How do I go on??

**MarieK** · 03-24-2007, 02:49 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: I_n_I</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Donnika</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

You know, black men(in jamaica) are used to being men , so very used to it. Afterall, that's why they're so saught after, they're manly and masculine, right?
So why emasculate him by paying for everything and doing everything? I bet he liked it at first. Who wouldn't? But after being made to being a "kept man" he sought women who would appreciate his masculinity.
No my dear, often your culture will never get the Jamaican one. White women love black men because they're "real and tough men" yet they quickly set about to soften him and own him then get the shock of their lives when they walk out.
Sorry, I'm just feeling a little honest here. Hope you don't mind... </div></div>

This is such a tactless thing to say. Do you know the full circumstances? Why are you generalizing? There are as much black Jamaican women who mind their men as their are white and it is not a matter of emasculating them, it's just circumstances. </div></div>

Tactless????? Tactless?? yuh call dis tactless??? It is the most stupid generalization I have ever heard. Dumb. Idiotic. Nonsense. those are JUST a few that come to mind

**MarieK** · 03-24-2007, 02:50 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> It is nothing wrong with helping ones mate, if it wasn't done as a good deed then that's on her. Why bring it up and say I did this and I did that? Nobody held a gun up to her head and forced her to do anything. No one here is jealous I don't think, life isn't sugar coated Willy Wonka Vill. We all make choices in life, we are accountable and that's that blaming others just doesn't cut it. </div></div>

Stop, you are making it worse. You are obviously lacking something in yoru life which is why you feel the need to beat someone down. If you were happy where you are you would help rather than carry down.

Anyhow,

JBoo, I have two things I'd like to send to you which helped me through my breakup with my ex (and he was black and newsflash so am I) send me a PM with instructions, I can scan email or mail them to you.

Nuff a unu too dyam militant dats why unu will neva rise, badmine. Unu fi tap man, we need fi stawt bun badmine roun ya.

desperate

**niceniss** · 03-24-2007, 02:52 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: I_n_I</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Donnika</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

You know, black men(in jamaica) are used to being men , so very used to it. Afterall, that's why they're so saught after, they're manly and masculine, right?
So why emasculate him by paying for everything and doing everything? I bet he liked it at first. Who wouldn't? But after being made to being a "kept man" he sought women who would appreciate his masculinity.
No my dear, often your culture will never get the Jamaican one. White women love black men because they're "real and tough men" yet they quickly set about to soften him and own him then get the shock of their lives when they walk out.
Sorry, I'm just feeling a little honest here. Hope you don't mind... </div></div>

This is such a tactless thing to say. <span style="color: #FF0000">I can never be accused of being tactful ... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] </span> Do you know the full circumstances? Why are you generalizing? <span style="color: #FF0000">they all read the same. just different names and faces. </span>

There are as much black Jamaican women who mind their men as their are white <span style="color: #FF0000">rubbish! </span> and it is not a matter of emasculating them, it's just circumstances. <span style="color: #FF0000">*sigh* carry on. I'll read this story again... </span> </div></div>

**Boopie2** · 03-24-2007, 02:52 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Donnika</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body">if a laff a pap up.

Based on BTS conversations, those who are capable, actually got what I was saying.

So youmean to tell me if you met a man in whom you saw potential you wouldn't stick w/ him till he made it? Good thing my sister in law didnt think like you. Girlfriend worked and supported my brother and their family for quite some time until he finished his coursework, now she's living pretty well, beautiful kids, wonderful house, great vacations, but those are not important, despite what anyone says, my brother is soooooooooooo inlove w/ his wife and he will tell you, that is the reason. No other woman would have done what she did.

He could have turned out to be a dog but she took the gamble and won.

We have a family friend who came to this country he had no papers, his wife filed for him and supported them, he got his papers, got a job, started his own business and for their 5th anniversary he presented his wife with an envelope with papers in it. She opened it and it was a copy of a bank statement, apparently he was stashing money in an investment and turned it into what she needed to fulfil her dream fo starting her own business.

My ex had no papers, he came here, she worked filed for him and he left.

What is the difference.

LDRs meant Long Distance Relationships, not Long Distance Relationships which started after two weeks and whatever other crap was written.

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img] that's why it is called LDR

I know more black men who leave black women. Pardon me, but unless you know JBoos story you can't really comment because trust me this wasn't a marriage that happened 2 weeks aftger they just met.

Any marriage can end. Having the man around 24/7 doens't ensure that he will stay.

WHAT THE HELL???????????? SO ARE WE SAYING BLACK PEOPLE NEVER BREAK UP????????????????????????????????????

JBoo, keep your head up and anyone who will say crap as insensitive as this have their head elsewhere but on their shoulders sweetie pie, you have wayyyyy more support on this board than you think you do and the insecure women who are triumphing over this are just jealous.
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yuh sound hysterical and silly, you know that? Whoever said black people don't break up? don't make ridiculous statements then act as if I said it. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]
and why would anyone be jealous of a woman who got used? unlike you, dispensing ridiculous advice that she should cut the father out of his child's life(do you even think before you type?)I'm actually being honest and practical here. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img] </div></div>

BOAL you know what is hysterical, the women here who are so bitter and so broken they can't find a man who ridicule other women because for once, they may have actually had sex. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif[/img]

and where did I say to cut the child off from the father. I suggested she divorce him quickly because the financial ramifications could be deadly. I mean that is common sense.......... oh darn, my bad, I keep forgetting.............

Girl go ahead, JBoo, do your thing.

Yes You all are jealous of her because as bad as her situation is you all have it worse............. ha ha hah ha ha ha ha

it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.............

woieeeeeeeeeeee mi dyin trial.

Get over it and tap watch di ooman an guh see if yuh can spruce up fi unu. It may mek a diffrance </div></div>

[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] Lord, what are you sniffing. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

**niceniss** · 03-24-2007, 02:53 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> It is nothing wrong with helping ones mate, if it wasn't done as a good deed then that's on her. Why bring it up and say I did this and I did that? Nobody held a gun up to her head and forced her to do anything. No one here is jealous I don't think, life isn't sugar coated Willy Wonka Vill. We all make choices in life, we are accountable and that's that blaming others just doesn't cut it. </div></div>YUH NOH! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

**Shine_Eye_Girl** · 03-24-2007, 02:54 PM

Re: How do I go on??

Lucifa...guh bak weh yu belang nuh man.......... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70384-praying.gif[/img]

**MarieK** · 03-24-2007, 02:54 PM

Re: How do I go on??

BOAL [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img] Boopie do you hear the echo?????????????

geeee.

Sniffing, nothing sweetie, mi too ambitious fi duh drugs, I babysat when I was 12 though.

**niceniss** · 03-24-2007, 02:55 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: I_n_I</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Donnika</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

You know, black men(in jamaica) are used to being men , so very used to it. Afterall, that's why they're so saught after, they're manly and masculine, right?
So why emasculate him by paying for everything and doing everything? I bet he liked it at first. Who wouldn't? But after being made to being a "kept man" he sought women who would appreciate his masculinity.
No my dear, often your culture will never get the Jamaican one. White women love black men because they're "real and tough men" yet they quickly set about to soften him and own him then get the shock of their lives when they walk out.
Sorry, I'm just feeling a little honest here. Hope you don't mind... </div></div>

This is such a tactless thing to say. Do you know the full circumstances? Why are you generalizing? There are as much black Jamaican women who mind their men as their are white and it is not a matter of emasculating them, it's just circumstances. </div></div>

Tactless????? Tactless?? yuh call dis tactless??? It is the most stupid generalization I have ever heard. Dumb. Idiotic. Nonsense. those are JUST a few that come to mind </div></div>

oh life! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] miss lady, noh badda get your panties in a bunch over this... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif[/img]

**MarieK** · 03-24-2007, 02:58 PM

Re: How do I go on??

Aw no actually I am sitting here on the deck on my laptop with a little drink on the side watching the boys play so despite what u think knickers in a twist or panties in a bunch, that's not what's happening here.

It is possible to state exactly what's on one's mind without getting militant you know, it's called self control and rationale try it.

Listen, I realise that having a life is an asset many lack on here but many of us are not centered on this board, I have time because the boys are here and hubby is out getting stuff and preparing for our guests tomorrow [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif[/img]

**Boopie2** · 03-24-2007, 02:58 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> It is nothing wrong with helping ones mate, if it wasn't done as a good deed then that's on her. Why bring it up and say I did this and I did that? Nobody held a gun up to her head and forced her to do anything. No one here is jealous I don't think, life isn't sugar coated Willy Wonka Vill. We all make choices in life, we are accountable and that's that blaming others just doesn't cut it. </div></div>

Stop, you are making it worse </div></div>

No not really worst is coming on here with croc tears blubbering over something she choose to go ahead and do. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img] Suck it up, get on with things, if she's been doing it with the man there why all of a sudden she feels helpless asking how can she go on and blah blah blah? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img] For ages this sort of thing has gone on she isn't the first nor the last to "HAVE TO DEAL".

**MarieK** · 03-24-2007, 02:59 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Boopie2</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> It is nothing wrong with helping ones mate, if it wasn't done as a good deed then that's on her. Why bring it up and say I did this and I did that? Nobody held a gun up to her head and forced her to do anything. No one here is jealous I don't think, life isn't sugar coated Willy Wonka Vill. We all make choices in life, we are accountable and that's that blaming others just doesn't cut it. </div></div>

Stop, you are making it worse </div></div>

No not really worst is coming on here with croc tears blubbering over something she choose to go ahead and do. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img] Suck it up, get on with things, if she's been doing it with the man there why all of a sudden she feels helpless asking how can she go on and blah blah blah? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img] For ages this sort of thing has gone on she isn't the first nor the last to "HAVE TO DEAL". </div></div>

dayum woman are you so unhappy in your life. You are sooooooooo sad [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

therapy works you know. try it

**niceniss** · 03-24-2007, 03:00 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body">jboo my email hasn't changed and if you need aphone number PM me. But in the meantime you didn't leave, you didn't deceive anyone, <span style='font-size: 14pt'>he left and truth be told <span style="color: #000099">your daughter is better off without a sorry excuse for a man like that as a father </span>so don't blame yourself. </span>
Time will heal wounds but it sure will feel a heck of a lot better if you are divorced. Can't you get a divorce by default? </div></div>

don't get your back up over this
if I'm so wrong and you're so right
you may have your mind made up I guess
won't you let me get some sleep,
won't you let me get some sleep,
wont you let me get some sleep tonight

**Boopie2** · 03-24-2007, 03:02 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body">BOAL [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img] Boopie do you hear the echo?????????????

geeee.

Sniffing, nothing sweetie, mi too ambitious fi duh drugs, I babysat when I was 12 though. </div></div>

Good for you, I make a good living and had my own place, car etc since 23 so you stand there. No problems with taking care of myself no biggie. Don't fool yourself I probably make more than Croc tears. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

You seem to forget I'm a teacher as well this brings more money to the table. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

**Shine_Eye_Girl** · 03-24-2007, 03:02 PM

Re: How do I go on??

ouch...... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cold.gif[/img] at this whole thing!!!!!!!!!!!!

**MarieK** · 03-24-2007, 03:03 PM

Re: How do I go on??

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Donnika</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs. MarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body">jboo my email hasn't changed and if you need aphone number PM me. But in the meantime you didn't leave, you didn't deceive anyone, <span style='font-size: 14pt'>he left and truth be told <span style="color: #000099">your daughter is better off without a sorry excuse for a man like that as a father </span>so don't blame yourself. </span>
Time will heal wounds but it sure will feel a heck of a lot better if you are divorced. Can't you get a divorce by default? </div></div>

don't get your back up over this
if I'm so wrong and you're so right
you may have your mind made up I guess
won't you let me get some sleep,
wont you let me get some sleep tonight </div></div>

yuh really need a man, a real man yuh have too much time.

Does she need to grow up in a house with a man with commitment issues.

Many girls have successful relationships with their father AFTER he left.

Guh fine sinting duh

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