How do I go on??

[mella72]

Re: How do I go on??

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just put you and your daughter first Jboo... all the best, moving was a good start.....

[niceniss]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jamaicaboo</div><div class="ubbcode-body">WOW I see alot of things happening here!!
Firstly LDR is a long distance relationship yes, but I did live in Jamaica with him for 2 years then married then had baby so it was not a two week vacation to run and get married.
Secondly I don't care what color you are black, white, yellow, red, we all hurt and feel pain, if you are in a relationship you must respect the other and help out
Thirdly,
The move is over and I feel a sense of releif. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazy.gif[/img]
Yes I made mistakes but taking care of my family was my priority. He worked but his money was his money so I guess I should have picked up on this in the beginning. We did lots together but I think the reality was he had freedom here and had choices here, he could choose a car, he could buy the expensive shoes, he could go clubbing (which was 5 times a day every day) and with all the freedom he forgot about us, and me , and how hard I worked daily, I was a mother, a wife, a fiend, a cook, but hey no sweat off my back, what goes around comes around and he is all amazed that he comes by 2 weeks later to see he daughter only to see we no longer live there saying i am now keeping him from her (his frined called me to ask me if he could come over to drop by my movies which was totally not ture he just wanted to know where I live to report back to it)umm okay where was he for the months of january and febraury when she cried for her daddy daily. When she was in the hospital for 2 days last month with a viral infection???who knows! But he knew where we lived so he had the control or so he thought.
His work all of a sudden calls me today saying they need to update his address, bull**it, he sees I am moving on but has no control anymore as he has no idea what I am doing or where I am living, you see as I sat in my new house lastnight I was so happy I cried because now instead of being abused and putting up with it daily, both physically, mentally and verbally, this was MY house these are MY things, I moved MYSELF I cooked MY dinner for me and babyboo, this is now MY game and he no longer likes the rules oh well because this is MY life and no man will ever break me to the point where I feel hopeless.
JABOO feels great, it is monday, I have a new home and a new life, yesterday as I went around my old place making sure I left nothing behind I said aloud, good bye pain, suffering, abuse and lies and I locked the door behind me and smiled the whole way back to my new place............GOD I am on the right path now come with me and take my hand............I feel strength and I CAN DO THIS!!!! </div></div>

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What's the reason that despite all the things you spoke of that he did(and didn't do) you remained?
You lived with him two years prior to marrying him and he showed no signs of what was to come?
the baby's your child, but she's his too so despite your feelings toward him, try not to do a disservice to her...

[chitowngirl]

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oh woe are the ones who experience the 'give it all you've got (and then some)' LOVE...for you're bound to grieve just as deeply... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crybaby.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crybaby.gif[/img] (((Jaboo&daughter)))

KEEP ON KEEPIN' ON...one day you'll not be saddled with all the emotion, hurt, and anger... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

[MarieK]

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Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

Nothing in life should be regretted, but rather learned from.

[Redj]

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hello JBoo :

Sorry to hear of your recent upset, but onwards and upwards, right.
You must still be in Mo Bay? Are you coming home? Having family around will help.
You have started on a roller coaster ride, but after each high and low, you will get stronger.
It just takes time, the sisterhood is strong, always remember that.
you are a soldier is Jah army now, just keep marching....

Do keep in touch, ok.
All the best to you, and little boo.

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[wandaweberg]

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Jamaica Boo and Baby Boo
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[preciouscottoncandy]

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First let me say, I am sorry that you are going through this I have never been married but I have two children with someone who did a similar thing to me. All I can say is that you have to trust and believe that God is God all by himself and he will make a way for you. Sometimes we as people humans want things that God does not see fit for us, so I say that to say this no matter how hard things may seem there will be a brighter day, trust God!he can do anything but you have to totally trust him, let God lead you, God will take care of you,trust me I had to trust God I walk with him everyday it was God himself that brought me through it I had to totally trust God and that's when everything changed!GOD is GOOD ALL THE TIME!God Bless you, hang in there God has all the power. Don't worry about that guy let him go only a cold hearted person could do something like that, it's nothing that you have done it's him trying to find himself and obviously he is very lost! he is the one that will loose out in the long run he left you and his child, he will see that the grass is not so green on the other side. Whatever you do don't turn back it will just get worse keep your head up let go and let God!