Your First...

[julie*mango]

Is in town...for good it seems. After years of not seeing him or her they email you and want to see you. You have no romantic feelings for this person anymore but still have a "soft spot" in your heart merely because this person was your first. You've both moved on with your life and have no intention of trying to rekindle old flames. But.....you know the saying..."ole fiyah tick..."

Now would you:

Visit or meet with your first?

Tell your spouse about him/her?

[atticus]

Re: Your First...

I smell trouble....

[BlessedLadyOfZion]

Re: Your First...

*sigh* memories.

doan dweet

[ZaraJah]

Re: Your First...

I would arrange a meeting/dinner and invite my spouse along.

Afterall, I'd have moved on and there is nothing wrong with sharing successes/accomplishments with an old flame, is there? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

[Hush Darlin]

Re: Your First...

well you sey u have a saff spat and ole fiyah tick easy fe ketch
stay away unless you want to break up with the current person in your life

[delawaregrl]

Re: Your First...

I would leave it alone. No dinner, No nothing.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

[julie*mango]

Re: Your First...

I told the Mr... he has no objection to me seeing my ex provided that it is in a public place which I am definately in agreement with...well he was kinda iffy at first but I had to remind him of the time his ex came back from Italy and the two were parked up in my front yard while I was in JA...that's my trump card right there [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img]


But after all that to be honest I really don't want to go stir up no ants nest so I think I am going to leave him alone.
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[turtledude]

Re: Your First...

...either give your marriage 100%, or if ya want to start planting seeds of discontent see the new/old first...if you have "moved on" why are u even asking this question? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/ideathink.gif[/img]

[julie*mango]

Re: Your First...

I hear you TD...

There's a reason he's my first and not my last...

[ZaraJah]

Re: Your First...

Does getting married mean ending your life as it were? Shun all others. Was that meant be taken that literally? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/confused.gif[/img]

Unless there is absolutely no trust on either side (ex and present) then I can't see what is wrong with meeting someone from the past.

[Suesumba]

Re: Your First...

don't put so much spin into it. go see him. socialize, i'm sure he's moved on his path as well.

[ReggaeGirl2000]

Re: Your First...

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Skelli0n</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Now would you:

Visit or meet with your first? Yes

Tell your spouse about him/her? Yes, BEFORE you go meet him </div></div>

[Hush Darlin]

Re: Your First...

her thought that ole fire stick easy fe ketch make me wonder if she is really over him
mi noh have an ex wha mi would think that way about
he is and ex for a reason

[CeaBee]

Re: Your First... *DELETED*

I saw mine after 15 years..

I really just wanted to catch up on what had happened with him and mutual friends/acquaintances over the years. He was the one that started to tell me ting bout "Ole fiyah stick easy fi catch"

...that along with other things made me realize that he was thinking things that i was not...me start fi keep mi distance.

[julie*mango]

Re: Your First...

See Beans..dats what mi fraid of. I don't want to start hanging around with him then he starts thinking that there is a glimmer of hope for me and him to be together again. I know he still has feelings for me but had never been brazen enough to cross the border. Now being this close to each other may give him license to try and get me back because I was his first love...

I may be over thinking this thing but I don't want to take any risks and ruin my marriage.