Stuck in the Middle

[QK13]

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new spin pon di story... [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70456-eyebrows.gif[/img]

Well den Boundie, all mi can say is mek har gwaan den an have a likkle fun & adventure.

Hope it all works out for her. No matter if it's with this man or the next. It got her out of a bad marriage.
Keep close contact if you can. She's really alone down there in Mexico and may just need you more than ever.

Nothing like being totally alone with someone to really get to know them. [img]/forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/70384-praying.gif[/img]

[jammin]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BoundBrook</div><div class="ubbcode-body">My best friend has been having an affair for about 3 months now. She and I went out last night and she asked the boyfriend to join us at the restaurant. This was my first time meeting him. I really didn't want to meet him, I have just been trying to be a good friend to my best friend, as far removed from this affair as possible.

So now my best friend is talking all crazy, about running away to Mexico with this guy. Actually, the whole thing made me sick to my stomach last night. They were sitting across from one another making luvey duvey eyes at each other, winking, holding hands, moaning, and acting like 12 year olds in what they think is &quot;love.&quot; They stroked each others egos talking about they never ever thought about straying from their marriages until they met...

So, after about 45 minutes of being there with the 2 of them, I decided I didn't want to be there anymore. As my best friend walked me to my car my only advice for her was to be careful. Acting like that in public is a sure-fire way for her husband to find out. She says she doesn't care, she has a passion for life and has found someone else with that same passion, and only wants to be happy. She said her husband has to be an idiot to not know something is going on... and she doesn't care. I told her she should ask for a divorce, <span style="font-weight: bold">before</span> he finds out.

I just don't even know what to do. She is serious about running away to Mexico. She is working with a realtor to find property in Mexico and is living in some sort of perpetual high school romance state. This can't end good for her.

To make matters worse, the husband e-mailed me this morning to say he thinks something is going on, and asked if she was really out with me last night. So, now here I am stuck in the middle. I am not responding to his e-mail, or any e-mail, or phone call, or anything from him. I am not even going to tell my best friend that he e-mailed me. I want no part of this. But I am concerned about the choices my best friend is making.

So what would you do to try and protect someone you love very much from making bad decisions?

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God Dammit. Women can be so stupid sometimes when it comes to cheating. 9 out of 10 times, the husbands/boyfriends do find out.

These women are stupid and selfish and should seek God. They think they are doing these things undercover but there is a God above watching our every move and they will all have to give an account of their sins on judgement day.

[Bizzy]

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Yuh did read de rest of the thread?

[jammin]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Bizi</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Yuh did read de rest of the thread? </div></div>

Not yet. Is there more to the story other than her cheating on her husband?

[QK13]

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mmmmm... yes

[FrenchTickla]

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bumping fi a update.

boundie, how u girlfriend doing?

[BoundBrook]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: FrenchTickla</div><div class="ubbcode-body">bumping fi a update.

boundie, how u girlfriend doing? </div></div>

Happy as a lark...deep into the &quot;romantic&quot; stage of love. We are talking about once a week and she seems so happy it is ridiculous. She wants me to come and visit this summer sometime.

The husband I hear isn't doing so well... he hasn't called me yet but I have heard through the grapevine that he is talking to anyone and everyone bawling his eyes out about how cruel she is. However, it seems he is desperate to &quot;get her back.&quot;

[QK13]

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Hope they both find happiness Boundie.
She loved him once, so I'm assuming he has some redeeming qualities. He's probably still shocked that she one-upped him.

[xxdiddiexx]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: a_lil_JAZZ</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Boundie - even though you think you know whats best for her - she is grown and utltimately this is a decision she has to make for herself.
If she is your best friend as you say - then you should support her through whatever decisions she decides to make in life...
Your post comes across as judgemental and beleive me babes - in this life u can never say never...

If my best friend comes to me and says - I am havign an affair and gonna run off to Mexico - I would certianly try to point out the pros and cons to her but ultimately once her mind is made up - my next question would be - what do u need me to do.
she is MY friend - I don;t owe the husband anything and the way I am with my friends is do or die...

so worst case is she move go dung deh an den 2 months later evrythign crashes an mi haffe go dung deh an pack har up an move har back into the US - so what??? she will have learnt something and we can have some wine and dissect it together...

but thats just me. </div></div>

Exactly what I would do and HAVE done