Income not enough?

[Nunya]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Betta shi go wuk pon a plan an ease har way into it so de man naw go have de burden a de bills dem have already PLUS wah de one dem weh dem gwaan get from her going to school.
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She wants to use their savings to pay for school now. All of it.

[MarieK]

Re: Income not enough?

well no that's not a wise move.

[7777]

Re: Income not enough?

Inna way, it could be red eye, if expecially she never want to go back to school until she hear har friend talk. But den again, thats people, they change dem mind and dem outlooks continuously.
The husband has a valid point, even if its narrowed bout his owna outlook.
The husband, may not think that school and educuating ones self is important. He himself, may not be educated, so him noh see the importance...
On the other hand, wifey "may" have been thinking about going back to school, but never voiced it, so when de friend talk, dis just gave her that motivation fe mek a move..
either way, stuff comes up inna life, and marriage,(like unplanned pregnancies) and u haffe be quick on u feet..
If wifey determined, den hubby, just haffe learn fe move with the flow, and go to plan B..
Hopefully, they had a plan B..

[Gen]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body">A couple takes home about $5Gs/mth (give or take a bit cause they're both hourly paid). They have two kids, pays rent, insurance (auto & life) and manages to sock something away in a modest savings account.

Their life is simple but good. At least it was, before the woman in the relationship got to chatting with a schoolfriend who's just come back into her life.

The schoolfriend makes twice what the couple makes. She has no kids but is engaged to be married. Her fiance makes about the same as she. They each have their own house, car, investments, can go away on vacation etc etc.

Now the mother & wife is feeling inadequate. She wants to leave her hourly paid job to go back to school to get her degrees so that she can increase her income. In the meantime, she figures that if they live very frugally, the family could get by on only the husband's income.

Her husband is not impressed. He thinks that she jus red yeye. She's now accused him of being ambitionless. Now there's whole heap a tension an fawt. She's determined to start school come March. He can barely look at her much less talk to her.

What's your take on all this? </div></div>

mi nuh read the whole chread yet. nothing wrong if she waan guh back a school, but gwaan school a night or dweet panline. the man know seh if she quit har job feem money alone nah guh cut it fi keep bills paid. him juss keeping it real. this way she get fi guh school and him get fi keep the financial security (specially wid 2 pickney)

[7777]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Betta shi go wuk pon a plan an ease har way into it so de man naw go have de burden a de bills dem have already PLUS wah de one dem weh dem gwaan get from her going to school.
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She wants to use their savings to pay for school now. All of it. </div></div> dats not a wise move..
Dem seh long time, dat one muss have 6 months savings inna de bank fe emergencies, like loss of jobs...
Now dem a seh, dat with the cost of living so high now, it should be 1 year savings..
If she use all the saving, den wha a go leff..
Dats a foolish move on har part..

[7777]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> mi nuh read the whole chread yet. nothing wrong if she waan guh back a school, but gwaan school a night or dweet panline. the man know seh if she quit har job feem money alone nah guh cut it fi keep bills paid. him juss keeping it real. this way she get fi guh school and him get fi keep the financial security (specially wid 2 pickney</div></div> [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70409-waytogo.gif[/img]

[Gen]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Betta shi go wuk pon a plan an ease har way into it so de man naw go have de burden a de bills dem have already PLUS wah de one dem weh dem gwaan get from her going to school.
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She wants to use their savings to pay for school now. All of it. </div></div>

yuh know har ? next time yuh see har ask har if she a eediat [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

she nuh see seh dem have young pickney and in case of emergency wah dem a guh do ? dats what the savings are for [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad.gif[/img]

tell har guh tek out loan etc and ease har way back inna it [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img]

mi a work fulltime and guh school and mi woulda neva quit mi wuk fi guh school mussie mad.

[7777]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">She wants to use their savings to pay for school now. All of it </div></div> but she quick fe move the family inna de poor house eh..
Me a wonder if some likkle red eye noh inna dis fe troo.. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/704555_dwl.gif[/img]

[Bizzy]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsMarieK</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Damn!! She did happy before shi si de fren?? Mi cyaan fight nuhbaddi fi waan go back a school, but if dem ting deh wasn't in her plan before mi can si why de hubby would be upset.

She coodan tek likkle time fi ease into it dowe. Why she can't work part time while attending school. Or go school part time. How dem gwaan pay fi school? Loans? grants? Out of pocket?? </div></div>

Well nuff tiem u neva kow yuh want sitten till yuh seet ennuh.

U know how happy I was in around 2000 mi tink mi life did set till mi prips wan different side a life an seh no sah a dat mi want.

I think she should go </div></div>

Not a ting nuh wrong wid wanting a better life. But from wah mi read she only want it SINCE shi si all the things her friend have.

maybe she feel a way roun de fren an waan able fi say she been here an there and have dis an dat so she can compete wid har.

dem deh anuh de right reason fi go back a school or fi quit job or fe risk de likkle happiness inna u marriage (or the marriage itself)fah[img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70388-shameonyou.gif[/img]

It might look so simple an wonderful to har, but shi nuh know all weh har fren and/or har fiance might did go troo fi have wah dem have an reach weh dem reach.

dem say de grass greener on the other side, but mi sure de water bill higher too [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/whistle.gif[/img]

[Nunya]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: 7777</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Inna way, it could be red eye, if expecially she never want to go back to school until she hear har friend talk. But den again, thats people, they change dem mind and dem outlooks continuously.
The husband has a valid point, even if its narrowed bout his owna outlook.
The husband, may not think that school and educuating ones self is important. He himself, may not be educated, so him noh see the importance...
On the other hand, wifey "may" have been thinking about going back to school, but never voiced it, so when de friend talk, dis just gave her that motivation fe mek a move..
either way, stuff comes up inna life, and marriage,(like unplanned pregnancies) and u haffe be quick on u feet..
If wifey determined, den hubby, just haffe learn fe move with the flow, and go to plan B..
Hopefully, they had a plan B..
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The husband does value education. He's very concerned with putting aside money for his kids college education.

I think if she pushes ahead, she risks losing her family.

[7777]

Re: Income not enough?

U quit u job fe go a school when u young and live with u parents..
If u have major responsibilites, unless u hubby can carry the weight alone, den she haffe kep the job..
dats just common sense..


The more me read, a de more me know that this chick nay tink..things thru..

[7777]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Nunya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: 7777</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Inna way, it could be red eye, if expecially she never want to go back to school until she hear har friend talk. But den again, thats people, they change dem mind and dem outlooks continuously.
The husband has a valid point, even if its narrowed bout his owna outlook.
The husband, may not think that school and educuating ones self is important. He himself, may not be educated, so him noh see the importance...
On the other hand, wifey "may" have been thinking about going back to school, but never voiced it, so when de friend talk, dis just gave her that motivation fe mek a move..
either way, stuff comes up inna life, and marriage,(like unplanned pregnancies) and u haffe be quick on u feet..
If wifey determined, den hubby, just haffe learn fe move with the flow, and go to plan B..
Hopefully, they had a plan B..
</div></div>

The husband does value education. He's very concerned with putting aside money for his kids college education.

I think if she pushes ahead, she risks losing her family. </div></div> den if he is truely very concerned, he should understand that if she betters herself, that they too, can in turn, better the kids chances of paying for the kids tuition when time fe go college..
by de wife increasing har earning potential..

[Bizzy]

Re: Income not enough?

How old are these people nunya?

[Nunya]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Freaky_Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

yuh know har ? next time yuh see har ask har if she a eediat [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

she nuh see seh dem have young pickney and in case of emergency wah dem a guh do ? dats what the savings are for [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/mad.gif[/img]

tell har guh tek out loan etc and ease har way back inna it [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70400-talktohand.gif[/img]

mi a work fulltime and guh school and mi woulda neva quit mi wuk fi guh school mussie mad. </div></div>

~lol~ Moas time mi jus lissen, caw people want fi vent, not necessarily fi hear whe mi tink... she did ask mi whe mi tink, but before mi couldan say nutn, she went on to say whe she a go do regardless of wha... she sound very determined...

I've been trying to enroll at the local U fi de longest while, but life keeps getting in the way. Last week mi tun 40. Mi decide say mi a go dweet dis year while mi still work an tek care mi boys... They're all for it. Mi finding though that scheduling time is killing me...

She nuh want dweet part-time. She want jus git up a mawning time an gaa school an come back a evling time eer day an such. She say she learn better dat way. Plus it wi tek har less time fi get har degree. Degree eena wha, mi nuh know...

Right now dem no have no debts. De man is very particular bout dat. A one a de reason why dem still a rent insteada own a house. Im say afta im do de maths, it mek more sense fi dem rent an gwan put whe supm fi dem ol age an dem kid's education, dan fi a pay mortgage an lan tax an hydro an wata etc...

She say, if she use de money whe dem have save up fi pay fi har degree, den dem won't haffi worry bout nuh big bill afta she dun. She say de money whe she a go able fi mek afta she get har degree, she wi able fi put back de savings in no time.

[Nunya]

Re: Income not enough?

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi</div><div class="ubbcode-body">How old are these people nunya? </div></div>

Eena dem thirties...