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In a bit of a bad mood tonight. Need to vent! Since I left high school it seems finding genuine and<span style="font-style: italic"> nice </span>people is like looking for a four leaf clover! Even within one's own family it's so hard! Any suggestions?
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Re: Why does it seem like most people are no good?
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">In a bit of a bad mood tonight. Need to vent! Since I left high school it seems finding genuine and<span style="font-style: italic"> nice </span>people is like looking for a four leaf clover! Even within one's own family it's so hard! Any suggestions? </div></div>
No matter who you are or what you do, one of the essentials of life is to be surrounded by supportive and loving relatives and friends. The only exception to this rule is the relatively few hermits and sociopaths who shun the camaraderie of others.
Could you imagine what life would be like if you were the only living survivor of the human race? Most of us crave companionship of some sort.
Because we strive for relationships and companionship, what sort of people are we trying to attract? In general, we tend to attract like-minded people who share some or many of our common interests and goals. So the key question now becomes how do we attract good people into our lives? Most of us do not wish to associate with evil or predatory people unless, of course, we have an evil or predatory nature ourselves. But I am assuming that this is definitely not the case and I will confine the following to our search for good people. How can we accomplish this?
Here is a hint. Look in the mirror. What do you see? The reflection looking back at you is the first thing that others see and, like it or not, we really do make so many assumptions based on visual inspection.
I could, at this point, start making comments about grooming and deportment but I want to talk about something equally important yet far less obvious. I want to ask you what sort of "vibes" you give off. You see, appearance only goes so far. Yes, it opens the door for us. But what happens when you invite somebody in? What do they find?
We all like to be treated with dignity and respect. But how do you treat others? Are you consistent or are you one of these unpredictable types who will say hello one day then ignore somebody the next? It will be seen as a major flaw in your personality if you do this. People like consistency. To be joyous and friendly one day then ignorant or dismissive the next is a recipe for turning people away from you.
Are you polite? The general trend as the world becomes more frenetic is for people to exhibit increasing rudeness in their interaction with others. The words "please" and "thank you" are becoming the exception rather than the rule. We are tending to be less tolerant and easier to take offence against others. I heard a certain movie star say in an interview a little while ago: "Hey, I'm a New Yorker - I'm allowed to be rude and arrogant." Really? How sad to think this way. What sort of an example is that setting?
The question I am posing is this: "What package are you offering to others?" Do you deliver what you promise? We all have flaws but those who are successful in life are able to overcome those flaws. Personal development is an ongoing project. If you want to attract the very best people into your life then you have to be the very best person in the lives of others. It is a reciprocal arrangement. Doesn't that just make sense? Who wants to befriend a rude and arrogant jerk?
In Part 2 of "How to Attract Good People Into Your Life" I am going to give you a little exercise to do. It is in several parts and will require a small effort from you but I think you will enjoy it because it is rather interesting. Through this exercise you will learn a lot more about how to attract the right kind of people into your life. Stay tuned...
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Re: Why does it seem like most people are no good?
Thanks Mrs. Diabolical
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any time S#
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MrsDiabolical___</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> any time S# </div></div>
I realize I'm probably just lonely and need to go hang out more. That's the only way to meet more people and widen my chances of meeting people who are atleast fun to be around!Comment
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this is cyclical. how comes u aks di same question dem every year? u eva act on di advice given?
just a wonder caw mi tink it not gwine do u well fi tek dis approach caw people a go feel like dem a waste dem breath if u naw follow di advice.Comment
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Lawd ha mercy….
Could this simply be a sign of intolerance an attempt to want to have people amophised in your own image ? Those who don’t share your values are seen as no good ? Those that disagree with you are no good ? those who’s personality are more powerful tyhan yours
People in general are empathic skills. . they are draw to personalities that mesh with them.. People who are tolerant of their own foibles. Trust is built out of common ground, common interest, mutual need and repesct.. It has to be proffered. You have demonstrated an issue on being able to trust….
On here is a case in point. We have vast disagreements.. Yet I know there is an issue of self censorship when there are disagreements.. I have witnessed the way points are put to me and the way I put points that are contrary to the position of others.. I dotn always agree with MG, RichD, Evan, Britisha, TG, Tanya, Dr Dudd, the list is endless … They have interests and potions that are in direct conflict to me. Yet I would not characterise them as no good…. Our disagreements are tempered over time as each of the mentioned above and I share at least one common interest. When we disagree it leads to conversation. (Occasionally it does cut to the bone of our fundamental beliefs/ opnions.. Couple weeks back MG and I had an issue we were on the diametric opposite and I made a comment that potentially caused her some discomfort.. I never pressed)..Would they want to sit down and drink a beer with me ? Maybe, Maybe not… But based on our disagreement and that their interests I find it hard to lump them as no good… I would expect them to treat me with respect under normal conditions but I would expect them to sell me for a ten cents to save their own…
People in my experience are like me, driven by the exact same selfish motivations. Needing money, sex, satisfaction, material comfort, mental security …Their actions are fed by these needs…. People are indifferent…. No act is simply altruistic. There are always mitigating reasons… Oh yes there are people who are cruel selfish selfcentered or as you put it no good. And a characteristic of these people is that they constantly complain about others having these characteristics..
Could this be a societal trait.. Yanki dom does rever the gunho eagle type personality. And in this Where there is little room for compromise. People with opposing points of view are vilified and descriptive adjectives are evolved into purjorative accusations… Hence no good
But what I know.. You characterised me as ignorant and immature, I probably am…… However given that do you think these no good people think they are no good ???? To miss quote Shakespeare.. “when you cut them, do they not bleed ?Comment
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BOAL
dats why nuff people nuh even baddda answer har when she come wid ie same sittten.
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: FrenchTickla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">this is cyclical. how comes u aks di same question dem every year? u eva act on di advice given?
just a wonder caw mi tink it not gwine do u well fi tek dis approach caw people a go feel like dem a waste dem breath if u naw follow di advice. </div></div>Comment
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">In a bit of a bad mood tonight. Need to vent! Since I left high school it seems finding genuine and<span style="font-style: italic"> nice </span>people is like looking for a four leaf clover! Even within one's own family it's so hard! Any suggestions? </div></div>
Stay away from Ja.com.
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The change have to start with you.<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Serenity82</div><div class="ubbcode-body">In a bit of a bad mood tonight. Need to vent! Since I left high school it seems finding genuine and<span style="font-style: italic"> nice </span>people is like looking for a four leaf clover! Even within one's own family it's so hard! Any suggestions? </div></div>Comment
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: FrenchTickla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">this is cyclical. how comes u aks di same question dem every year? u eva act on di advice given?
just a wonder caw mi tink it not gwine do u well fi tek dis approach caw people a go feel like dem a waste dem breath if u naw follow di advice. </div></div>
BOAL...yuh soon si de "I'm a virgin and need a man so mi can lose it" threads poppin up in DearK.
(((Serenity))) nuhbaddi cyaan say yuh nuh consistent
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<span style="color: #990000"><span style="font-size: 14pt">You too?
Honey, just keep your focus. And DO NOT allow yourself to become a willing participant in other people's dysfunction.
Life is too short and personally, I'm just not interested in people who have no sense of purpose, do not want help and basically are just products of their own "sh*t thinking."
The Law of Attraction is real...and sometimes, that is why people who are negative get what they put out.
Don't feed the animals, baby</span>.
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<span style="font-size: 14pt">I agree with all of this...
Absolutely.</span>
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<span style="color: #993300"><span style="font-size: 14pt">Where can I sign up for your class?</span></span>Comment
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: MJ7</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><span style="color: #990000"><span style="font-size: 14pt">You too?
Honey, just keep your focus. And DO NOT allow yourself to become a willing participant in other people's dysfunction.
Life is too short and personally, I'm just not interested in people who have no sense of purpose, do not want help and basically are just products of their own "sh*t thinking."
The Law of Attraction is real...and sometimes, that is why people who are negative get what they put out.
Don't feed the animals, baby</span>.
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