Friends who tell yu to leave your spouse

[Tropicana]

One of my close friends got married a few years ago and actually, from the time he started to date the woman he eventually married regularly I told him that I didn't want to hear about any of the inevitable issues or differences between them. My advice was to work it out with his girlfriend (then wife) and if they couldn't resolve something, seek private counselling.

The first time they had a problem and he tried to talk about it, I stopped him immediately.

[missus_vegas]

Well I can remember when dolly house did start fe mash up an older really roots cousin came over and I told her what was going on she was . Her daughter and I had to hold her back because she was ready fe go in the room where my husband was and . Her advice was "Run im, you can do bettah dan dat. Bettah man dan dat out deh."

Anyway, dolly house did mash up and years later I told my Mom about it. She said "Really? If bettah man out deh dan dat, den how come she noh ave none." (She has several children each with a different father and she has never been married.)

Fast forward many years....yes there are men I have seen who seem much bettah but dat don't mean they are going to be into me.

I don't regret getting divorced but my advice to married women is "The pickings are mighty slim out there. Many men tend to want to hook up with bimbos. So if you are married and he isn't beating or messing around on you or just plain bone idle....do everything in your power to make it work."

dis a di fuss sinting mi ever see u chat weh almost mek sense

[Tropicana]

You tan deh.....mi ave NUFF sense.

[Suesumba]

I am here doing counsellign sessions and the women are complaining that their female friends are doing more harm than good by telling them to leave dem husband when they come to them with a likkle problem here or there. Like really, why not offer your hand of friendship and say yu gonna be there in time of need. Naw seh yu cant tell the truth, but I do not think it is right to tell someone to leave dem husbands.

#causing more harm than good.

other than in pressing circumstances, like abuse, etc. if the friend isn't married i'd be suspicious.

[FLUFFY]

other than in pressing circumstances, like abuse, etc. if the friend isn't married i'd be suspicious.

And that is what I am wondering...very suspicious.

When you and husband mek up... friend still bex like wha....

[Tropicana]

Sometimes I have heard of "friends" who encourage a woman to leave their husband, making a move on the man once the couple has split up.

[FrenchTickla]

i'm single and I've encourage a married friend fi leave. mi did discuss it on yah. it was abusive and him was pissing away di money gambling when dem had pickney fi feed.

on di odda hand, although mi single shacked up or almost married friends love tell mi dem problems. I think tropi have it right. mi shud tell dem fi keep it to demself . it harsh mi mellow fi keep hearing how him cheating and treating u bad. but yet although you have you owna money and car and can live pon you own, *you* choose not to. fear of being alone is not something I suffer from suh mi a guh tell u if u complain a million times - either u work it out or you guh live pon your own.

latest one was last night - I can't even find the space to experience my own emotions because no matter what it is him always feel that his emotions take priority. he is such a child! my response "living together can be so hard. I hope you guys hit your stride". yes, mi stop dish out advice. mi a guh save it fi myself