women traveling in jamaica

[Guest]

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My man also gave me two shells as a gift just before we said good bye. I thought it was a really big offering for him to do.

Vivien

[Guest]

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Originally posted by vivien:
[qb]I am in need of help I feel !!!!!
I spent a wonderful week in Jamacia at a lovely hotel - the high light - talking to a guy selling shells, he said I had a 'good soul'. I spent as much time as I could with him; only on my last day did he ask me to sleep with me. I said I could not do that, and he asked if he could meet me at the airport, I agreed, but i think we missed one another. He gave me his address, and I have been sending letters to him for the past 3 weeks (I have yet to hear from him). I am so upset, he said things that made me feel 'on top of the world' - now if I beleive all the other notes, it was just a line !!! Is it worth me still writing to him ? I have thought of nothing else since I returned (him I mean).

Vivien[/qb]

People are telling the truth. I've had letters take 3 months to reach Jamaica. 3 weeks is no time at all.

[Marilyn]

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Opps Viv
Maybe the $100.00 was not such a good idea and puts a different slant on things. Do NOT become best friends with the Western Union staff!!!!!! AND DO NOT send any money to Jamaica,no matter if all de shells suddenly disappear from de ocean.

[Sienna]

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Veering away from the shell issue and back to lines that let someone know that you're not interested;

As long as it's not against one's religious beliefs to lie, when bugged by a male individual giving unwanted attention and not taking 'no' for an answer, the woman COULD say:

'No thank you, I have AIDS and don't think it's fair to spread it around....'

I guarantee you'll be given a wide berth after that.....

[Motown]

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Sienna,
You have not said that to anyone...have you? If anyone has...I'm dying to hear what the response was?? (Maybe not a good choice of words.)

Vivien,
Does he have your home phone number? Hang in there, you'll get to the bottom of this eventually. The beach is a lot smaller than it looks. Someone will spot him or give him a message for you if you ask. (Marilyn gave me the idea to send her an email right before she left for her to take down to a friend I had just met on the beach. She printed it out...found the guy by description only...and handed him a letter from me way before I ever could have mailed him one! See who's going down soon...got a picture?)

God, when women band together...we really get things done huh? Poor Negril men are gonna hate this site! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img]

Respect,
S.

[trelawnysmall]

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Originally posted by vivien:
[qb]I shall keep waiting, and live to hear from my dream man.

Thank you for your notes, I shall let you all know if I ever get a letter.

By the way, I have also sent him $100

Vivien[/qb]

Vivien,

may I ask why you sent the $100?
Did he ask for it?
We're you paying for the 2 shells that he gave you?
Did you borrow $100 from him & you were simply repaying a debt?
If that's the case, I would love to know who he is, so I can get a loan too!
Sending money can certainly lead to other things, besides love.
It's a pretty common thing for women to do once they've been swept off their feet.

[Guest]

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I sent the money because I know he needs it, and I could afford to do it. I am sure he IS NOT A PLAYER. My friends here in the UK think I am crazy ! yes I am - in love. Perhaps it simply is all about telling him my life story and someone still cared for me ? Not that I have ever done anything wrong. I would sell up here and move to Mo Bay next week. I don't think he would like it here as it has not stopped raining since I've been back !

Vivien

[queenb]

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Originally posted by vivien:
[qb]I sent the money because I know he needs it, and I could afford to do it. I am sure he IS NOT A PLAYER. My friends here in the UK think I am crazy ! yes I am - in love. Perhaps it simply is all about telling him my life story and someone still cared for me ? Not that I have ever done anything wrong. I would sell up here and move to Mo Bay next week. I don't think he would like it here as it has not stopped raining since I've been back !

Vivien[/qb]

Please take this down to "Dear K". Many of us have stories, some good, many not. You will hear all of them down there.

[Guest]

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Vivien,
I am glad you said no, it is obvious he just wanted your body.

Girl-friend, don't send any more letters... forget about him. I am sure he is on his next VICTIM.

[Ochigal]

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Originally posted by vivien:
[qb]I am sure he IS NOT A PLAYER.
[/qb]

What makes you so sure...doesnt sound like you knew him very long. Not trying to rain on your parade...just want to make sure you realize that there are ALL types out there...if you read this entire thread you will see what I mean. He may or may not be a player...but it is too soon for you to know this...Take time sweets. If it is meant to be...it will happen. Dont rush in with eyes closed and heart open...you risk a broken heart then.

[Tiger Eye]

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Originally posted by Sienna:
[qb]As long as it's not against one's religious beliefs to lie, when bugged by a male individual giving unwanted attention and not taking 'no' for an answer, the woman COULD say:

'No thank you, I have AIDS and don't think it's fair to spread it around....'[/qb]

I dont know, sienna, you live there and know better but i personally wouldnt do this because i do not know the extent of another person's education in AIDS awareness. If it isnt very good, then lack of information on this issue could lead to fear, which may lead to other things. I am not against lying to men to deter unwanted attention, but there are certain things i wont lie about here or in jamaica. In this case, ignorance is not bliss.

just my opinion ~ Respect!

[BoundBrook]

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When I am in Jamaica or anywhere where I am receiving unwanted attention I do one very simple thing. I compleley ignore the person.

While you are laying on the beach these men have a handfull of women they can hit on- you ignoring them is not going to hurt them. They simply move on to the next woman.

It works. I do not say one word to them and pretend I am looking right through them or I don't even look at them in the first place.

Let them do their Pssst!...Princess...mi lady...I just pretend I can't hear them and if I am laying on the beach with someone else I just talk to my friend as if the man is not even there getting my attetnion.

I don't feel guilty about it. I did nothing to signal this man over tome. Nothing to make him think I was interested. I gave him no reason to approach me. It was a chance he was taking in approaching me.

This applies in all areas of my life. Not just Jamaica. Someone trying to cheat off of me during an exam at school, a person I do not particulary like, I just ignore their attempts to get my attention...the examples go on and on.

[Guest]

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The key to life is treat everyone as you yourself would like to be treated ....... Hard sometimes, but you feel so much better. SMILE, AND THE WORLD SMILES BACK . [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] [img]/forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img]

[Lynntt]

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Originally posted by BoundBrook:
[qb]When I am in Jamaica or anywhere where I am receiving unwanted attention I do one very simple thing. I compleley ignore the person.[/qb]

Thank God someone has finally said the obvious!

Why on earth do so many women feel like they are being rude, mean, racist, etc. . . for not speaking to someone they don't want to speak to? I never understood that.

A good way to practice this, BTW, is to wear sunglasses all of the time, and headphones when lounging. Some assume you're hard of hearing, the bolder men may try to attract your attention by tapping you on the arm (which brings a hard SLAP on the hand by me!), but most will simply move on to the next woman. There's always another one around the bend.

[stargirl911]

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Lyntt: The sunglasses and radio are the best! You don't have to appear to see or hear anyone, and it actually works!

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