to do well.

Lass week Friday, him tell har sey him need har fi put money inna him account for him need fi guh out widdim frens dem di weekend. Shi run him and tell him sey shi cyan't afford tuh fund him LIFESTYLE.

[CyberPhobic]

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Mi sey, &quot;what yuh mean by dat? Den nuh yuh spwile him and now yuh expeck tuh not give him nuh money, den a wha you want him fi do?&quot;

Dat is wen shi bruk it dung like dis:

Carlton went to har when him turn was 14 and told har dat him teacha told him dat because him nuh have a father figure, him gravitate to boys a lot (memba him guh tuh a all boys school) and because of him mannerisms, him mite be gay. Him also tell him sey it might be genetic and since way back wen, it was not accepted in &quot;his&quot; society to be gay, who knows, generations of him ancestors might have taken dat fact tuh dem grave.

Shi sey she was incensed but told him, nuh tink dat way. It is very normal as you develop tuh be attracted to both sexes til yuh grow into yuh own, den yuh decide which way tuh go, granted some know sooner dan others, suh tekk yuh time, nuh mekk up yuh mind yet, focus pan yuh studies and nuh worry bout dat rite now.

Shi sey shi naily drap dung wen shi find out sey di teacha whe tell him dat is gay. Shi feel sey since shi tink him jussa push him own agenda shi would confront him and dat she did. Di teacha tell har sey shi is in denial.

Carlton found out about di confrontation and was shame and mad and tell har madda sey shi shame him and him cyaant guh back a di school. Eventually, him did guh back after being absent for two weeks and neva mention it again, altho, shi did bring it up time and time again, him nuh sey nutt'n more bout it.

[CyberPhobic]

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Now, back to lass week.

Shi said dat shi nuh seem widd nuh SO and shi buy him condoms and try fi engage him in that conversation, but him tight lipped.

To be honest, mi did guh to one of him &quot;recitals&quot; uppa Yale and him did look light in di pants tuh mi, but dese days, who cares?

Him jussa itch fi guh dungtown fi di weekend suh shi put $100 inna him account and him leave out Friday nite.

Sundey nite shi cawl mi and tole mi sey, she, har sista, niece, nephew and brodda in law siddung a eat dinna Sunday evening when demma watch di news and what did they see? Carlton inna di Pride Parade a walk roun widdi flag and him wife-beatah roll up unda him titttie dem wid lip gloss pan him lip.

<span style="font-style: italic">Mi a try cawl har fram dat an cyaah reach har.</span>

[Nunya]

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Im went to posh boarding school an den Yale an all de while she a live eena one room?

[CeaBee]

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at Nunya

i just read somewhere &quot;never sacrifice *everything* for your child&quot;....cause when them doan turn out the way *you* think they should, or them not as grateful as you think they should be...that is when problems start.

[CyberPhobic]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Im went to posh boarding school an den Yale an all de while she a live eena one room? </div></div>

DWL, den nuh dass why him live inna wan room? Shi cood'n afford fi move mi dear. DWL. Shi a ole eeediat.

[CyberPhobic]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CeaBee</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> at Nunya

i just read somewhere &quot;never sacrifice *everything* for your child&quot;....cause when them doan turn out the way *you* think they should, or them not as grateful as you think they should be...that is when problems start. </div></div>

Mi nuh kno bout dat still for a only selfish peeple do tings fi oddas wid an expectation. EXPRESSHALLY wen it is di parents. Some peeple love fi live vicariously chroo dem children tuh much and disguise it for, giving dem what dem nevah have. Den dem expeck di children fi march tuh dem beat.

[CyberPhobic]

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Now mi have a few kwestions fi y'all:

- What unnoo wood do if yuh chile tell yuh wat di teacha said?

- What unnoo wood sey to Carlton awfta him come back from di Parade?

- Unnoo tink shi should continue to put money inna him account?

- How would you end &quot;taking care&quot; of your grown hawse son?


Mi feel sey shi spwile him from mawning for him grow up feeling entitled, and by going tuh dose schools, always tink sey him is in dat league of di rich. Mi nuh tink him evah let him fren dem kno sey a kill him madda a kill himself fi put him chroo school and now him too shame fi sey him brukk, hence, expecting him madda fi fund him lifestyle.

[Nunya]

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Yep! She mek har bed fi chroo. But she can still get up affa it, it might jook har likkle hawda, especially when she roll ova an such fi get up, but once she come offa it, rub har batty likkle, den it wi aright.

All dat to say, it not too late fi cut de apron an purse strings...

How would she feel if she, living eena har one room, a put money eena im account every week an im a tek it mine man??? Nex ting yuh know, im elastic mout bwoyfren a go deh pon youtube a cuss har out...

What a lala...

[Tulip]

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I reaIly don't know what to say. l guess there's not too much that can be said that would affect anything and not just make noise.

So, the closet doors been flung wide open. Get up off his behind and find a job? And now let's next talk about making good choices in men?

[CyberPhobic]

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I know right!

Shi did sey dat way back wen him did sey him tink him was gay, she'd told him that har concern is not whether him gay or not, it is that him choose wisely and not be led down any particular path (i.e. gay) by misinformation, lies or coercion.

Shi tole me dat shi fraid a di gay life still, caus dem nuh seem to have nuh boundaries, nuh regrets nor nuh respect wen it comes tuh sex. Shi also tink dat dem too violent.

Lawd jeezas mi figat bout dis odda ting. New Topic coming up.

[Tulip]

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They seem to be a little looser than most on the casual sex side when they're single, but they do seem to get into relationships more frequently than heterosexuals.

I can make a long list of straight women and men that I know who are single. I can only make a very short list of openly gay men that I know who are not living with their life partner in quite nicely decorated homes I might add.

[Peasie]

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Your friend has all these things going on right now as far as her son. It is hard to do, but she has to prioritize what is important to her (yes, to her <span style="font-style: italic">not him</span>) now. Tough for your friend to do - but she has to cut him off financially now. She haffi get tough and tell har son shi naah support no lazy bahine inna fi har space

The gay thing is not important right now.

The most important thing is fi dis lazy Ivy-league degree-in-hand yute to get outta door an be gainfully employed . Is wah? Him too good fi fine likkle job below him status? *kissteet*

I know from which I speak

[CyberPhobic]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">They seem to be a little looser than most on the casual sex side when they're single, but they do seem to get into relationships more frequently than heterosexuals.

<span style="font-weight: bold">I can make a long list of straight women and men that I know who are single. I can only make a very short list of openly gay men that I know who are not living with their life partner in quite nicely decorated homes I might add.</span> </div></div>

Me and you both, but wha mi come tuh realize is dat nuff a mi gay fren dem have multiple pawdnaz and nuh tell di wan whe dem dey wid bout di oddas.

Dem seem to get pleasure from di danger of living pan di edge brah-brah. Dem tink dat becaz dem buff and live a gym and nayme man, dem can handle dem biz if di odda man dem fine hout, but, more times dan not, dem front teet dun get tump hout areddy.

On di odda hand, nuff straight singles nuh dat daring, at least mi nuh tink suh.

[CyberPhobic]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Peasie</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Your friend has all these things going on right now as far as her son. It is hard to do, but she has to prioritize what is important to her (yes, to her <span style="font-style: italic">not him</span>) now. <span style="font-weight: bold">Tough for your friend to do - but she has to cut him off financially now. She haffi get tough and tell har son shi naah support no lazy bahine inna fi har space

The gay thing is not important right now.</span>

The most important thing is fi dis lazy Ivy-league degree-in-hand yute to get outta door an be gainfully employed . Is wah? Him too good fi fine likkle job below him status? *kissteet*

I know from which I speak </div></div>

Yuh rite, dat bwoy a ramp widdim life.

One ting dat scare me doe. Mi feel sey if shi cut him off financially and him guh out dere widdim t-shirt roll up unda him bressississ, him dunn fah.

If shi do dat, it won't be long before him madda haffi guh read him toe tag, sayka how him get recruited by ole, sweaty and disgusting gay menz whe lure him in fi sex fi money, for wha him aguh do if him naah wurk and haffi fund him lifestyle?