Stay Home Honey - I got this!

[Wendy]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Kia</div><div class="ubbcode-body">sounds like there was a major communication problem in that marriage.

why did the husband not feel confident enough in his spouse to tell her the income is less and let us all hunker down and cut the spending?


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You know when I watched the story I didnt see a &quot;broken&quot; marriage per se. I just saw a guy with a LOT OF PRIDE. He started this train and when it was crashing head on he wanted desparetly to keep it on track (dishonestly). He fed her this lifestyle and wanted to keep it up. Whether or not she was with him for the money - its hard to say. My only premise is this kind of risk should be taken into consideration given the way the job situation is so fickle in today's society.

[Wendy]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
And as for Mrs Jordon - so what she had a nanny and assistance. That's what most working women do now.. have a nanny aka Daycare right? The fact is she did not RELY on her hsubands millions for her sustainabilty. </div></div>

<span style="font-weight: bold">i think she was smart for doing that as well. besides, with all the infedility, etc. she might end up stranded either emotionally or financially</span>. </div></div>

DING DING!! I see you have got the point Sue

[Gen]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

whoaa whoaaaaaaaaaa there horsey.

NOT feeling the term &quot;kept wife&quot; either. that sound like she is an escort, and if he married her then she ain't escorting nobaddy.

she is actually &quot;working&quot; if she is taking care of children and the household.


anyway, different strokes for different folks

[Gen]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

if the ooman has no children etc, and still want stay home a day time more power to her, just hope she put likkle money inna har bank account fi when tings get hectic

[Seveen]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SueSumba</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
And as for Mrs Jordon - so what she had a nanny and assistance. That's what most working women do now.. have a nanny aka Daycare right? The fact is she did not RELY on her hsubands millions for her sustainabilty. </div></div>

i think she was smart for doing that as well. besides, with all the infedility, etc. she might end up stranded either emotionally or financially. </div></div>

Mrs. Jordan's business was built on his money (she didn't work before that and couldn't have gotten financing without him) and in addition - she got a pretty hefty settlement from him for the divorce

[Wendy]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">if the ooman has no children etc, and still want stay home a day time more power to her, just hope she put likkle money inna har bank account fi when tings get hectic </div></div>

You are assuming she gets any money at all and assuming she gets to have her own &quot;account&quot;

I am playing devil's advocate here...

[Nunya]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">whoaa whoaaaaaaaaaa there horsey.

NOT feeling the term &quot;kept wife&quot; either. that sound like she is an escort, and if he married her then she ain't escorting nobaddy.

she is actually &quot;working&quot; if she is taking care of children and the household.


anyway, different strokes for different folks
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Yeah, I was gwine say alla dat except de dankey pawt... but mi jus use backspace...

[Seveen]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">if the ooman has no children etc, and still want stay home a day time more power to her, just hope she put likkle money inna har bank account fi when tings get hectic </div></div>

i have a friend that hasn't worked in 20 years, she's in shape, up-to-date and not bringing &quot;tension&quot; into the home via her own job

her husband takes her on nice vacations, they just bought a home in vancouver that she re-decorated

and her husband reads to her in bed

are we the women our families need to be &quot;happy&quot; and sustain our relationships or are we running the hamster wheel

[kia027]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">if the ooman has no children etc, and still want stay home a day time more power to her, just hope she put likkle money inna har bank account fi when tings get hectic </div></div>

You are assuming she gets any money at all and assuming she gets to have her own &quot;account&quot;

I am playing devil's advocate here... </div></div>

a woman always has her own account, working or not

[Wendy]

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Seveen the settlement was issued by law... and she wouldn't have to get any settlement if he wasn't screwing around to warrant a divorce in the first place. She worked her tail off while married to him and I will always respect that.

Besides that she has something to fall back on.. that is the point.

[Nunya]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">if the ooman has no children etc, and still want stay home a day time more power to her </div></div>Yeah. Caw there are the intangibles that's usually not considered when we talk about marriages and who's making what

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">just hope she put likkle money inna har bank account fi when tings get hectic </div></div>
absolutely.

[mountaingal]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Seveen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">okay . . . let me get ready for the tomatoes

before women's lib

there were a lot of stay at home wives

<span style="font-weight: bold">my dad's salary made enough money to support a family of 4 with a car and a home </span>- and he had a blue collar factory job

my mom did work but dad always said her income contributed to vacations, ballet lessons and the like

i also remember sitting down at 5:00 - the entire family - to eat dinner together - hell i don't even leave work until 5 these days

then the woman's movement came along - the right for women to work for equal pay

fast forward to 2010:

<span style="font-weight: bold">both parents work to just make it</span>
we spend more time at work - less time with our families
divorce is on the rise
45% of workers are unhappy

we've come a long way baby - but where are we?
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i think the bolded parts are key to the story ur telling, seveen. this is not about women's lib at all, but about the economy.

[Wendy]

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The woman in the story above revealed she had no money. C'mon Kia yuh smarta dan dat. Notice I but account in quotes..what good is an account when dere is nutten in it to help yuh survive

[Gen]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

well if she decide seh big old hawsback smaddy like herself, want to stay home( and she nuh have chick nor child fi look after) and she allow him to pay all the bills himself, hence no money nuh come choo her hands, then she nuh have much sense

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Gen</div><div class="ubbcode-body">if the ooman has no children etc, and still want stay home a day time more power to her, just hope she put likkle money inna har bank account fi when tings get hectic </div></div>

You are assuming she gets any money at all and assuming she gets to have her own &quot;account&quot;

I am playing devil's advocate here... </div></div>

[kia027]

Re: Stay Home Honey - I got this!

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Wendilina</div><div class="ubbcode-body">The woman in the story above revealed she had no money. C'mon Kia yuh smarta dan dat. Notice I but account in quotes..what good is an account when dere is nutten in it to help yuh survive </div></div>

dat is cause she was probably pulling from her account to keep things afloat.