Exclusive: Rihanna & Chris' Secret Wedding

[LusciousJohnson]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Diva_Fancy</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sum_people</div><div class="ubbcode-body">No one on here said he never hit her, what I said was that it wasn't a beat dung, meaning she wasn't some defensless poor ting siddung a tek lick soh </div></div>

dont stawt wid mi

i dont disagree with u either i said i think she did something more than just look in his phone meaning she wasnt being defenseless but maybe provoking in some way not disclosed to the public yet. </div></div>

is not you mi talking to is di ooomen in di cawna </div></div>

yuh nuh si mi seh mi jine dem

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Click to reveal.. <input type="button" class="form-button" value="Show me!" onclick="toggle_spoiler(this, 'Yikes, my eyes!', 'Show me!')" /></div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div style="display: none;">mek mi step outta di cawna and gwaan home...mi nuh wan ramp wid di diabolical one tiddeh eeda </div></div></div>

[diabolical_Tanya]

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wahchoolookin at? dis ain't no show


Nobaddy naw fight in dis post man is all peace love an disharmony

[LusciousJohnson]

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disharmony i love it

[LiteBlonde]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> wahchoolookin at? dis ain't no show


Nobaddy naw fight in dis post man is all peace love an disharmony </div></div>

[diabolical_Tanya]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: DotCom</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Diabolical_Tanya</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> wahchoolookin at? dis ain't no show


Nobaddy naw fight in dis post man is all peace love an disharmony </div></div>

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yu seet? Juss like Chris an RhiRhi

[simmi27]

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I think she got a beat down too..sounds like she tried to defend herself by trying to gouge out his eyes when he bit her on her fingers.

I also think she fought back that is why the beating was that bad, she didn't tell that part though obviously. I think you can throw punches while driving, my godmother use to backhand her sons in the front seat while driving if they said something out of the way.

[Fyah]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: simmi27</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I think she got a beat down too..sounds like she tried to defend herself by trying to gouge out his eyes when he bit her on her fingers.

I also think she fought back that is why the beating was that bad, she didn't tell that part though obviously. I think you can throw punches while driving, my godmother use to backhand her sons in the front seat while driving if they said something out of the way. </div></div>

I can see someone throwing a back-hand but it is physically, emotionally and visually impossible to administer that level of beating while driving...regarding of the type of car.

[evanovitch]

Home Training: How Parenting Impacted the Brown-Rihanna Mess


By: Tonya Pendleton, Special to BlackAmericaWeb.com


Now that Chris Brown has been formally charged with two felonies in the alleged beating of his girlfriend, fellow pop superstar Rihanna, a big question remains. Although both of the figures at the center of this case are almost grown – Brown is 19, Rihanna is 21 – is it possible that their parents could have set the stage for this incident?

Brown, a native of Tappahannock, Va., has admitted to growing up in a household where domestic violence was present. Brown says his stepfather, Donnelle Hawkins, physically abused his mother, Joyce Brown, to the point where he wet the bed in fear (Hawkins denied the abuse, saying he was “not surprised” by abuse allegations and that Brown was a violent and angry child.).

Ironically, Brown talked in detail about his childhood experiences on “The Tyra Banks Show” just last year.

“I know some people in their family go through domestic violence,” he told Banks. “I don’t want to mention the person’s name, but I had somebody that hurt my mom, you know, and me having to deal with that from the age of seven all the way to like, 13, and seeing that and being visually abused by that ... it affected me, especially with women. I treat them differently because I wouldn’t want to put a woman through that same thing someone put my mom through.”

But as any domestic abuse counselor can tell you, abusers often grow up in violent households.

While we don’t know exactly what went on in Brown’s family, domestic violence has a definite impact on parenting overall. A study done by the Family Violence Prevention Fund in San Francisco says that parenting can often be challenging in a household where violence occurs.

“Even when domestic violence does not result in direct physical injury to the child, it can interfere with both the mother's and the father's parenting to such a degree that the children may be neglected or abused,” the report states. “A perpetrator is clearly not providing good parenting when he physically attacks the child's mother.” The abuse Brown witnessed made him timid and frightened as a younger child. The same report states that “adolescents who have grown up in violent homes are at risk for recreating the abusive relationships they have seen.”

While Brown maintains that he didn’t want to do so, apparently he is on his way to continuing the pattern of abuse he witnessed as a child. Brown’s mother has not spoken publicly about the Rihanna incident, even to defend her son, but she was seen at Sean Combs' Miami home where Brown and Rihanna reportedly reconciled. Brown’s biological father, Clinton Brown, a corrections officer in Virginia, told People.com after the alleged beating that his son was “very remorseful. This is unfortunate, this stumble, this situation. Hopefully, he will get past it. We all have our shortcomings. We all trip.”

But should Brown’s father have responded more firmly when hearing about his son’s violent behavior? Although it’s impossible to know the private conversation that may have taken place between father and son, domestic violence experts now believe male involvement is crucial in resolving the issue. Groups like Men Stopping Violence in Atlanta say encouraging men to work with other men to end their violent behaviors will help make domestic violence unacceptable in the long run.

But what of Rihanna’s upbringing? Was there anything there that could have predisposed her to be an abuse victim? While growing up in Barbados, Rihanna witnessed her father’s addiction to crack, marijuana and alcohol.

“I knew that my mom and dad would argue when there was foil paper with an ashtray,” she told an interviewer in 2007. “He would just go into the bathroom all the time. I didn't know what it was. But he knew that to get closer to his kids, he had to cut that out. And he did.” In another 2007 interview, Rihanna told Entertainment Weekly she suffered from excruciating headaches from eight years old on. &quot;I wouldn't cry. I wouldn't get upset. It was just all in [my head].” Rihanna’s parents divorced when she was 14, and the headaches stopped.

Ronald Fenty, Rihanna’s father, acknowledges his past, telling the U.K.’s Sunday Mirror in 2008 that “I was out of control. I would let my wife and my children down time and time again. I was not a good dad or husband.” Today, Rihanna and her father enjoy a good relationship. Fenty was with her when she won her first Grammy for Best Rap/Sung Collaboration for “Umbrella” in 2008. Rihanna’s mother, Monica, hasn’t spoken publicly since the incident.

While you would think that the mothers would be the ones speaking out on behalf of their children, interestingly enough, both parents have been relatively silent on the issue, although Fenty has been the most vocal. He told People.com that he was shocked by the beating, saying of Brown, “You think you know people, but you really don’t.” He also advised his daughter to leave the relationship and “stand up for women all over the world.”

Now that the couple have apparently reconciled and felony charges have been filed against Brown, Fenty told Usmagazine.com that no one, including his ex-wife and his son, has been able to reach Rihanna.

“Somebody has a stranglehold on her. I’m lost,” he said.

Fenty says he last heard from his daughter via text message, and despite the horrific reports of what happened in Brown's rented Lamborghini that fateful night, he’s still not sure what exactly took place. Of all the parents, he’s issued the most unequivocal statement on the alleged attack.

“Chris is a very talented guy,&quot; Fenty said. &quot;I still think he's a little immature for Rihanna. Justice can never be served in this situation. He can't feel the pain she felt. I don't believe in hitting a woman. I hope everything works out better for them. I don't feel happy or sad. He's in the court's hands. Let justice prevail.”

<span style="font-weight: bold">YOU TELL US: Are parents responsible when their children do wrong? </span>

[Gen]

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no i am not disputing that him lick har, just amazed that him couldan do all that while driving cause as shocked as mi would be because the 2 a wi a guh crash inna dat deh cyar dat night when i done wid him

judging from the pictures she suffered some injuries, i am just in awe that he could do all that while driving on a residential street at that

more tooken aback that she was in such shock that she couldnt find the wits fi gi him 2 lick inna him warra warra.




<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Yuri_</div><div class="ubbcode-body">You know Gen, it's true - none of us were there - for sure, we didn't see what happened.

But ... I'll stand over here in my corner by myself - all by my lonesome - yes, I <span style="font-weight: bold">DO</span> believe he gave her the beat down. Maybe it didn't go down just as the officer noted but yes, I think he did it.

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(let the rock throwing commence)</span>


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[julie*mango]

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she had the wits to send a text message during the alleged beatdown

[evanovitch]

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In the minute order released Friday morning summarizing the events of Chris Brown's hearing yesterday, more details appeared regarding Commissioner Kristy Lousteau's in-court reprimand.

&quot;You are not to annoy, harass, molest, threaten or use any force of violence against anyone,&quot; Lousteau told Brown.

Donald Etra, Rihanna's attorney who was present, <span style="font-style: italic">confirmed that his client <span style="font-weight: bold">did not</span> request any type of &quot;non-contact order.&quot;</span>

Still, in the papers released by the Superior Court, Rihanna does get a bit more protection. <span style="font-weight: bold">The document states that &quot;the protected persons may record any prohibited communications made by the restrained person.&quot;</span> <span style="font-style: italic">In other words, Rihanna can document any future possible threats Brown makes in the next three years -- information which can be used against him in court.</span>

[Zeko]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Mrs_Ahmidis</div><div class="ubbcode-body">People kiss and make up every day.

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How can she? her eyes are probably still swollen shut, not to mention her busted lips...

[rufian]

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yea, look pan Hilary Clinton.

[evanovitch]

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u know, Tom Joyner swears he will not play anymore a Chris music...a man cawl him today an seh dat in essence , him a hypocrite...cause why? well, a man did cawl eena di show lass week , saying dat fi him woman beat him up pon a regular an since him no fi lick har bak etc, wat help dem can recommend...dem laff di man to scorn yet dem a beat dem gum ovah Chris....

di comedian an di lady sidekick had to admit dat yes, dem did laff afta di man an dat is wat dem do on di show...mek jokes at time...Tom him try put awn him serious voice but as him no really dat intelligent, him cudden help himself more dan dat...

[missus_vegas]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Twiny</div><div class="ubbcode-body">the more this yah story come the more it sound full of holes ... but then maybe i dont really get it. </div></div>

yuh know

how can he be doing all dat while driving. and why would she call someone and ask dem to call police???? di time seh tek fi do dat it faster to dial 911 herself