Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

[swedishrasta]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

((((TLC)))
Move on...4 years of being together...and still not on the same page. Time to move on and find someone that wants the same things in a relationship as you....(if someone doesn't know after 4 years what the relationship is or where it might be going or not going....too long to wait....and wait for what exactly...if he's not ready....then he's not ready).

The above statement is my opinion only...

Good luck...stay strong....u deserve the best.

[RichD]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

well it look like sey him really nuh ready.....dat age kinda youn still (aldoah dat was hoe old i was when i got married)

career/job wise is he stable or just finding his direction?

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

Thats exactly the way I feel at this point.......

[swedishrasta]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

(((TLC))))
Look into your heart....search for what YOU want in a relationship...in a future relationship... in a partner... and how much time and effort are you willing to put into something.

I know it's hard to make the decisions especially when the heart is involved...but life is too short to "wait" for what you want.

not sure if that made any sense...:yikes:

[swedishrasta]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

(((TLC))))
Look into your heart....search for what YOU want in a relationship...in a future relationship... in a partner... and how much time and effort are you willing to put into something.

I know it's hard to make the decisions especially when the heart is involved...but life is too short to "wait" for what you want.

not sure if that made any sense...:yikes:

[Regina75]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

I must agree with Swedish. I ended a 10 year relationship/marriage because I was fed up, among other things. Life is way to short. Determine what's important to you in your relationship and proceed accordingly.

[Bandana]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

((((TLC))))

After 4 years the man not ready, he may NEVER be ready... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/frown.gif[/img]

And staying out till all hours of the night [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img]

In my experience trying to "work it out" after a break up never works...

It's time to move on and find happiness.

What do you feel though?
You still in love with him?

Sometimes we say we want to move on, but our heart is not ready... which makes it hard to get very far...


[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img] TLC

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

You know B, I don't think I am in love with him like that anymore. I think its because I do not want to be alone or feel like i've wasted 4 years of my life for nothing.

Everytime I think we get a step closer to making it work, he reminds me why we are in this trouble to begin with. I have been way too patient and I really don't have anymore to give at this point.......

I still love him, but the love is not like it used to be...for me at least

[Bandana]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

Well then you must move on girl...

Being alone after a relationship like that can be so liberating...


plenty of Brukutus out deh [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/laugh.gif[/img] (don't know if I spelled that right)

[Boopie2]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

Sorry to hear this TLC, maybe I'm different because I never really had that deep desire to get married. In my whole family you can probably count on one hand the married folks. My husband is younger and we dated for 5 years and then we finally got married. There was a point where I got antsy and started seeing this other guy cause I thought he was just playing. We broke up for a couple months and then got back together and got married.

I don't know what to tell you, men are funny you can't push them and he's not going to do it until he gets ready. If a man really loves you he'll do almost anything for you nothing will stop him.

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

its not that I have the desire to get married..but why not?

I don't want to continue to play house like this.....we doing everything like a married couple, so why not make it offical.

[Boopie2]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: TLC_28</div><div class="ubbcode-body">its not that I have the desire to get married..but why not?

I don't want to continue to play house like this.....we doing everything like a married couple, so why not make it offical. </div></div>

hmmmmm I don't know, we never lived together. I only lived with my first boyfriend that lasted all of 4 months. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img] It wasn't a good idea, when not living together you don't have to know what time he came home. But when together oh boy time bomb starts ticking. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad2.gif[/img]

[kingy]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

you cyaa waa pressure de yute into what YOU want. How would you feel if he was pushing you into the"young bwoy life"? And what makes you think what you want is more important than what he want?

[Shine_Eye_Girl]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

Kingy I am not pressuring him into anything.

We are just not on the same page in life.....thats all!!!

A relationship can not work on this level....

[kingy]

Re: Cyan Badda...Juss Fed Up

ok. thats a different story..although i think 2 years is nothing. I dontk now how long unu live together but if unu were just dating for 2 years..then unu start live together....thats a whole new thing unu affi learn. Then after fight and arguing about the things unu do and dont like while living together...unu start try work pon it the forth year. dont put a time frame pon tings.

see unu could get married right now and 4 years down the line unu leff each other. It would technically be that unu waste 8 years of unu life.

I used to look pon tings dat way. what i did was start thinking about what i need to do to make sure my son dont struggle de way i am and tink about ways to better MYSELF.