I Keep Trying to Deconstruct It

[ILP]

Re: I Keep Trying to Deconstruct It

Camarra answered Milo's questions on May 13

1. If you were taken by your date to a party where you knew no one, how would you respond?
A) stay close to my date, letting him/her introduce me
B) find a spot at the back bar and relax alone, letting him/her work the room
C) strike out on my own, introducing myself and making friends
D) I would ask my partner if I could skip this particular event
E) I would do the 3rd one only AFTER my partner introduced me

2. Which of the following marriage issues do you fear most?
A) fear of growing apart
B) fear of marrying the wrong person
C) fear of becoming "your parents"
D) fear of being hurt

3. What is your opinion of committed long distance relationships?
A) they are manageable
B) they can work for a predetermined period of time
C) they are only feasible for a short period of time
D) they are impossible for any length of time

4. How much ongoing stress do you have in your life?
A) I have almost no stress in my life.
B) I have a small amount of ongoing stress.
C) I have a fairly high level of constant stress.
D) I have a very stressful life.

5. In a marriage how would you feel if the woman made significantly more money than the man?
A) I could not possibly care less which person earns the lion share of the income.
B) As long as both people are working hard and contributing, it would be fine.
C) It would not "bother" me, but there would probably be ego issues to consider.
D) I'm open-minded, but I know this would cause significant problems.

[JM1]

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Gee I wonder why this guy would want to "scale back".

I have a headache already from reading this and I don't even know the woman.

[ILP]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: JM1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Gee I wonder why this guy would want to "scale back".

I have a headache already from reading this and I don't even know the woman. </div></div>

why does she give you a headache? and not the other way around? [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bubble.gif[/img]

[JM1]

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See the phrase "I Keep Trying to Deconstruct It".

Many men flee from the kind of women who overanalyse every little detail of their relationships and expect their partners to respond accordingly. Who needs this.

[ILP]

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Mi hear wah you seh JM1, but mi cyan change di title of di story now [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif[/img]

[tsophra]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: JM1</div><div class="ubbcode-body">See the phrase "I Keep Trying to Deconstruct It".

Many men flee from the kind of women who overanalyse every little detail of their relationships and expect their partners to respond accordingly. Who needs this. </div></div>

yu knoe..dang..

[tsophra]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Home_Again</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi hear wah you seh JM1, but mi cyan change di title of di story now [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif[/img] </div></div>

is not de tikle..is what/how she write...she sounds whiny an annoying

[Nylah]

Re: I Keep Trying to Deconstruct It

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jaded</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Home_Again</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi hear wah you seh JM1, but mi cyan change di title of di story now [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif[/img] </div></div>

is not de tikle..is what/how she write...she sounds whiny an annoying </div></div>

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If I was her man I would flee from her too.

[JM1]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Home_Again</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi hear wah you seh JM1, but mi cyan change di title of di story now [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif[/img] </div></div>

Mi know but the ansa to the lady's dilemma lies therein, naam saying ?

[JM1]

Re: I Keep Trying to Deconstruct It

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Jaded</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Home_Again</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Mi hear wah you seh JM1, but mi cyan change di title of di story now [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif[/img] </div></div>

is not de tikle..is what/how she write...she sounds whiny an annoying </div></div>

People who use terms such as "deconstruct" in reference to their relationships very often are.

[ILP]

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Camarra sent her Must Haves and Can't Stands to Milo on May 14

Review this list carefully and ask yourself honestly: How many of these criteria fit with who I am? There will be ample time for you to ask Camarra for clarification of items and her interpretation. Now's the time to be candid with yourself. If you know that you don't fit with most of her Must Haves and Can't Stands, you should let Camarra know and end communication now.

Must Haves:
Sense of Humor...... I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life.
Spirituality...... I must have someone with a similar deep commitment to spirituality, who shares my beliefs.
Family Life...... I must have a partner who is committed to marriage, home, and family.
Family...... I must have someone who shares my desire to have or adopt children.
Loyal...... I must have someone I can count on to always support me.
Communicator...... I must have someone who is good at talking and listening.
Responsible...... My partner must be financially responsible.
Affectionate...... I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.
Patience...... I must have someone who can handle life's frustrations or momentary setbacks with a patient, steady, demeanor.
Strong Character...... I must have a partner who is honest and strong enough to do the right thing.


Can't Stands:
Anger...... I can't stand someone who can't manage their anger, who yells, or bottles it up inside.
Lying...... I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me.
Materialistic...... I can't stand someone who sees material items as a measure of success.
Cheating...... I can't stand someone who takes advantage of people.
Undependable...... I can't stand someone who fails to come through and is unreliable.
Drugs...... I can't stand someone who uses illegal recreational drugs.
Self-Centered...... I can't stand someone whose main topic of conversation is himself/herself.
Infidelity...... I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.
Intolerance...... While I understand that religious conviction is a positive trait, I can't stand someone who is self-righteous and feels that their particular faith is the only one that matters.
Vanity...... I can't stand someone who is overly interested in their physical appearance.

[ILP]

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Milo sent Camarra his Must Haves and Can't Stands on May 14

Review this list carefully and ask yourself honestly: How many of these criteria fit with who I am? There will be ample time for you to ask Milo for clarification of items and his interpretation. Now's the time to be candid with yourself. If you know that you don't fit with most of his Must Haves and Can't Stands, you should let Milo know and end communication now.

Must Haves:
Intellect...... I must have a partner who is bright and can share my understanding of the world as well as enjoy discussing important issues.
Sense of Humor...... I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life.
Spirituality...... I must have someone with a similar deep commitment to spirituality, who shares my beliefs.
Family Life...... I must have a partner who is committed to marriage, home, and family.
Personal Habits...... I must have a partner who maintains high standards of personal hygiene, orderliness, and other personal habits.
Loyal...... I must have someone I can count on to always support me.
Responsible...... My partner must be financially responsible.
Staying In...... I must have a partner who mainly enjoys staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close friends.
Stepchildren...... I must have someone who will accept my children as their own.
Patience...... I must have someone who can handle life's frustrations or momentary setbacks with a patient, steady, demeanor.

Can't Stands:
Lying...... I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me.
Rude...... I can't stand someone who is belittling, impatient or hateful to people in any situation.
Poor Hygiene...... I can't stand someone who is not clean.
Materialistic...... I can't stand someone who sees material items as a measure of success.
Racist...... I can't stand someone who believes that any particular ethnic group to which they belong is superior to the rest of humanity.
Addictions...... I can't stand someone who currently suffers from addictions.
Drugs...... I can't stand someone who uses illegal recreational drugs.
Depressed...... I can't stand someone who is constantly unhappy about their life.
Infidelity...... I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.
Mean Spirited...... I can't stand someone who has a devious nature and is mean to others.

[turtledude]

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where's the spontineity in this budding relationship? boring. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70394-sleeping.gif[/img]

[CeaBee]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Home_Again</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Milo sent Camarra his Must Haves and Can't Stands on May 14

Review this list carefully and ask yourself honestly: How many of these criteria fit with who I am? There will be ample time for you to ask Milo for clarification of items and his interpretation. Now's the time to be candid with yourself. If you know that you don't fit with most of his Must Haves and Can't Stands, you should let Milo know and end communication now.

Must Haves:
Intellect...... I must have a partner who is bright and can share my understanding of the world as well as enjoy discussing important issues.
Sense of Humor...... I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life.
Spirituality...... I must have someone with a similar deep commitment to spirituality, who shares my beliefs.
Family Life...... I must have a partner who is committed to marriage, home, and family.
Personal Habits...... I must have a partner who maintains high standards of personal hygiene, orderliness, and other personal habits.
Loyal...... I must have someone I can count on to always support me.
Responsible...... My partner must be financially responsible.
Staying In...... I must have a partner who mainly enjoys staying in together and having quiet evenings alone or with close friends.
Stepchildren...... I must have someone who will accept my children as their own.
Patience...... I must have someone who can handle life's frustrations or momentary setbacks with a patient, steady, demeanor.

Can't Stands:
Lying...... I can't stand someone who lies to anyone-especially to me.
Rude...... I can't stand someone who is belittling, impatient or hateful to people in any situation.
Poor Hygiene...... I can't stand someone who is not clean.
Materialistic...... I can't stand someone who sees material items as a measure of success.
Racist...... I can't stand someone who believes that any particular ethnic group to which they belong is superior to the rest of humanity.
Addictions...... I can't stand someone who currently suffers from addictions.
Drugs...... I can't stand someone who uses illegal recreational drugs.
Depressed...... I can't stand someone who is constantly unhappy about their life.
Infidelity...... I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.
Mean Spirited...... I can't stand someone who has a devious nature and is mean to others.
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This sounds like the standard stuff that most people say that they are looking for...

[curiosity]

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Well well today's lifestyle is a matter of success and compactability. if you doesn't have such requirement you're odd. so analyse someone who want to had a partner and headed with such a map of rules!Geez that's bad.I would kindly answer no thanks all the best for a better and prosperous.get a life.lol