women traveling in jamaica

[NYC_Girl]

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Beachlover,

I experienced the same thing. When staying at hotels etc I did not see it so much but when I started to stay in O's yard I saw a great deal.

Now let me say this, I see alot of men where he lives (mainly rasta) who are great and I never see them with another woman but there are a few that every time I go these days I see them with someone else. They will be on the phone with one from another country waiting for another to come and pick them up. In some of these cases they are married and it is pretty obvious that they are married for reasons other then true love.

I have been with my rasta for almost two years and I go very often to see him. Now and I have to say with all the stuff that goes on it can be hard at times but I cant live everyday wondering if he is the same as them , that is not a relationship. What I can do is walk around with open eyes and talk to him about his thoughts on it.

Connie,
I am so sorry you went thru that but props girl for being strong and staying and having a good time.

[beach lover]

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You said it, NYC Girl. Keep your eyes open, that's the best we can do. Reading this thread my eyes continue to open a little wider. Thanks to everyone sharing their stories, painful and sweet! I hope all you find love and happiness.

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[brukbak]

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by brownie2:
Jamaican men are master manipulators who prey on low self esteem and it seems that MOST, by no means all however a very large portion, have only one goal in life and that is to get off the island or to have several people support them while they are on the island! America is supposedly the greatest place on earth, that is until you get here! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] And the reality is that America is no better than any other place to live but those on the outside are taught that this country is the closest you will get to heaven on earth!

I suppose this is factual because you have met and interacted with MOST Jamaican men? How pompous of you to think that MOST Jamaican men are sitting around waiting to be rescued by an American woman. Lets not perpetuate the stereotypes and myths that permeates peoples minds.

[Amanda ATL]

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Artist frmly known as BrukBak:
[qb]

Originally posted by brownie2:
Jamaican men are master manipulators who prey on low self esteem and it seems that MOST, by no means all however a very large portion, have only one goal in life and that is to get off the island or to have several people support them while they are on the island! America is supposedly the greatest place on earth, that is until you get here! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img] And the reality is that America is no better than any other place to live but those on the outside are taught that this country is the closest you will get to heaven on earth!

I suppose this is factual because you have met and interacted with MOST Jamaican men? How pompous of you to think that MOST Jamaican men are sitting around waiting to be rescued by an American woman. Lets not perpetuate the stereotypes and myths that permeates peoples minds.[/qb]

Myths? I don't think we are all imaginery people that have imagined our situations. I have interacted with many jamaican men and unfornately many do want to be rescued. I have been living in Jamaica for almost a year and have learned over and over again that most people here just want to use me... not just men.. the women too. They want to borrow money from me and can't believe when I actually want them to pay me back.
My Jamaican boyfriend tells me over and over again that the only reason a Jamaican man will date a white women is if she has money.... I know this is not "all Jamaican men". I know there must be some good ones out there. I actually meet ONE before. One of the guys I work with seems like a good one. He went to school in the states, is educated and I really think he is faithful to his wife.

I agree with one point you made they aren't waiting to be rescued by an American women... they are waiting to be rescued by any foreign women with money they don't have to be American.

Sorry if my message offends anyone... but I am speaking of my own experience I wish my experience here has been different. I keep hoping that I will find a real friend that doesn't want to use me for something.

[stargirl911]

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Amanda ATL:

Check your PM

[Amanda ATL]

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Originally posted by stargirl911:
[qb]Amanda ATL:

Check your PM[/qb]

I don't see a new PM???

[stargirl911]

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Amanda ATL:

Oops, I am having issues today! Try checking your PM now

[Nanook]

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This thread is getting to be more a thread about Jamaican men than about women travelling in Jamaica, and I am seeing an awful lot of generalizing HERE.

Can we go back to sticking to the topic? Thanks...

[Amanda ATL]

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Well how can women traveling in Jamaica not be about Jamaican men? It's the main thing women traveling in Jamaica have to worry about and be educated on.

[Nanook]

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Amanda, it is not that which is bothering me. It is all of the generalizing about all Jamaican men. You are correct though, they do go hand in hand, as single women travellers do encounter more than a share of "men" experiences.

But "everything isn't everything". Not ALL Jamaica men are thre to take advantage of foreign women, they ALL don't look for a purse ot ALL don't want thier relationships to get off the island, and the thread seems to be going downhill, that is all I am trying to say.

[sunshinechic2002]

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Amanda ATL,
I have to disagree with you on this one. I can't think of a lot of things, but, one thing that women have to think about while on vacation in Ja is THAT DAMNED EXCHANGE RATE! It doesn't bother some people, but, since I count money all day long, all year long, I don't want to have to divide by $41 or $43 or $40 anything for that matter while I'm on vacation. Not to say that it ruined my vacation or stopped me from falling in love with the place and a certain person, that is just the one thing that came to mind.

And not to get back on the topic of Jamaican men, but, I was just thinking, the men right here in this big ugly city where I live want women to take care of them, too! I am at the point now where, if a man speaks to me and I don't hear that sweet syrupy sound like melted honey being poured all over me...then, whatever, I don't want to hear a word they have to say anymore. I have heard enough of "Yo Ma" and "Hey Redbone" for my lifetime. I know that is generalizing in the other direction and I try not to do it, but, that is where I am right now.

Peace [img]/forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

[BoundBrook]

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I have been following this post and have one small request...

It seems that the moderator would like everyone to stick to the thread title a little more. If that does not happen and this thread gets locked down. I would like to request--MODERATOR- please archive this thread.

I have been travelling to Jamaica alone for yrs now and think this thread has some good points to it.

What does everyone think? Is this one for the archives?

[stargirl911]

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please archive! Great thread

[sunshinechic2002]

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please archive, i am recommending this thread to all of my girlfriends!!!!

[Nanook]

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I also think the thread is very informative and a useful tool for those women travelling to Jamaica alone and should be one for the archives...

I really don't see a need to stop it so far, as there are still useful thngs being said.

I'd just like to add that my earlier comments weren't directed to anyone in particular and are mine alone. It has been a very interesting thread and hopefully it will be a guide for solo women travellers that not all things are what they appear to be, BUT, in defense of the good men out there in the world and in Jamaica, not all of them are out to get what they can take. Relationships take lots of time and energy and especially when one is long distance, they take a whole lot longer to develop and either turn into something wonderful or a disaster, I have seen them do both.

Carry on...