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I’ve been reading some of the thread in this forum (BAD MARRIAGE) and shaking my head in sadness and disgust.
Never fails to amaze me when people write about relationship issues that have such obvious problems and even more obvious solutions. Not saying they’re easy solutions but there are solutions none the less. I guess if you’re outside of a dilemma rather than actually IN it, it’s always much easier and obvious what tact should be taken.
Sometimes I’ll come across an advice column where people ask such ridiculous questions:
*Dear Abbey – we’ve been dating 4 years and I haven’t been to his home or met any of his friends or family – is there something odd going on here?
*Dear Abbey – my boyfriend of 1 year wont give me his home or office phone numbers, only his beeper# - do you think he’s trying to hide something?
*Dear Abbey – my boyfriend of 4 months pushed me down the stairs last week (it was an accident) and shoved me (not too hard tho) against a wall. He says it because he loves me – do you think this is true?
So on a somewhat different note, it’s surprising to me that I’m about to share this story and ask your opinion. But like I said, maybe I’m in the middle of the situation and can’t see clearly ...
And you ladies in particular, if you were me, what would you do here?
It starts like this:
I have a good girlfriend whom I’ve known for nearly 2 decades. We’ve been thru a lot together. She married young young, had 2 kids and after about 6 years, the marriage having always been rocky, she and her husband were getting ready to divorce. Before the plans were complete tho, he died. Some years went by and she remarried – to a yahdie here in Babylon who hadn’t been back to Jamaica since he was 8 or 9 years old.
Anyway, time went on and she and her new husband had a baby. So now, there’s 3 kids in the household – plus a 4th one, on and off – more on than off. The husband's 7 yr son from a previous relationship.
(soon come)
Never fails to amaze me when people write about relationship issues that have such obvious problems and even more obvious solutions. Not saying they’re easy solutions but there are solutions none the less. I guess if you’re outside of a dilemma rather than actually IN it, it’s always much easier and obvious what tact should be taken.
Sometimes I’ll come across an advice column where people ask such ridiculous questions:
*Dear Abbey – we’ve been dating 4 years and I haven’t been to his home or met any of his friends or family – is there something odd going on here?
*Dear Abbey – my boyfriend of 1 year wont give me his home or office phone numbers, only his beeper# - do you think he’s trying to hide something?
*Dear Abbey – my boyfriend of 4 months pushed me down the stairs last week (it was an accident) and shoved me (not too hard tho) against a wall. He says it because he loves me – do you think this is true?
So on a somewhat different note, it’s surprising to me that I’m about to share this story and ask your opinion. But like I said, maybe I’m in the middle of the situation and can’t see clearly ...
And you ladies in particular, if you were me, what would you do here?
It starts like this:
I have a good girlfriend whom I’ve known for nearly 2 decades. We’ve been thru a lot together. She married young young, had 2 kids and after about 6 years, the marriage having always been rocky, she and her husband were getting ready to divorce. Before the plans were complete tho, he died. Some years went by and she remarried – to a yahdie here in Babylon who hadn’t been back to Jamaica since he was 8 or 9 years old.
Anyway, time went on and she and her new husband had a baby. So now, there’s 3 kids in the household – plus a 4th one, on and off – more on than off. The husband's 7 yr son from a previous relationship.
(soon come)
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