Deal or no Deal?

[CRose]

Disappearing act or a promising future...?

Hello, Can I have your opinions?

A friend of mine has been dating a guy for two years. During the first year of courtship, the guy disappeared for a whole year. He just cut off all communication without any explanation. My friend tried to reach out to him to find out what was going on, but received no feedback. They worked in close proximity to each other. So she sought God for direction on this. (She is a self proclaimed christian). Based on her 'confirmation from god' and another family member (aunt), she was advised not to give up on the relationship and to 'wait until her change come', because god ordained that guy to her. Surprisingly, the guy came around and then rekindled the relationship, and they went as far as both sides introducing each other to their family. There was talk about marriage but there was no set wedding date. In the midst of things going well, he did another disappearing act. It is almost four months now. And she still feels that god is ordering her steps to wait on him. Now hear the flip side of this: While she is waiting on him, a promising young man desires to court her, but she feels that this is a 'plot from the enemy' like hte David and Bathsheba story in the Bible. In my opinion I think she should forget about the first guy and pursue the possibility of this new relationship. What is your opinion?

[kia027]

Re: Deal or no Deal?

from what I see.. she only had a 4 month relationship.

he met her... disappeared for a year

came back stayed around for 4 months and disappeared again...

btw is he christian also?

tell ar god seh de man a tun way from him (god that is) and god send a next man fi ar [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bannana_purple.gif[/img]

[Dr.Dudd]

Re: Deal or no Deal?

Then you mean attemprting to gossip about your firends is so strong that you had to post it as your first post here?
Do you have Any juicy gossip about Jamaica??

[Wahalla]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CRose</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Disappearing act or a promising future...?

Hello, Can I have your opinions?

A friend of mine has been dating a guy for two years. During the first year of courtship, the guy disappeared for a whole year. He just cut off all communication without any explanation. My friend tried to reach out to him to find out what was going on, but received no feedback. They worked in close proximity to each other. So she sought God for direction on this. (She is a self proclaimed christian). Based on her 'confirmation from god' and another family member (aunt), she was advised not to give up on the relationship and to 'wait until her change come', because god ordained that guy to her. Surprisingly, the guy came around and then rekindled the relationship, and they went as far as both sides introducing each other to their family. There was talk about marriage but there was no set wedding date. In the midst of things going well, he did another disappearing act. It is almost four months now. And she still feels that god is ordering her steps to wait on him. Now hear the flip side of this: While she is waiting on him, a promising young man desires to court her, but she feels that this is a 'plot from the enemy' like hte David and Bathsheba story in the Bible. In my opinion I think she should forget about the first guy and pursue the possibility of this new relationship. What is your opinion? </div></div>
Tell your friend to have sex with the man... Including giving or oral pleasuer.. Make the man wear a condom for penetrative sex.. By the way are you "your friend"????

[CeaBee]

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well all the heathens gwine tell u friend seh she what she doing doan mek nuh sense.

would be interesting to hear what the christian pov is on this.

[niceniss]

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I thought this was about the game show. although-- why would it be in this forum [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70402-thinking.gif[/img]

anyways, leave your friend to do what she wants. eventually when the guy marries another woman with children and moves to another state/province/country she might try someone else-- hopefully she'll still be fertile... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif[/img]

[Compry]

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Welcome to the Jamaicans.com CRose.

If your friend is happy with the way her life is, then leave her alone.

My instinct tells me that this is another thread about how horrible Jamaican men are. Pretty soon it will come out that he's leaving to go back to Jamaica where he has 15 or so baby mothers and you will want to know why Jamaican men are this and that.

Mind you, I could be wrong. I've been wrong on many many many occasions.

[Compry]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: coolbeans</div><div class="ubbcode-body">well all the heathens gwine tell u friend seh she what she doing doan mek nuh sense.

would be interesting to hear what the christian pov is on this.
</div></div>

Christians have sense enno Cools.

[Nylah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Compry</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: coolbeans</div><div class="ubbcode-body">well all the heathens gwine tell u friend seh she what she doing doan mek nuh sense.

would be interesting to hear what the christian pov is on this.
</div></div>

Christians have sense enno Cools. </div></div>


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maybe that's why no Christians have responded cause this has got nothing to do with Jesus speaking to her.

CRose - leave your friend to live her life. Sometimes God will scream at us to pay attention to the good things he puts in our path but we are too stubborn to see it.

[Compry]

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Howdy Nylah [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

Look how much time we see these innocent looking threads pop up from a newbie only for it to turn into a Jamaican man bashing thread. Hopefully this one is different.

[Nylah]

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Afternoon Miss Compry [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70459-hugs.gif[/img]

That's what I was thinking too and hoping that I was wrong for a change [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif[/img]

Time will tell though.

This girl is making bad decisions that she will regret later and will blame it on God/Jamaican men when the truth comes to pass.......

[CRose]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">from what I see.. she only had a 4 month relationship.

he met her... disappeared for a year

came back stayed around for 4 months and disappeared again...

btw is he christian also?

tell ar god seh de man a tun way from him (god that is) and god send a next man fi ar [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bannana_purple.gif[/img] </div></div>

He is a christian but not of the same denomination. Another strange factor about the relationship is that, they work across the street from each other... I believe that this is not of God also but how can you convince someone who firmly believe that God has ordain this man for her?

[Nylah]

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the sad thing CRose is that you cant.........

just pray for her to see what is right in front of her

[CRose]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dr.Dudd</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Then you mean attemprting to gossip about your firends is so strong that you had to post it as your first post here?
Do you have Any juicy gossip about Jamaica?? </div></div>


This is not gossip... By the way, do you know who this person is? My thing is that, I needed a different interpretation since I was getting no where with her with reasoning.... Sorry to disappoint you... no juicy gossip about Jamaica. However, I'm open to hear your juicy gossip about Jamaica.LOL

[CRose]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wahalla</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CRose</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Disappearing act or a promising future...?

Hello, Can I have your opinions?

A friend of mine has been dating a guy for two years. During the first year of courtship, the guy disappeared for a whole year. He just cut off all communication without any explanation. My friend tried to reach out to him to find out what was going on, but received no feedback. They worked in close proximity to each other. So she sought God for direction on this. (She is a self proclaimed christian). Based on her 'confirmation from god' and another family member (aunt), she was advised not to give up on the relationship and to 'wait until her change come', because god ordained that guy to her. Surprisingly, the guy came around and then rekindled the relationship, and they went as far as both sides introducing each other to their family. There was talk about marriage but there was no set wedding date. In the midst of things going well, he did another disappearing act. It is almost four months now. And she still feels that god is ordering her steps to wait on him. Now hear the flip side of this: While she is waiting on him, a promising young man desires to court her, but she feels that this is a 'plot from the enemy' like hte David and Bathsheba story in the Bible. In my opinion I think she should forget about the first guy and pursue the possibility of this new relationship. What is your opinion? </div></div>
Tell your friend to have sex with the man... Including giving or oral pleasuer.. Make the man wear a condom for penetrative sex.. By the way are you "your friend"???? </div></div>

Sex is not always the answer to situation like this but I will agree with you that sex can enhance a relationship. By the way, you have hit an important point because she is still a virgin.... I don't have nothing to hide about myself and if this was me, I would be direct with my feelings...