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Re: ILP Have a DearK delimma...sigh....
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsOchigal</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: HIMdaughta</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Her finances - Using her child's SS# to open credit accounts. <span style="color: #3333FF"> Do you now how many 3 y/olds have a phone/light bill? poor desperate parents do this all the time, not saying it's right, but does that mean she doesnt hug her child at nights, talk to her, care about how well she does in school etc? </span>
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It doesn't matter if everyone mother in town did it, it's still wrong. I have a friend who is in a very bad financial situation with two children and times are very very hard for her. However she values her children's future too much to even think about doing such a thing to them.
And there is definitely no jusification there when monies are being spent to buy gift for another man. ALL money should go to the children and their well being. Until the family is well off enough. </span> </div></div>
HIMd,
I was about to say the same thing. T may love her daughter...but she is NOT putting her daughter first. She used her money to buy a 17 year old BOY jewelry and expensive gifts all the while not paying for the basic necessities of life such as clothes and school supplies for her daughter, phone and light for her house and RENT for a roof over their head. If not for ILP...they WOULD be homeless...but her boytoy would have a nice gold chain round him neck! You dont put your child this low on the priority list in your life and then say you LOVE them...no...uh uh...it dont work that way.
T can go have nasty sex every night of the week with a different man as long as its behind closed doors and her daughter doesnt know about it...but DONT TAKE FOOD OUTA HER MOUTH to pay for that sex...a woman like this doesnt deserve to be a mom! Being a mom is a blessing! </div></div>
But from what we've heard, BG's been taken care of! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img] ILP makes sure to buy her school supplies, clothes etc before school starts each year. I cant say who deserves motherhood- I haven't heard verbal or physical abuse mentioned here yet....
Re the credit situation, obviously none of you have been poor with limited resources. Some people can call on their parents to bail them out, buy a car in mom's name, (or even better have them buy you a car), or put the phone on mom's name after some mistakes in college. But if you dont have that, then you might hustle to the next resource- son/daughter. Now the intention is never to hurt the child's credit, in fact it might even help if the payments are consistently made etc
But to be frank, I dont think this is primary thought either way... the parent just needs to do something to get phone/light/cable on to make life more comfortable for the family.
Sounds like you'd all be opposed to a child working and then having to share the money- use it to contribute to household needs?
I feel I may ahve derailed ILP's thread, so many other issues that could be further explored. Anybody want to take a shot at starting a new thread?
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsOchigal</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: HIMdaughta</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dear K</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
Her finances - Using her child's SS# to open credit accounts. <span style="color: #3333FF"> Do you now how many 3 y/olds have a phone/light bill? poor desperate parents do this all the time, not saying it's right, but does that mean she doesnt hug her child at nights, talk to her, care about how well she does in school etc? </span>
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<span style="color: #6600CC">
It doesn't matter if everyone mother in town did it, it's still wrong. I have a friend who is in a very bad financial situation with two children and times are very very hard for her. However she values her children's future too much to even think about doing such a thing to them.
And there is definitely no jusification there when monies are being spent to buy gift for another man. ALL money should go to the children and their well being. Until the family is well off enough. </span> </div></div>
HIMd,
I was about to say the same thing. T may love her daughter...but she is NOT putting her daughter first. She used her money to buy a 17 year old BOY jewelry and expensive gifts all the while not paying for the basic necessities of life such as clothes and school supplies for her daughter, phone and light for her house and RENT for a roof over their head. If not for ILP...they WOULD be homeless...but her boytoy would have a nice gold chain round him neck! You dont put your child this low on the priority list in your life and then say you LOVE them...no...uh uh...it dont work that way.
T can go have nasty sex every night of the week with a different man as long as its behind closed doors and her daughter doesnt know about it...but DONT TAKE FOOD OUTA HER MOUTH to pay for that sex...a woman like this doesnt deserve to be a mom! Being a mom is a blessing! </div></div>
But from what we've heard, BG's been taken care of! [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img] ILP makes sure to buy her school supplies, clothes etc before school starts each year. I cant say who deserves motherhood- I haven't heard verbal or physical abuse mentioned here yet....
Re the credit situation, obviously none of you have been poor with limited resources. Some people can call on their parents to bail them out, buy a car in mom's name, (or even better have them buy you a car), or put the phone on mom's name after some mistakes in college. But if you dont have that, then you might hustle to the next resource- son/daughter. Now the intention is never to hurt the child's credit, in fact it might even help if the payments are consistently made etc
But to be frank, I dont think this is primary thought either way... the parent just needs to do something to get phone/light/cable on to make life more comfortable for the family.
Sounds like you'd all be opposed to a child working and then having to share the money- use it to contribute to household needs?
I feel I may ahve derailed ILP's thread, so many other issues that could be further explored. Anybody want to take a shot at starting a new thread?
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