Help!

[Suesumba]

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if you're to respect your parents' wishes, you'll have to turn a blind eye. gee, it's not easy either way. best wishes for your parents and you TD [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-bawlout.gif[/img]

[tsophra]

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TD.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]juss saw this and have not read all the responses

don't know how far away you are or what your schedule will permit..but perhaps more "unsheduled" visits will keep the caregiver on her toes? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

[Bandana]

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OMG Dude!! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/shocked.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cry.gif[/img]

I have a tiny insight to your pain... In the last days of my Mothers life when they had her on morphine, and she was bedridden at home I was the only one emotionally strong enough to deal with it. I remember her messing in her depends, and being just 19 years old trying to change her, just to have her "wake-up" in a morphine haze and freak out because she did not know what was happening, what I was doing. I had to scream for my brother to come help me, but he could not handle it...

I laid next to her in her filth and sang the song she used to sing me to calm me down...

The tears stream down my cheeks as I write this... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crybaby.gif[/img]

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/icon_hug.gif[/img] If you ever need to talk, vent, cry... we are here for you... (((turtledude)))

[turtledude]

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...thanks Sue, it's not easy to turn a blind eye after spending the last 14 yrs of my life focused on the goal of being fully conscious...and accepting my personal responsibilities regardless of how I happen to feel about them....I had this older mentor who once told me: "dude...never forget the first Great Buddist Precept:...'LIFE IS DIFFICULT- SO ******* WHAT!' "......another thing I'm grateful for is that all evidence points to the fact that there is no reason to fear being stuck on the road to sainthood anytime soon.... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

[turtledude]

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ya Arj....I've had the role of designated bad guy for quite some time....nothin works better than a little bit of induced paranoia!

[turtledude]

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Hey Bandanna,...I was just reminded that my olfactoy system has a memory...when I pictured him laying there....smells like the cat did some business in our big plant pots....cept it didn't...it was my thoughts triggering something....too wierd! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img]

[Nanook]

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(((TDude))) that is tough. It sounds as though you're dealing with it the best you can, as though your hands are tied so then all you can do is vent away.

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Bummer.