Polygamy...who benefits

[franksterr]

The men, women, children or society?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4bM_1GXx5CE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u7HKmu3eMEk

http://www.bing.com/videos/watch/video/m...&FORM=LKVR6

[Wahalla]

Re: Polygamy...who benefits

Feminists

[jah_yout]

Re: Polygamy...who benefits

forced monogamy is just as ridiculous as what the west claims of polygamy...

some of the very same lawmakers who have forced their concept of marriage onto the society are practicing polygamy by deceit...a.k.a. 'cheating' on their spouses

[franksterr]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: jah_yout</div><div class="ubbcode-body">forced monogamy is just as ridiculous as what the west claims of polygamy...

some of the very same lawmakers who have forced their concept of marriage onto the society are practicing <span style="font-weight: bold">polygamy by deceit</span>...a.k.a. 'cheating' on their spouses

</div></div>

Good point.

[kia027]

Re: Polyandry...who benefits

just fixed ur title for you

[Tulip]

Re: Polygamy...who benefits

I have no problem with being monogamous If I did then I'd break up. For all the reasons I have broken up, the desire to &quot;see other people&quot; has never been one of them though.

Now, all that being said, I started watch this HBO series last year called Big Love. It is about a traditional Mormon family in Utah where the husband has three wives. Though i was struggling with the notion at first, I had to honestly say I would not mind having someone help around here cooking, cleaning, and washing the clothes. Maybe that means I should look into hiring a maid, but having some sister-wife assistance around really didn't seem like the worst idea ever.

I wouldn't be able to intentionally share someone I was in love with so that brings it back to reality for me. I think that the mate who has the multiple spouses benefits most. Next up would be the spouses. Unless you live in a society where polygamy is accepted then the children fully catch the raw end of the deal. They have to do more lying and cover-ups than a child with same sex parents.

Also, everything is not all about the money but if you can't support yourself without somebody else pitching in then you certainly don't need to be taking on extra spouses. I think that's how men in my grandparent's generation and earlier were able to get away with a side piece more easily because they were supporting multiple households and not in need of someone going half on it..

[franksterr]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Tulip</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I have no problem with being monogamous If I did then I'd break up. For all the reasons I have broken up, the desire to &quot;see other people&quot; has never been one of them though.

Now, all that being said, I started watch this HBO series last year called Big Love. It is about a traditional Mormon family in Utah where the husband has three wives. Though i was struggling with the notion at first, I had to honestly say I would not mind having someone help around here cooking, cleaning, and washing the clothes. Maybe that means I should look into hiring a maid, but having some sister-wife assistance around really didn't seem like the worst idea ever.

<span style="font-weight: bold">I wouldn't be able to intentionally share someone I was in love </span>with so that brings it back to reality for me. I think that the mate who has the multiple spouses benefits most. Next up would be the spouses. Unless you live in a society where polygamy is accepted then the children fully catch the raw end of the deal. They have to do more lying and cover-ups than a child with same sex parents.

Also, everything is not all about the money but if you can't support yourself without somebody else pitching in then you certainly don't need to be taking on extra spouses. I think that's how men in my grandparent's generation and earlier were able to get away with a side piece more easily because they were supporting multiple households and not in need of someone going half on it.. </div></div>

Is this a cultural or religious based feeling, in your opinion?
Why cant you share?
Is there a way you could share &quot;unintentionally&quot;?

[Tulip]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: franksterr</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Is this a cultural or religious based feeling, in your opinion?
Why cant you share?
Is there a way you could share &quot;unintentionally&quot;? </div></div>

I think it's just my way. With the number of people cheating, it's obvious that culture nor religion is influencing their behavior.

If share then it means I don't care in any significant way It's kind of like dating. I have no issues with who else the person is seeing.. Maybe when I get older and wish for some nights off or desire a good amount of space then I could share without problem. I imagine I'd get vex ion my &quot;on&quot; nights. If I don't think enough of a man to want him to myself, then I probably could just do without his company altogether except for frivolous entertainment.

[SandiF]

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The women - they have a sister wives support to grow their children and maintain household.